Am I an A@@hole?

MrNightly

Ok. Three weeks ago, the wife tells me she wants me to plan this entire valentines day out for a romantic evening. I told her I wanted to plan it out together. She continued to nag off and on about how she wanted me to do everything, and I continually told her I thought that V-day was best for both of us to do something. So anyways, I had planned on taking her Ice-skating after dinner, because she really likes that, but it was so freaking cold, I just couldn't. So I scratched that part of my plan... Anyways, she said she would take care of the morning on V-Day (I was off work) and I would take care of the evening.

So she made me stay in bed while she cooked me some waffles and eggs, and I ate them in bed. I enjoyed it, but that was it. So I got my wife a boutique of flowers, two cards, and a big heart of chocolate... and then took her out to Hereford House for a big juicy steak without the kids for dinner... I didn't make reservations, so we had to wait an hour. No biggie I thought. We laughed and talked while we waited and seemed to have a good time.

Totally rockin' steaks! BTW... But that's off topic

On the way back home, I was told I was an **** for not having anything more romantic planned, and than when we started fighting because she wanted me to plan out a totally romantic evening, and I hadn't. I told her that I had planned on taking her ice skating, but the single digit weather made it too cold. (I'm hypersensitive to the cold, after having caught Hypothermia twice in my younger days) I asked what she wanted to do, and was told that it was too late for anything. I was told I ruined her entire day, and after a few choice words, we haven't spoken since.

Oh boy. What a great V-day huh?

Am I an ****? She demanded that I be romantic, and when it didn't go according to her "Idea's" of romantic, she threw this huge fit. At least that's how I see it.

Comments Please... Don't hold back now.

zombie boy 2000

There is nowhere to go but "down" on V(d)-Day.... I really think they fully expect a blimp made of roses to crash from the sky and explode into a million rainbows made of chocolate all of which sing silly French songs proclaiming her to be the most glorious of God's creations.

Anything less than that is a disaster of epic proportions...

I advise we all go into hiding next Valentine's Day and come out when we see our shadows...

SLOCOOKN

This same thing happened to my friend. It was to be a surprise to her. He took the day off of work and cleaned the whole house and made dinner had flowers and all. That was not enough! It's difficult, men and women communicate sooo differently. So GOOD LUCK figuring them out. I just don't know what to say.

PhantomOG

MrNightly wrote:

Ok. Three weeks ago, the wife tells me she wants me to plan this entire valentines day out for a romantic evening.

You were doomed three weeks ago. I'm thankful my wife isn't like this. Hope you can get out of the doghouse.

bobman1235

Wow. Just... wow.

Ern Dog

There is always 2 sides to every story, so just hearing your side I'd say that if there was something she really wanted to do to make the evening more special then she should have asked to do it. It isn't realistic that you are aware of what "her" ideas of romantic is.

jdhdiggs

My wife was trapped 280 miles away and hates Valentines day so I was relatively safe. Taking her to a "wine and chocolate pairing class" tomorrow at the Hershey Hotel as a "just in case I want to have sex in the next three months" activity. http://www.hersheypa.com/events/chocolate_covered_february/details.php?p=coe&EVENTID=4856

Oh, and I always thought you were an A-hole... (I kid, I kid...)

She should have been looking more at the effort (You had some gifts and arranged a babysitter for a night alone, that ought to be good enough) and limitations (Damn cold) Any indoor ice rinks? Rollerskating?

ledhed

I say no, your not a jerk. I really don't think I have a clue as to what romantic is though.

Mmmmm... Hereford House. Not the best steak I've had but close, real close.

Ricardo

Just bite it; women are......women

BIZILL

I voted 'yes'. but just for **** and giggles. women are a strange creatures. just got her a gift basket and some ballons and took 'em to her work. later on i served her up with some sex and all was well. trust me.

...oh, and i bbq'ed us up some steaks as well. no restaurant can match my meat. she loves my meat.

jakelm

Was the steak for you or her??,,,,LOL...:p

Sound like she like ice-skating and you like steaks,,,,I wonder who won...:p

Just pick'in

MrNightly

PhantomOG wrote:

You were doomed three weeks ago. I'm thankful my wife isn't like this. Hope you can get out of the doghouse.

That's exactly how I felt too... which I made very clear that I wanted to plan things out together... but no. That wasn't romantic enough. Feels like you can never win sometimes.

jdhdiggs wrote:

She should have been looking more at the effort (You had some gifts and arranged a babysitter for a night alone, that ought to be good enough) and limitations (Damn cold) Any indoor ice rinks? Rollerskating?

I asked her if she wanted to rollerskate as well.. but just got laughed at.

Then she brought up the whole, you were so romantic when we were dating, and now look at you fight. Kills me. My come back? You actually respected me when were dating... now look at you? Not the best thing to say to get sex, I know, but honestly, I could care less. What goes around, comes around, to quote good ole' Justin Timberlake.

bobman1235

jdhdiggs wrote:

... tomorrow at the Hershey Hotel...

If that's a euphemism, it's the best one I've ever read.

MrNightly

jakelm wrote:

Was the steak for you or her??,,,,LOL...:p

Sound like she like ice-skating and you like steaks,,,,I wonder who won...:p

Just pick'in

Ha. Actually, she always begs for steak, so that's why I took her to a steak house. I thought she would enjoy it. She had really wanted to go to J Alexander's, but they weren't taking reservations (See, I called around!!!) and had almost a 3hr wait time.

Life sucks at times...

jdhdiggs

MrNightly wrote:

Then she brought up the whole, you were so romantic when we were dating, and now look at you fight. Kills me. My come back? You actually respected me when were dating... now look at you? Not the best thing to say to get sex, I know, but honestly, I could care less. What goes around, comes around, to quote good ole' Justin Timberlake.

Yeah, I got that one... Great response. Another fun one (until you get slapped) was the:

"Sure I was romantic because I still thought I had a shot at having sex"
"Sure I was romantic because I still thought you were hot"
"Sure I was romantic because I didn't know any better"

etc..

jdhdiggs

bobman1235 wrote:

If that's a euphemism, it's the best one I've ever read.

Hehe, nope, never thought of it that way you dirty ****! :eek:

BIZILL

nightly, you need to forget romance and start becoming a 'bad boy'. women love the hell outta it, though they claim not to!;)

Paul in Canada

You could have been a hero if you had come home after dinner and put the kids to bed, cracked open a couple bottles of wine and drank them while watching some nasty **** movie. Maybe you could try that tonight to make up. That is all a woman really wants.

MrNightly

BIZILL wrote:

nightly, you need to forget romance and start becoming a 'bad boy'. women love the hell outta it, though they claim not to!;)

Bad boy eh? I already am! It doesn't work.

Nothing works with her, unless you sit on the couch for hours talking sweet nothings in her ear and then read her a book about more sweet nothings for another hour, then go down and please her until she passes out...

MrNightly

Paul in Canada wrote:

You could have been a hero if you had come home after dinner and put the kids to bed, cracked open a couple bottles of wine and drank them while watching some nasty **** movie. Maybe you could try that tonight to make up. That is all a woman really wants.

Ya, you and I both wish. She won't touch anything **** wise. It would be fun though..

Common, she likes to ice-skate and read books. just kidding, that sounds harsh. She's very umm.. sweet. And has 36DD's...

jdhdiggs

Tmi.....

BIZILL

MrNightly wrote:

Bad boy eh? I already am! It doesn't work.

Nothing works with her, unless you sit on the couch for hours talking sweet nothings in her ear and then read her a book about more sweet nothings for another hour, then go down and please her until she passes out...

sounds like you've got quite the task in store for yourself for life with this one. hopefully she eases up a bit.

BIZILL

"can't turn a ho into a housewife", but surely there MUST be a way to turn a housewife into a ho?

MrNightly

BIZILL wrote:

"can't turn a ho into a housewife", but surely there MUST be a way to turn a housewife into a ho?

When you find out how, please let me know. I'll pay you big bucks... or bribe you with speakers or something.

BIZILL

instead of reading sweet nothings to her, will she allow you to read to her a steamy romance novel?

or better yet...have you two sat down and discussed your differences? perhaps ways to overcome them?

petrym

I think she's being kind of an 4s$h013 here herself. I'm thinking she feels that she did a lot of work in the morning - at home. It looks like she was expecting you to expend the same amount of energy - at home - with all the effort and imagination coming from you instead of coming from someone else, in this case, a restaurant.

It's not the gift that counts, it's the thought behind the gift that counts.

Now, tell her to get her beeotch ****$ in the kitchen and make you a pie.

steveinaz

Sheesh, do I have to say it out loud---YES, you're a jerk. You know why? Because your wife said so...


LOL!!

Man I'm glad my wife is low maintenance...

Seriously though, a trip to the Steakhouse is not romantic to a chick. [Doctor Phil] What she wanted you to do is something unique, out of the ordinary, original. Didn't have to be expensive---just thoughtful.[/Doctor Phil]

Cathy, Darla...I nailed it, right?

BIZILL

petrym wrote:

Now, tell her to get her beeotch ****$ in the kitchen and make you a pie.

and give you some pie, just like on american pie.;)

what did you do last year? same doghouse effect?

jakelm

Knightly...Your asking a bunch of guys to figure out why you are percieved to be an a$$hole by a woman???????

No offence, but I dont think you are going to get a good answer here budd. Read cosmo.

P.S. We are all a$$holes in a woman's eyes sometime. Sometimes for absolutly no reason.

MrNightly

steveinaz wrote:

Sheesh, do I have to say it out loud---YES, you're a jerk. You know why? Because your wife said so...


LOL!!

Man I'm glad my wife is low maintenance...

Seriously though, a trip to the Steakhouse is not romantic to a chick. [Doctor Phil] What she wanted you to do is something unique, out of the ordinary, original. Didn't have to be expensive---just thoughtful.[/Doctor Phil]

Cathy, Darla...I nailed it, right?

Ya ya, Doc, so I guess I should crawl back to her on my knee's and apologize for not planning something more romantic while giving her rose pedals and chocolates eh? Oh boy. Where does it put me if I just plain don't care right now?

Bad boy category? Plain stupid? asshat? whatever.

I just need a nap I think. I'm tired of this nonsense. Time for an SVS!

BIZILL

maybe you should have donned your old officer uniform and role played awhile. perhaps you could have executed some 'police brutality', if you will. maybe she misses her man in a uniform.