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Can we say Zoloft....I knew you could.hearingimpared wrote: »That doesn't work. I went out to the store several times this past week. "Honey do we need anything in particular?" "Yes this, that, and the other thing." "Okay." I go shopping. I come home with all requested items and few that I knew she missed. "Why didn't you buy me the sparkling waters that I like?" "I didn't know you needed them besides I asked you if we needed anything." Just to make this clear, unknown to me, she hides the sparkling water in the bottom bin of the fridge because she says I drink them all on her.
"You never think of me? You only think about yourself! Why can't you be like you were when we were dating?" "Okay I'll go back out and get the sparkling waters for you." "Forget it, just forget it!"
Can't win for loosing.
Another trip to the store. "Honey do we need anything, I going to the store?"
"Yeah, this, that and the other thing and I need a new sponge from the dollar store." I go to the store, this time I get the sparkling water. They were out of the dollar sponges so I buy better sponges that are fifty cents more for two. "Okay honey I got everything and I'll put them away." Ten minutes later. Yelling at me, "You got the wrong sponges these don't absorb!" "Well they were out of the sponges you asked for and I know the one being used is falling apart do I bought better ones." Yelling, "these are no good they don't absorb, why can't you get what I ask you to get?" "Honey I just used the sponge to clean up after I ate and they are better than the ones we usually use." "You never did this stuff when we were dating."
Can win for loosing.
Peter, I've tried the communication thing.
"Honey is something wrong or did I or Joey do something to upset you?" With a **** look on her face, "NO!" "Then whats wrong dear you seem out of sorts?" "You should know! You never had to ask me when we were dating!" "I'm sorry dear I'm not a mind reader just tell me what's wrong please" Everything that she could conjer up from the last five years gets thrown at me. As well as future problems that we have no control over. "Honey why are you mulling over bad things that happened in the past and have been resolved? Also why are you worrying about things to come that we have no control over? You know the old saying, 'keeping one foot in the past and the other in the future, you are pissing on the present!"" "You just don't get it, you never did this when we were dating!" "Dear you need to stop sweating the small stuff, it's going to make you crazy." "Oh now I'm crazy!" She starts to cry. "You would never say that I was crazy when we were dating." "I'm sorry dear, I didn't say you were crazy, I said it is going to make you crazy." "I know what you said, you never care about my feelings only your own! You never did that when we were dating!"
Can't win for loosing. I usually the end the argument with, "Yes dear, I'll try to do better next time." Even though I'm seething inside.
Don't get me wrong as it seems I'm casting my wife in a bad light. She's a loving, caring, warm and considerate woman but when these moods, especially hormone induced moods, come over her, she's like a demon from hell.:eek::D
The last four weeks she's been driving me and my son nuts. So I wait for what I think is the right time and I approach her. "Honey is it possible that you are becoming menopausal? You seem to be out of sorts lately and your moods throughout the day are up and down, I'm just concerned, maybe you should get an appoinment with the gynecologist just to check and see? Maybe you are and he can help you feel better?" "I was at the gynecologist a few months ago and he said I was fine." "Yeah but that was a few months ago and things may have changed, you seem to not be feeling well of late and I'm just trying to come up with something to make you feel better." "Why is it always my fault that things are screwed up, I'm not going to the doctor. If I am menopausal, the only treatment is hormonal treatments and I'm not taking them because I smoke so much and could have a stroke or heart attack. What are you trying to get rid of me" "I'm sorry dear I'm just trying to think of things that would make you feel better." "I feel fine, now leave me alone, you never would blame me for everything being wrong when we were dating!" I just walked away.
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Ya see Cath, there is no cut and dry answer.
I have a theory that you're not going to like but here goes;
God made Adam in his own image and breathed life into his nostils. He saw that it was not good for Adam to be alone so he caused him to fall into a deep sleep and took one of Adam's ribs and made Eve. Now Satan is roaming the garden. He knows that he can't tempt Adam because he was made in the image of God, so he goes after Eve who was made from a human and she fell for his line of crap. We men have been suffering ever since!!!:D:D:D -
It's MILLER TIME BABY!!!!!
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Can we say Zoloft....I knew you could.
Dude she does suffer from clinical depression and anxiety and has been disabled by it since 1993. She was put on Prestiq and two kinds of other medication to deal with the anxiety a while back and she was as even keeled as can be. Then this **** started. Now I figure either she needs a higher dose of Prestiq or she suffering from waves of estrogin causing her mood swings, either way, I'm taking more stomach medicine and more tranquilizers to survive. I love her more than anything! Problem is I can only take so much before the fuse blows. -
My buddie says "If they didn't have a ----y there would be a bounty on their head".
I sure don't want a Crystal Ball... Way too scary..... Really scary...
I've been married had a ball and chain for 23 years... I could have been released on parol by now...
I have been .... Lets not go there.
See seems like she wants to take away anything I enjoy. My man cave isn't even safe or sacred..."Make a man a fire and he'll be warm for a day. Light
a man on fire and he'll be warm for the rest of his life." -
Joe you didn't say that?! :eek: will you leave your sda's to me in your will?hearingimpared wrote: »"Honey is it possible that you are becoming menopausal? :
you described my wife to the T, you married an Italian didn't you
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disneyjoe7 wrote: »It's MILLER TIME BABY!!!!!
Are you kidding me . . . with my history with booze I'd be in jail now for a minimum of spousal abuse or worst case murder.:eek: That's what booze does to me. No thanks! I'm much more patient without it.:eek::D -
hearingimpared wrote: »That doesn't work. I went out to the store several times this past week. "Honey do we need anything in particular?" "Yes this, that, and the other thing." "Okay." I go shopping. I come home with all requested items and few that I knew she missed. "Why didn't you buy me the sparkling waters that I like?" "I didn't know you needed them besides I asked you if we needed anything." Just to make this clear, unknown to me, she hides the sparkling water in the bottom bin of the fridge because she says I drink them all on her.
"You never think of me? You only think about yourself! Why can't you be like you were when we were dating?" "Okay I'll go back out and get the sparkling waters for you." "Forget it, just forget it!"
Can't win for loosing.
Another trip to the store. "Honey do we need anything, I going to the store?"
"Yeah, this, that and the other thing and I need a new sponge from the dollar store." I go to the store, this time I get the sparkling water. They were out of the dollar sponges so I buy better sponges that are fifty cents more for two. "Okay honey I got everything and I'll put them away." Ten minutes later. Yelling at me, "You got the wrong sponges these don't absorb!" "Well they were out of the sponges you asked for and I know the one being used is falling apart do I bought better ones." Yelling, "these are no good they don't absorb, why can't you get what I ask you to get?" "Honey I just used the sponge to clean up after I ate and they are better than the ones we usually use." "You never did this stuff when we were dating."
Can win for loosing.
Peter, I've tried the communication thing.
"Honey is something wrong or did I or Joey do something to upset you?" With a **** look on her face, "NO!" "Then whats wrong dear you seem out of sorts?" "You should know! You never had to ask me when we were dating!" "I'm sorry dear I'm not a mind reader just tell me what's wrong please" Everything that she could conjer up from the last five years gets thrown at me. As well as future problems that we have no control over. "Honey why are you mulling over bad things that happened in the past and have been resolved? Also why are you worrying about things to come that we have no control over? You know the old saying, 'keeping one foot in the past and the other in the future, you are pissing on the present!"" "You just don't get it, you never did this when we were dating!" "Dear you need to stop sweating the small stuff, it's going to make you crazy." "Oh now I'm crazy!" She starts to cry. "You would never say that I was crazy when we were dating." "I'm sorry dear, I didn't say you were crazy, I said it is going to make you crazy." "I know what you said, you never care about my feelings only your own! You never did that when we were dating!"
Can't win for loosing. I usually the end the argument with, "Yes dear, I'll try to do better next time." Even though I'm seething inside.
Don't get me wrong as it seems I'm casting my wife in a bad light. She's a loving, caring, warm and considerate woman but when these moods, especially hormone induced moods, come over her, she's like a demon from hell.:eek::D
The last four weeks she's been driving me and my son nuts. So I wait for what I think is the right time and I approach her. "Honey is it possible that you are becoming menopausal? You seem to be out of sorts lately and your moods throughout the day are up and down, I'm just concerned, maybe you should get an appoinment with the gynecologist just to check and see? Maybe you are and he can help you feel better?" "I was at the gynecologist a few months ago and he said I was fine." "Yeah but that was a few months ago and things may have changed, you seem to not be feeling well of late and I'm just trying to come up with something to make you feel better." "Why is it always my fault that things are screwed up, I'm not going to the doctor. If I am menopausal, the only treatment is hormonal treatments and I'm not taking them because I smoke so much and could have a stroke or heart attack. What are you trying to get rid of me" "I'm sorry dear I'm just trying to think of things that would make you feel better." "I feel fine, now leave me alone, you never would blame me for everything being wrong when we were dating!" I just walked away.
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I'm getting my engagement ring back . . . :eek: -
superjunior wrote: »Joe you didn't say that?! :eek: will you leave your sda's to me in your will?
you described my wife to the T, you married an Italian didn't you
Yep and worse yet she has some gypsy blood in her too!:eek::eek::eek:;):D -
SolidSqual wrote: »I'm getting my engagement ring back . . . :eek:
Run Man Run!!!"Make a man a fire and he'll be warm for a day. Light
a man on fire and he'll be warm for the rest of his life." -
hearingimpared wrote: »......and took one of Adam's ribs and made Eve. Then God told Adam that the rib will cost him an arm and a leg......!!:D:D:D
Fixed it for ya.>
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hearingimpared wrote: »Dude she does suffer from clinical depression and anxiety and has been disabled by it since 1993. She was put on Prestiq and two kinds of other medication to deal with the anxiety a while back and she was as even keeled as can be. Then this **** started. Now I figure either she needs a higher dose of Prestiq or she suffering from waves of estrogin causing her mood swings, either way, I'm taking more stomach medicine and more tranquilizers to survive. I love her more than anything! Problem is I can only take so much before the fuse blows.
Well the reason I mentioned it, is that my wife is on it. It has helped her alot, an yes she went to a higher dose also.Testing
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SolidSqual wrote: »I'm getting my engagement ring back . . . :eek:
Hahaha, I was waiting for you and Noah to weigh in with just that. Really though it isn't that bad most of the time.:) It just seem that of late she's loosing it and I swear it hormonal.:eek::( -
polkersince85 wrote: »fixed it for ya.
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SolidSqual wrote: »I'm getting my engagement ring back . . . :eek:
Eh... if you found the right one, you found the right one. Sometimes it's worth putting up with it. Sometimes it's not.I don't read the newsssspaperssss because dey aaaallllllllll...... have ugly print.
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Well, I just pulled off the impossible by doing a double-blind comparison all by myself, purely by virtue of the fact that I completely and stupidly forgot what I did last. I guess that getting old does have its advantages after all
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concealer404 wrote: »Sure. That works.
IF you get an answer at all. Or an answer that's NOT "I shouldn't have to tell you, you should just know."
Maybe something else is going on.
But at least you asked. -
TouchOfEvil wrote: »Try wearing the pants in your relationship. I do not have this problem.:D:eek:
Believe me I have but she tore them off with a shredder exposing the jewels . . . I got the hint!:D -
Maybe something else is going on.
But at least you asked.
True, true. But if there aren't open lines of communication going both ways, then there isn't a relationship, end of story, as far as i'm concerned.
Whether or not there's something else going on, until it's brought out into the open, it won't be fixed, and there's no way to move forward.
This is called blatant irrationality, and it has no place in an adult relationship and should never be allowed to gain a foothold if the relationship is to last or be healthy.
Jeez i feel old typing that.I don't read the newsssspaperssss because dey aaaallllllllll...... have ugly print.
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My wife's Japanese. I don't have these issues.
She still hasn't figure out what you F you're saying yet.
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My wife's Japanese. I don't have these issues.
If true I hate you!:mad::D;) Don't worry Bro she just saving it all up for when you're old and rickety and can't do anything about it.:D -
disneyjoe7 wrote: »She still hasn't figure out what you F you're saying yet.
Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!!! I don't read the newsssspaperssss because dey aaaallllllllll...... have ugly print.
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hearingimpared wrote: »If I am menopausal, the only treatment is hormonal treatments and I'm not taking them because I smoke so much and could have a stroke or heart attack. What are you trying to get rid of me" "I'm sorry dear I'm just trying to think of things that would make you feel better." "I feel fine, now leave me alone, you never would blame me for everything being wrong when we were dating!" I just walked away.
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Joe, that right there, could be her biggest fear right now. She knows the signs and sees them happening and is panicking over the smoking issue. Speak to the gynec and explain the situation. Find out if there is a way around the smoking issue. Then talk to her. Generally when you're at your wits end with someone near and dear, thats just them telling you, they need you the most right then.hearingimpared wrote: »Dude she does suffer from clinical depression and anxiety and has been disabled by it since 1993. I love her more than anything! Problem is I can only take so much before the fuse blows.
Put this together with her menopausal issue above......hearingimpared wrote: »Are you kidding me . . . with my history with booze I'd be in jail now for a minimum of spousal abuse or worst case murder.:eek: That's what booze does to me. No thanks! I'm much more patient without it.:eek::D
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Joe, that right there, could be her biggest fear right now. She knows the signs and sees them happening and is panicking over the smoking issue. Speak to the gynec and explain the situation. Find out if there is a way around the smoking issue. Then talk to her. Generally when you're at your wits end with someone near and dear, thats just them telling you, they need you the most right then.
I have thought of that but she countered with "the doctor already tried to put me on low doses of Yaz and now look at all the women who didn't smoke and have had strokes and heart attacks because of Yaz, I'm not taking any of that crap."
Struck out there!Put this together with her menopausal issue above......
Well she's at that age (45) where menopause can start but that really hasn't been established yet. I think her monthly cycles trigger her depression and anxiety and that may be the issue. In any case, I need to keep up the "Yes Dear" mantra.;)I hear you. Been there and back. Thank God.
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hearingimpared wrote: »Well she's at that age (45) where menopause can start but that really hasn't been established yet. I think her monthly cycles trigger her depression and anxiety and that may be the issue. In any case, I need to keep up the "Yes Dear" mantra.;)
Just try not to think that those monthly cycles take up roughly 25-30% of the year. I don't read the newsssspaperssss because dey aaaallllllllll...... have ugly print.
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It's been 30 years, snowman.
Her engrish is better than mine.
I'm already old and rickety, and can't do anything about it, Gus. :eek:
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hearingimpared wrote: »Well when you wake up one night with the creeps and turn to see her just staring at you in the dark, LOOK OUT BABY CAUSE HERE IT COMES! WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!;)
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concealer404 wrote: »Just try not to think that those monthly cycles take up roughly 25-30% of the year.
You didn't take into consideration the week before the cycle. . . can you say PMS? :eek::eek: So I'd say it's more like 50% of the time! Oy Vey!!! -
You must have watched Paranormal Activity...
Not yet but SHE put it in the Netflix queue and placed it at the top. I wonder if she trying to prepare me for something?:eek: -
concealer404 wrote: »True, true. But if there aren't open lines of communication going both ways, then there isn't a relationship, end of story, as far as i'm concerned.
Whether or not there's something else going on, until it's brought out into the open, it won't be fixed, and there's no way to move forward.
This is called blatant irrationality, and it has no place in an adult relationship and should never be allowed to gain a foothold if the relationship is to last or be healthy.
Jeez i feel old typing that.
You could try a slightly different approach when asking questions.
Consider starting by telling your wife that you need a hug and want it.
The non-verbal action of a real hug can some times open communication doors.
Not sure why this happens however.
