Question for Married Men!
hearingimpared
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Have any of you fellas figured this out?
Why do our wives think that because we are testosterone driven and logical thinkers that we have the effing power to read their minds?:eek:
UGH! How frustrating!!!:mad:
I was thinking about getting a crystal ball to see what is in my wife's head but I realized that upon looking into it, my face and eyes would melt like the **** who opened up the Ark and peered in, in the movie Raiders of the Lost Ark!:D
Any, questions, answers, jokes or criticisms are welcome.:D
Why do our wives think that because we are testosterone driven and logical thinkers that we have the effing power to read their minds?:eek:
UGH! How frustrating!!!:mad:
I was thinking about getting a crystal ball to see what is in my wife's head but I realized that upon looking into it, my face and eyes would melt like the **** who opened up the Ark and peered in, in the movie Raiders of the Lost Ark!:D
Any, questions, answers, jokes or criticisms are welcome.:D
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I feel your pain brother!
my wife flipped out on me yesterday because we are out of milk and eggs. If she would have TOLD me we're out of milk and eggs I would have been more than happy to stop and get it, but OH NO - I'm sapposed to read her mind...wanna go halfsies on a crystal ball?panasonic th-50pz85u
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Yea, crystal ball would have been nice for mine over the past 27 yrs. What has gotten my goat recently is she is altering statements I make. Saying I said one thing, when i know damned well i said another. Usually just a single word or two missing from the sentence. Enough to alter meaning or intent and cause argument.
Pretty sure she just doesn't want to hear anything I have to say. Keep asking her if i have somehow obtained the ability to convey foreign language that i am not aware of.Parasound C1, T3, HCA-3500, HCA-2205A, P/DD1550, Pioneer DV-79avi, Oppo BDP-83, WD Media Server W/HDD,
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Now that you'll have slept over it, lets see. Guys who are married and have girls, to whom they are self professed or otherwise doggies, may have a clue.
Women just think differently. It's about first figuring out how the female mind works, then knowing whats critical to them and in those situations to give in to her way most times. Don't try and reason at these times. You can try later.....hearingimpared wrote: »Have any of you fellas figured this out?
Why do our wives think that because we are testosterone driven and logical thinkers that we have the effing power to read their minds?:eek:
UGH! How frustrating!!!:mad:
I was thinking about getting a crystal ball to see what is in my wife's head but I realized that upon looking into it, my face and eyes would melt like the **** who opened up the Ark and peered in, in the movie Raiders of the Lost Ark!:D
Any, questions, answers, jokes or criticisms are welcome.:Dsuperjunior wrote: »I feel your pain brother!
my wife flipped out on me yesterday because we are out of milk and eggs.
Its critical for her to always have the basic needs in stock. For a guy its no big deal. If I want it and its run out, I'll just go get some. For her its always got to be there and how come after so many years, he still doesn't notice these things. :mad:
A guy goes to the fridge to get a beer, he opens the door looks where he knows the beer is, grabs one, closes the door and walks away. A woman doing the same thing would, open the fridge, first look at the healthy portion of left over roast from last night and wonder if it wasnt done right, then she would check out if there was enough milk and eggs for breakfast the next morning and then she would grab the beer.Yea, crystal ball would have been nice for mine over the past 27 yrs. What has gotten my goat recently is she is altering statements I make. Saying I said one thing, when i know damned well i said another. Usually just a single word or two missing from the sentence. Enough to alter meaning or intent and cause argument.
Pretty sure she just doesn't want to hear anything I have to say. Keep asking her if i have somehow obtained the ability to convey foreign language that i am not aware of.
Been 20 years this side too. The first 10 years I was just clueless. The next 2 I began to realise that I was stupid and the last 8 years were spent turning my thinking around. The fact that I got my girl 8 yrs ago is not just a coincidence.
She processes and therefore remembers what you said, her way. She's right her way even if you're factually correct. Go figure. :rolleyes:Just remember that it's a Man's World only because a woman said so. In other words, you can't win for losing.
You got it. They love to control and tweak their men. Like we love to tweak the 'sound'. The fact that its great is not enough. Instead of being content and just listening to the tunes, we're always thinking of ways to make it better.......... -
IF you ever solve that puzzle let me know.
I"ve been through that and will NOT do it again.
IF solved I'd most likely take the plunge again. I've been dating a great gal that likes all the audio gear I've collected.
Problem is that I've seen the confusing dark side and I still don't understand what I was supposed to have understood. Talk about misdirected communications. Clueless here.
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Why can't they all be like Cfrizz Cathy? The world would be a better place.>
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I always try the simple approach to communication with your women.
If you want to know what's in her mind, ask.
When you were dating is a good place to start this type of communication.
If you didn't understand her answers to your questions then, why would you marry her?
Women like to know they are loved and needed.
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The Vulcan mind meld works good...Polkersince85 wrote: »Why can't they all be like Cfrizz Cathy? The world would be a better place.
I like Cfrizz but it would never work...she's a little country and I'm alot of Rock-n-Roll..:) -
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My wife works on the "easier to catch bees with honey" premise. She pretty much lets me do whatever, but I can sense when I have pushed the envelope a bit. She grew up around all brothers, and a no-nonsense Dad, so she understands men very well. She gets this look of disappointment, and she doesn't have to say anything---her 2 sons know this look very well. She can genuinely make you feel terrible, without a single word...because she does so much for everyone.
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Joe, Feel your PAIN MAN.
I question myself most days now, and state this "We can't live without them, but we can't live with them either!"
I think if they lived on one island, then we man live on another island.... Only visiting for are daily, weekly, monthly, yearly thing you know. They could talk about us over tea or whatever and we could drink beer and whatever.... LIFE WOULD BE GOOD!
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superjunior wrote: »I feel your pain brother!
my wife flipped out on me yesterday because we are out of milk and eggs. If she would have TOLD me we're out of milk and eggs I would have been more than happy to stop and get it, but OH NO - I'm sapposed to read her mind...wanna go halfsies on a crystal ball?
So you can't be observant or do you NEVER go into the fridge to notice that some staples in the fridge were gone?Now that you'll have slept over it, lets see. Guys who are married and have girls, to whom they are self professed or otherwise doggies, may have a clue.
Women just think differently. It's about first figuring out how the female mind works, then knowing whats critical to them and in those situations to give in to her way most times. Don't try and reason at these times. You can try later.....
Its critical for her to always have the basic needs in stock. For a guy its no big deal. If I want it and its run out, I'll just go get some. For her its always got to be there and how come after so many years, he still doesn't notice these things. :mad:
A guy goes to the fridge to get a beer, he opens the door looks where he knows the beer is, grabs one, closes the door and walks away. A woman doing the same thing would, open the fridge, first look at the healthy portion of left over roast from last night and wonder if it wasnt done right, then she would check out if there was enough milk and eggs for breakfast the next morning and then she would grab the beer.
Been 20 years this side too. The first 10 years I was just clueless. The next 2 I began to realise that I was stupid and the last 8 years were spent turning my thinking around. The fact that I got my girl 8 yrs ago is not just a coincidence.
She processes and therefore remembers what you said, her way. She's right her way even if you're factually correct. Go figure. :rolleyes:
You got it. They love to control and tweak their men. Like we love to tweak the 'sound'. The fact that its great is not enough. Instead of being content and just listening to the tunes, we're always thinking of ways to make it better..........
Sounds like you have paid a lot of attention to the women in your life. Congrats on having a long lasting marriage. May you continue for many more years!Polkersince85 wrote: »Why can't they all be like Cfrizz Cathy? The world would be a better place.
Awww. Thanks P85, that's one of the nicest things anyone has ever said to me on here!I always try the simple approach to communication with your women.
If you want to know what's in her mind, ask.
When you were dating is a good place to start this type of communication.
If you didn't understand her answers to your questions then, why would you marry her?
Women like to know they are loved and needed.
Or to quote "The Great One" Jackie Gleason, women want to feel like the big deal. It's up to you to make her feel like the big deal.
And THIS is post that just knocked it out of the park!!!
NONE of us is telepathic, so if you want to know something ASK! And when you get asked, have the courage to ANSWER! If she wants to talk, then you sit down & TALK to her!The Vulcan mind meld works good...
I like Cfrizz but it would never work...she's a little country and I'm alot of Rock-n-Roll..:)
:eek: You obviously haven't been paying attention!:DMy wife works on the "easier to catch bees with honey" premise. She pretty much lets me do whatever, but I can sense when I have pushed the envelope a bit. She grew up around all brothers, and a no-nonsense Dad, so she understands men very well. She gets this look of disappointment, and she doesn't have to say anything---her 2 sons know this look very well. She can genuinely make you feel terrible, without a single word...because she does so much for everyone.
I'm very, very lucky.
Yes Steve, you are very lucky. Congrats on having a stable marriage! Your wife & I have a lot in common.
I was also the only girl in our family. I learned my ideals & what important traits I wanted in a man from observing how my Dad treated my Mom & I & how he raised his 2 sons.
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hearingimpared wrote:Have any of you fellas figured this out?
Why do our wives think that because we are testosterone driven and logical thinkers that we have the effing power to read their minds?:eek:
UGH! How frustrating!!!:mad:
On the flip side...if you happened to be one of those couples that claim :rolleyes: to know each other so well they can compete each other's thoughts (gag)...she would soon tire of that and claim there was no mystery or drama in your relationship.
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I always try the simple approach to communication with your women.
If you want to know what's in her mind, ask.
When you were dating is a good place to start this type of communication.
If you didn't understand her answers to your questions then, why would you marry her?
Women like to know they are loved and needed.
Or to quote "The Great One" Jackie Gleason, women want to feel like the big deal. It's up to you to make her feel like the big deal.
Sure. That works.
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hearingimpared wrote: »I was thinking about getting a crystal ball to see what is in my wife's head...
You're looking in the wrong place. Check her heart because it's all based on how she feels. Meredith explains it perfectly.
I can understand how you'd be so confused
I don't envy you
I'm a little bit of everything
All rolled into one
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So take me as I am
This may mean
You'll have to be a stronger man
Rest assured that
When I start to make you nervous
And I'm going to extremes
Tomorrow I will change
And today won't mean a thing
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Just when you think you got me figured out
The season's already changing
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SolidSqual wrote: »I tell my fiance she's lucky I put it up!
I tell her this is a 50/50 relationship and if i gotta lift it thats my 50% lol.Living Room Rig:D
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Try roses now and then out of the blue. Be in regular communication and ask, "Is there anything we need dear?", when you make your way home after work.
That doesn't work. I went out to the store several times this past week. "Honey do we need anything in particular?" "Yes this, that, and the other thing." "Okay." I go shopping. I come home with all requested items and few that I knew she missed. "Why didn't you buy me the sparkling waters that I like?" "I didn't know you needed them besides I asked you if we needed anything." Just to make this clear, unknown to me, she hides the sparkling water in the bottom bin of the fridge because she says I drink them all on her.
"You never think of me? You only think about yourself! Why can't you be like you were when we were dating?" "Okay I'll go back out and get the sparkling waters for you." "Forget it, just forget it!"
Can't win for loosing.
Another trip to the store. "Honey do we need anything, I going to the store?"
"Yeah, this, that and the other thing and I need a new sponge from the dollar store." I go to the store, this time I get the sparkling water. They were out of the dollar sponges so I buy better sponges that are fifty cents more for two. "Okay honey I got everything and I'll put them away." Ten minutes later. Yelling at me, "You got the wrong sponges these don't absorb!" "Well they were out of the sponges you asked for and I know the one being used is falling apart do I bought better ones." Yelling, "these are no good they don't absorb, why can't you get what I ask you to get?" "Honey I just used the sponge to clean up after I ate and they are better than the ones we usually use." "You never did this stuff when we were dating."
Can win for loosing.
Peter, I've tried the communication thing.
"Honey is something wrong or did I or Joey do something to upset you?" With a **** look on her face, "NO!" "Then whats wrong dear you seem out of sorts?" "You should know! You never had to ask me when we were dating!" "I'm sorry dear I'm not a mind reader just tell me what's wrong please" Everything that she could conjer up from the last five years gets thrown at me. As well as future problems that we have no control over. "Honey why are you mulling over bad things that happened in the past and have been resolved? Also why are you worrying about things to come that we have no control over? You know the old saying, 'keeping one foot in the past and the other in the future, you are pissing on the present!"" "You just don't get it, you never did this when we were dating!" "Dear you need to stop sweating the small stuff, it's going to make you crazy." "Oh now I'm crazy!" She starts to cry. "You would never say that I was crazy when we were dating." "I'm sorry dear, I didn't say you were crazy, I said it is going to make you crazy." "I know what you said, you never care about my feelings only your own! You never did that when we were dating!"
Can't win for loosing. I usually the end the argument with, "Yes dear, I'll try to do better next time." Even though I'm seething inside.
Don't get me wrong as it seems I'm casting my wife in a bad light. She's a loving, caring, warm and considerate woman but when these moods, especially hormone induced moods, come over her, she's like a demon from hell.:eek::D
The last four weeks she's been driving me and my son nuts. So I wait for what I think is the right time and I approach her. "Honey is it possible that you are becoming menopausal? You seem to be out of sorts lately and your moods throughout the day are up and down, I'm just concerned, maybe you should get an appoinment with the gynecologist just to check and see? Maybe you are and he can help you feel better?" "I was at the gynecologist a few months ago and he said I was fine." "Yeah but that was a few months ago and things may have changed, you seem to not be feeling well of late and I'm just trying to come up with something to make you feel better." "Why is it always my fault that things are screwed up, I'm not going to the doctor. If I am menopausal, the only treatment is hormonal treatments and I'm not taking them because I smoke so much and could have a stroke or heart attack. What are you trying to get rid of me" "I'm sorry dear I'm just trying to think of things that would make you feel better." "I feel fine, now leave me alone, you never would blame me for everything being wrong when we were dating!" I just walked away.
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