Question - Dating

sda2mike

look down man!!! what do you see? a set of balls? good! you are a man! now, act like one! THAT'S what chicks want! look her straight in the eye, smile and ask her **** out! then, wave yer hog at her!

steveinaz

GRASSHOPPA, I can only open the door...you must choose to walk through...LOL

BIZILL

any ladies around to chime in?

Demiurge

D O N E.

I'll update when I have some info. Thanks, guys.

steveinaz

Chick Depot: "you Can Do It, We Can Help."

TroyD

my .02..

Asking for a date via email is for pansies. Man up.

BDT

Frank Z

Demiurge wrote:

D O N E.

I'll update when I have some info. Thanks, guys.

WOOT!!! Demi's got a date! Time to wax the Bishop for a night out!!

Good on ya!!

aaharvel

i would never email a girl and ask her for a date. That's the lamest thing i've ever heard. Don't do that. Don't ask her for her non-work number so you can 'ask her a question': that sounds psycho and will prob. raise her red flag immediately.

If I were you I would wait till your face to face with her again, then bring it up nonchalantly after you've already begun a work-related discussion. This way she'll tend to think you're just looking to meet new people, and won't raise her red-flag when it comes to the typical male approach.

Hell you're an adult- you know how this game's played- usually it's a spur of the moment deal. And Demiurge even though we can't stand each other via and maybe personal reasons, i see no reason why we can't try and be civil towards each other.

Good luck and all.

halo

TroyD wrote:

my .02..

Asking for a date via email is for pansies. Man up.

BDT

+ 1. I'd call the lady. Good luck bro

Emlyn

Demiurge wrote:

She doesn't work with me. She works for a different company and came in here to sell come stuff.

Come stuff, eh? Freudian slip, maybe? Sounds like my kind of woman too.

Ron-P

Chick Depot: "you Can Do It, We Can Help."

Waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

dorokusai

It reads like a conflict of interest, good luck.

GATOR3000

Hey bro………………..before you press any buttons on your keyboard or your phone………you have to ask yourself a question. What do I want to do with this awesome lady that walked to my office? WHAT IS MY INTENTION HERE??………….Do I want cheep receiver with radio shack speakers for fun?…………or am I looking for someone to enjoy, respect and cherish in the future?

Demiurge………you own Polk’s already so we all know you like quality. I think this “lady” is a Polk girl…….if you know what I mean? She deserves respect! In return she will respect you more as a businessman and possible future partner if you ask her or call her in person. I have no doubt she is good looking and you are not the first dude to ask her for an e-mail address!

You want to be different than those 50 OTHER guys who asked her already!!

She is looking for a MAN! She is looking for “Twin SVS”! You have to show her that you are serious and confident dude!

Women are very impressed with guys who approach them directly. Although most might look shocked when they do, but the long lasting first impression will stay with them for a long time. My mom is 80 years old and she remembers guys who asked her to dance 60 years ago. No e-mail than just faces.

Women are fascinating creatures. They want to be approached. They want to be talked to.They want to be pampered and looked in their eyes directly. They want to hear your voice and when they hear you they feel………….and when they feel they have a sense of connection.

YES, I do agree…………technology has changed and you certainly can do it that way, but Women will never change. The will always want to be dazzled!!!

DOND’T HIDE BEHIND e-mail. Do it right!

Just my opinion.

Gator

Early B.

Refer to Rules 1 - 3 in your Manhood Manual, 2004 ed.:

Rule #1: Don't ever mix business with pleasure.
Rule #2: Don't ever pleasure your business in public.
Rule #3: Don't ever ask Polkies for advice about women.

A respectable woman would not bother to respond to an email like that, even if she was interested.

Demiurge

aaharvel wrote:

...i see no reason why we can't try and be civil towards each other.

Good luck and all.

Done.

You guys are right. Like I said, I've been out of the game for a year, and was out of commision for 3 years before that being with the same woman that entire time. So that's 4 years of not having to deal with the approach. In that amount of time i've grown up too. Things are different. It would be dumb to flatly ask someone out on a date through e-mail, that was a dumb comment to make. I'm just trying to open up some neutral ground, that's all, and I think I did that. She knows I'm not psycho, that much would be obvious in person. We've already talked at length about stuff. I've made the first step, the rest will play itself out. At least I'm trying, there were a lot of times there I wouldn't have bothered.

BIZILL

Demiurge wrote:

Done.

You guys are right. Like I said, I've been out of the game for a year, and was out of commision for 3 years before that being with the same woman that entire time. So that's 4 years of not having to deal with the approach. In that amount of time i've grown up too. Things are different. It would be dumb to flatly ask someone out on a date through e-mail, that was a dumb comment to make. I'm just trying to open up some neutral ground, that's all, and I think I did that. She knows I'm not psycho, that much would be obvious in person. We've already talked at length about stuff. I've made the first step, the rest will play itself out. At least I'm trying, there were a lot of times there I wouldn't have bothered.

again, bizill's suggestions were all for naught. oh well. i agree with the be a man deal. i didn't really mean for demi to ask her out straight up via email. but perhaps........aw heck, what do i know? ....pulls foot out of own ****...

in my own defense, what i wanted to help demi to do was what he had already done for himself. (highlighted in blue)

Demiurge

GATOR3000 wrote:

Hey bro………………..before you press any buttons on your keyboard or your phone………you have to ask yourself a question. What do I want to do with this awesome lady that walked to my office? WHAT IS MY INTENTION HERE??………….Do I want cheep receiver with radio shack speakers for fun?…………or am I looking for someone to enjoy, respect and cherish in the future?

It would definitely be the latter. If it was anything else i'd leave that for the bar or something. This kind of stuff is so situational. I'm really not sure what the best avenue was. I ended up doing what I thought was right, but that could very well be wrong. I'm fine with that. I didn't ask her out with an email, just opened up the lines of communication a little further.

We're not doing business either, so that's out of the way before it's even a conflict.

Demiurge

BIZILL wrote:

again, bizill's suggestions were all for naught. oh well. i agree with the be a man deal. i didn't really mean for demi to ask her out straight up via email. but perhaps........aw heck, what do i know? ....pulls foot out of own ****...

No, they're really not. You're speaking from experience. I am assuming there is a generation gap in here somewhere. I'm almost 26, which means the last time I bothered with this crap was then I was 22. I've got all sorts of friends that have met their long time girlfriends on the internet, etc. They're all 'normal' people. It isn't a geek thing anymore, that's for sure. Lots of the traditional ways of dating have gone completely out the window. In THIS situation, however, it would not be the way to go. They're all right about that. Even if I did, I do think that it wouldn't have killed anything. Times have definitely changed.

BIZILL

i see cfrizz in here. she'll shed some light.

cfrizz

Good for you Demi!

Another way to keep it neutral, is to ask her out to lunch instead of dinner. That way she won't feel too pressured as well. Approach it as starting out as friends & progressing slowly from there.

It is just as hard for us women, if not more so. I'm looking for a relationship & most guys are just looking to get laid! So many men think that because they have taken a woman out for a movie & dinner, that entitles them to take her to bed that same night!

It doesn't! At least not with a woman who has any self respect!

Treat her with respect & like a lady and you will do all right.

Cathy

steveinaz

I wanna beer and I wanna see somethin neked.

That's in Page 1 of the Manly manual. Read it, heed it, know it, live it. Now go get that woman. Screw work. It's all about passion brotha, women feel that, they understand it---and, most importantly, want it. Most women want us to be men, not corporate weinies. Call the gal ask her out---she says no, move on, there's more fish in the sea.

Am I right Cathy? Can I get an amen?

Demiurge

cfrizz wrote:

Good for you Demi!

Another way to keep it neutral, is to ask her out to lunch instead of dinner. That way she won't feel too pressured as well. Approach it as starting out as friends & progressing slowly from there.

It is just as hard for us women, if not more so. I'm looking for a relationship & most guys are just looking to get laid! So many men think that because they have taken a woman out for a movie & dinner, that entitles them to take her to bed that same night!

It doesn't! At least not with a woman who has any self respect!

Treat her with respect & like a lady and you will do all right.

Cathy

Nice to hear the female perspective, and I am on board with what you're saying with the people trying to get laid. I'm probably going to get hammered for saying this, but I don't really ever go that route and never have. I got hangups with it like you wouldn't believe...mostly because you can't build any kind of a relationship with that.

I think doing something simple and getting to talk about something other than work would be a nice approach. I got plenty to talk about and it wouldn't be sitting there staring in silence. If it doesn't work out, so be it. I'm just checking it out. Who knows, could be a dud!

steveinaz wrote:

That's in Page 1 of the Manly manual. Read it, heed it, know it, live it. Now go get that woman. Screw work. It's all about passion brotha, women feel that, they understand it---and, most importantly, want it. Most women want us to be men, not corporate weinies. Call the gal ask her out---she says no, move on, there's more fish in the sea.

Amen to that! None of that rules are rules stuff. :cool:

cfrizz

Hey Steve, I need you to clarify your statement for me, so that I know whether or not I consider you right or not.

Yes I want you to be a man, I also want you to be a gentleman. Passion is fine, at the right time & in the right context.

So please explain exactly how you meant what you said.

Demiurge

I'm thinking he means you being passionate about what you want, allowing that to supercede the rules that others have laid out for you in terms of being conventional. That's how I read it, and if that's how he means it, I agree. What I mean is...if you like someone, just because you're at your job it shouldn't stop you from giving it a shot.

PolkThug

dorokusai wrote:

It reads like a conflict of interest, good luck.

Sales rep chicks are the effin devil! He's gonna need more than luck.

BIZILL

ms. cathy, thing these days is that women mostly have sex the first night. @ least the ones i've encountered. and no, they are not whores, **** maybe, but not whores. actually most were not too much of ****. (pot calling kettle black) times change. roles have reversed. are there not decent ladies out there anymore, or will i perpetually meet only the good-to-go girls? i am not sure if this is complaint material or my sense of immorality beckoning resolve. just chalk this one up as a blog.

and to demi. sorry i once again hijacked your thread. but remember, she seems to you to be a sweetheart of a gal. wow. who knows what may lie beneath?!

steveinaz

cfrizz wrote:

Hey Steve, I need you to clarify your statement for me, so that I know whether or not I consider you right or not.

Yes I want you to be a man, I also want you to be a gentleman. Passion is fine, at the right time & in the right context.

So please explain exactly how you meant what you said.

Passion=Putting your heart/fire into what you do.

steveinaz

Demiurge wrote:

I'm thinking he means you being passionate about what you want, allowing that to supercede the rules that others have laid out for you in terms of being conventional. That's how I read it, and if that's how he means it, I agree. What I mean is...if you like someone, just because you're at your job it shouldn't stop you from giving it a shot.

HOOOAHHHH! You got it brother. Be professional at work? Absolutely, just don't let it "de-humanize" you.

cfrizz

Thank you Bizill, you have just proven my point! A woman who you slept with right out the gate with, you promptly label a ****! Real Nice.

You could have been a gentleman, and said Thanks, but I want to get to know you as a person & develope a friendship before I sleep with you. Thereby, giving them a different example of how a man can be.

There is so much pressure put on girls these days, which is put on them from their peers, and what they see on tv. My guess is some of them probably started out fine & then got pressured into it by being told if you want to have a guy in your life you HAVE to have sex with him from the get go. And since it's generally put out there that you aren't any use to anyone if you DON"T have a man, they caved & now can't change.

So they sleep with you from the get go & you promptly call them ****.

I feel sorry for these girls out there these days.

cfrizz

Then Steve: YOU ARE RIGHT!!!!