Are Perfect Spouses Possible?

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  • [Deleted User]
    [Deleted User] Posts: 10,716
    edited July 2014
    All my wives are perfect.
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  • tophatjohnny
    tophatjohnny Posts: 4,182
    edited July 2014
    I voted Yes, but was temped to vote 'depends what perfect is'. I was with my wife for 9 years (almost 10) before we were married and to me, she is the perfect spouse. In order to stay together, (as far as we go) we have to pray together, and we do.
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  • drselect
    drselect Posts: 664
    edited July 2014
    DK, I think this question helps further shed light on your ability to reason.
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  • Speedskater
    Speedskater Posts: 495
    edited July 2014
    Was the "The Audiophile's Wife" the best of the best, or the worst of the worst?

    Her first blog:

    http://www.theaudiophileswife.com/2011/08/its-not-that-heavy.html
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  • ZLTFUL
    ZLTFUL Posts: 5,656
    edited July 2014
    Mine bought me a motorcycle as a wedding gift and offered to cover the gas and incidentals to buy a set of 2.3TLs. And while she did roll her eyes when I told her I wanted a second SVS cylinder, *she* was the one who ordered it for me.

    Perfect wife? I think I am as close as you can get.
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  • Jstas
    Jstas Posts: 14,842
    edited July 2014
    Finding love is not about statistics.

    No human is perfect and therefore anything we make is not capable of being perfect.

    Perfection is a lofty standard the has infinite requirements. There can always be imperfections found everywhere. Imperfections drive mutations which drive evolution to adapt to an ever changing environment. Numbers can explain it but they will never control it.

    So if we are human and we are imperfect, how can you believe you will find the "perfect mate"? Especially if you are imperfect and she is imperfect and that causes a dynamic to the imperfections adapting to the environment, especially in response to the stimuli the both of you impress upon each other. You'll never be able to compensate for it and therefore will never be perfect in any respect.

    So is there a perfect mate? No.

    Is there someone out there for you that is capable of understanding you, "getting" you and loving you anyway? Maybe. Maybe not. Failure is ALWAYS an option. But if you are going to approach it as a formula you can just slot somebody in to and make it happen you'll be sorely disappointed.

    Why?

    Because people are imperfect and they are liars. They will say and do what they think they need to do to reap the benefits of your association with them, whether it's romantic or otherwise, just to advance their station in life.

    The challenge, should you chose to accept it, is to find someone who has their station in life handled with or with out you but can tolerate you well enough to actually want to be around you, regardless of your station in life.

    Good luck with that.
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    You're just jealous 'cause the voices don't talk to you!
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  • steveinaz
    steveinaz Posts: 19,538
    edited July 2014
    My tip of the week: Marry your best friend. All this crap about "opposites attract" is just that---crap. It gets old in a hurry.
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  • George Grand
    George Grand Posts: 12,258
    edited July 2014
    DarqueKnight wrote: »
    Then why do people say "I have the perfect husband"?

    Well Ray, in the event my wife said it, it's because she couldn't have done any better.
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  • headrott
    headrott Posts: 5,496
    edited July 2014
    I believe that a "perfect" spouse is possible only if digitized into the digital realm, transferred through a number of electronic components, and reassembled back into the analog realm.

    Of course, we must realise that the spouse would only be "perfect" while in the digital realm. If we try to apply "analog thinking" to our spouse while in the digital realm, then we ourselves are imperfect in our thoughts (wait, would that make ourselves with imperfect thoughts an "imperfect spouse"?). After all, our spouse while in the digital realm is completely unaffected by any physical laws which would create imperfections comprising our spouse. I would go so far as to say that our spouse while in the digital realm is in another dimension completely different than ours allowing to make one's spouse "perfect". As soon as our spouse comes out of the "digital dimension" THEN, and only then can our spouse potentially have flaws and be imperfect.
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  • Jhayman
    Jhayman Posts: 1,548
    edited July 2014
    I believe there is a Perfect mate for all.. I found mine...
    I first met my Beautiful girlfriend, Wife, now passed on..
    She was 14 I was 15 I'm sure it was physical attraction at first, but I always missed her whenever she had to go home..
    She was the same about me, we dated for about 7 yrs before I was basically forced to marry her, which was a good thing, her parents and my parents knew we Loved eachother so they basically pushed us to get married..
    I needed that push because I was content on just dating and always thought we would be together forever even without marriage..
    Dated from 85 to 92 married from 92 to 2011 April 30th..:sad:
    We never argued and rarely disagreed on anything, what I wanted to do she did also for me, and vise versa for her with me..
    My friends whom I grew up with always commented on our relationship how Great it was to marry your junior high sweetheart..
    The way I still feel about losing her the way I did hurts like nothing I have ever experienced before nor want to again..
    Which I think will stop me from having another relationship with anyone, I know I will never ever be able to give myself to another woman the way I did with Pamela..
    I had a dream the other night only the second time in over 3 years I have dreamt of her and I remember telling her how much I f'ing miss you and she just said I know honey, and then waking up in the night sobbing..
    Just typing this I am choking up..
    But yes I believe you can have a perfect spouse..
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  • nooshinjohn
    nooshinjohn Posts: 25,464
    edited July 2014
    Sounds like you and I share a similar experience with our spouses Jay. I am so sorry yours is no longer with you, because that kind of love (perfection) is so very hard to find. May God continue to grant you peace... and know she will be there to greet you at Heaven's Gates.
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  • steveinaz
    steveinaz Posts: 19,538
    edited July 2014
    Jhayman, God bless buddy, sorry for your loss.
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  • Jstas
    Jstas Posts: 14,842
    edited July 2014
    steveinaz wrote: »
    My tip of the week: Marry your best friend. All this crap about "opposites attract" is just that---crap. It gets old in a hurry.

    Ummm...my best friend is a fat, hairy Italian guy that doesn't have an "inside/indoor voice".

    Sure, he might be warm in the winter and probably has a nice rack under all that chest fuzz but not really my "type" if you know what I mean.
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    You're just jealous 'cause the voices don't talk to you!
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  • shawn474
    shawn474 Posts: 3,052
    edited July 2014
    Wife and I have been together since 9th grade and married for 16 years next month. My simple answer is no. There is no perfect spouse. But as long as you both realize that each of you aren't perfect, you can be a perfect match together. I have my flaws and she has hers and sometimes they cause problems. But we work on them together and come to compromise, understanding, patience and love. Is she perfect? - no. Am I perfect? - HELL no. Are we perfect together - I think so.....
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  • Jhayman
    Jhayman Posts: 1,548
    edited July 2014
    Thanks John..
    nooshinjohn wrote: »
    Sounds like you and I share a similar experience with our spouses Jay. I am so sorry yours is no longer with you, because that kind of love (perfection) is so very hard to find. May God continue to grant you peace... and know she will be there to greet you at Heaven's Gates.
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  • Jhayman
    Jhayman Posts: 1,548
    edited July 2014
    Thanks Steve
    steveinaz wrote: »
    Jhayman, God bless buddy, sorry for your loss.
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  • gimpod
    gimpod Posts: 1,793
    edited July 2014
    My definition of a perfect spouse.

    1. Must be female.
    2. Muse be mute.
    3. Must do whatever I say without hesitation.
    4. Mouth must be no more than 3 1/2 feet from the ground.
    5. Must have a flat head with a dent the diameter of a beer can.
    6. Must like all jokes having to with flatulence.

    4 - 6 are deal breakers.


    All kidding aside, As the question is asked and defined I would have to say no. When looking for a spouse there are far too many intangibles to even make a list.
    Even if you do find someone that meets all your criteria you may not hit it off. But then again you may find someone you really like and who really likes you that doesn't meet you criteria then what.

    Keep in mind when looking for a spouse don't be looking and you can't select a spouse like you select a steak at the butchers.

    All the really strong relationships I seen in my lifetime have involved a truly deep love for one another , a trust that dose not require you spend every second with one another, and last but not least a deep respect for each other. All of the traits (love, trust & respect) take time to fully develop in a relationship.

    This is why most people will call a "perfect spouse/relationship" a crap shoot at best because you never know what they may grow into.
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  • nooshinjohn
    nooshinjohn Posts: 25,464
    edited July 2014
    gimpod wrote: »
    This is why most people will call a "perfect spouse/relationship" a crap shoot at best because you never know what they may grow into.

    If you start from a proper foundation and nurture your relationship correctly, you know how things will grow.
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  • steveinaz
    steveinaz Posts: 19,538
    edited July 2014
    I'm just thankful that my wife has a kind heart and bad vision. LOL
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  • gimpod
    gimpod Posts: 1,793
    edited July 2014
    nooshinjohn wrote: »
    If you start from a proper foundation and nurture your relationship correctly, you know how things will grow.

    You and your wife are very lucky and an EXTRAORDINARY couple in this day and age. My hats off to you. You sound like my caregiver and her husband. But I have to disagree with you as life has a tendency to throw you a curve ball ever once in a while that will shake even the strongest of foundation. Take the case of the couple who've been married 30-40 years raised and sent a couple kids to college who are all grown up and out on there own. Now it's just mom and dad it's been so long since they've been alone there wondering who each other is, how did they ever fall in love and more importantly do the even still like each other let alone still love one another. Or even worse yet the lose of a child, Sad to say I have never seen a relationship survive this one.
    “The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why.” ~ Mark Twain
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  • OleBoot
    OleBoot Posts: 2,820
    edited July 2014
    My wife is perfect. She told me.
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  • txcoastal1
    txcoastal1 Posts: 13,328
    edited July 2014
    OleBoot wrote: »
    My wife is perfect. She told me.
    Yours too

    There are 2 things that come out of my wife's mouth that drives me nuts "Why" and "but what if"...They over think and analyze everything....but I do love my wife and I am a better person because of her
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  • deronb1
    deronb1 Posts: 5,021
    edited July 2014
    rooftop59 wrote: »
    He's an engineer, your an anthropologist, and I'm a philosopher. Obviously we approach this question with very different intuitions and methodologies...but I think that clearly this is a existential question couched in empirical language, which is always a bit awkward isn't it?

    So, an engineer, an anthropologist and a philosopher walk into a bar......
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  • OleBoot
    OleBoot Posts: 2,820
    edited July 2014
    txcoastal1 wrote: »
    Yours too

    There are 2 things that come out of my wife's mouth that drives me nuts "Why" and "but what if"...They over think and analyze everything....but I do love my wife and I am a better person because of her

    My sentiments exactly. I can't believe how lucky I am, but sometimes I think just STFU. After 20 some years, what else do you expect? Working on love is better than loneliness.
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  • mdaudioguy
    mdaudioguy Posts: 5,165
    edited July 2014
    I think "perfect" implies that there's not even one, single, little, teeny, tiny pet peeve that you'd ever even give a passing thought about.... not a pause, not a roll of the eyes, no question, just nothing. So, I was thinking that perhaps a clone of myself, but with the necessary equipment and features of the opposite sex, might just be perfect. Then, I realized that I often get on my own nerves, so now I'm leaning towards, no. Wait, this is an audio forum? Thought I logged onto Cosmo for Men for a moment...
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  • sucks2beme
    sucks2beme Posts: 5,606
    edited July 2014
    The Mrs. is no more perfect than I am.
    Yes, she does her own thing. And stands her ground on many
    decisions. I wouldn't want it any other way. Many years ago we had a problem
    with a home builder. I pointed her in that direction and stepped back.
    It was like having my own cruise missile. Problem solved.
    It doesn't hurt she's just as sarcastic as I am.
    After 33 years, it's still good.
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  • nooshinjohn
    nooshinjohn Posts: 25,464
    edited July 2014
    mdaudioguy wrote: »
    I . So, I was thinking that perhaps a clone of myself, but with the necessary equipment and features of the opposite sex, might just be perfect. ...
    That is just WAY too much information to process, and damn ugly to boot!:lol:
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  • Polkie2009
    Polkie2009 Posts: 3,834
    edited July 2014
    Jhayman wrote: »
    I believe there is a Perfect mate for all.. I found mine...
    I first met my Beautiful girlfriend, Wife, now passed on..
    She was 14 I was 15 I'm sure it was physical attraction at first, but I always missed her whenever she had to go home..
    She was the same about me, we dated for about 7 yrs before I was basically forced to marry her, which was a good thing, her parents and my parents knew we Loved eachother so they basically pushed us to get married..
    I needed that push because I was content on just dating and always thought we would be together forever even without marriage..
    Dated from 85 to 92 married from 92 to 2011 April 30th..:sad:
    We never argued and rarely disagreed on anything, what I wanted to do she did also for me, and vise versa for her with me..
    My friends whom I grew up with always commented on our relationship how Great it was to marry your junior high sweetheart..
    The way I still feel about losing her the way I did hurts like nothing I have ever experienced before nor want to again..
    Which I think will stop me from having another relationship with anyone, I know I will never ever be able to give myself to another woman the way I did with Pamela..
    I had a dream the other night only the second time in over 3 years I have dreamt of her and I remember telling her how much I f'ing miss you and she just said I know honey, and then waking up in the night sobbing..
    Just typing this I am choking up..
    But yes I believe you can have a perfect spouse..
    Thank you for sharing this very moving and sincere post Jhayman, it is a testament to my faith in Jesus Christ , our Lord and Saviour. Having lost both of my parents within the last 6 years, I've had a number of dreams where they will visit me and reassure me they are still with me and will be there to greet me in the Kingdom of Heaven.
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  • Polkie2009
    Polkie2009 Posts: 3,834
    edited July 2014
    nooshinjohn wrote: »
    If you start from a proper foundation and nurture your relationship correctly, you know how things will grow.
    +1000 John, this is so true.
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  • WLDock
    WLDock Posts: 3,073
    edited July 2014
    People change and have different expectations. We have always been told that but that is one hard lesson that marriage taught me. There is no "perfect" marriage or spouse.....That's life! There will always be a curve in the road somewhere.

    One has to evolve and work at being a better person and the "Best" spouse that one can be. That's as perfect as perfect can get in this life.
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