Question - Dating

Demiurge

So, I broke up with the ex about a year ago after a nearly 3 year relationship, needed this year to reflect on other stuff. Some of you know how bad all that was. =\The other day it dawns on me that I need to get back in the swing of things. Got a lot of new stuff going for me now, and I'm ready to get back in the scene again.

So anyhow, last week this woman walks into my office. She gives her spiel, etc, and I relayed her over to my engineer. Her company does some finishing that our company would have the need for. Needless to say I sent her an email inviting her to come back, keep in mind, we have a need for this. Not asking her back because I thought she was cute. So we set-up an appointment and she stopped by my office again today. I gave her some drawings of the parts we want manufactured as well as an overview of the company. Really cool girl and I want to ask her out on a date. This isn't gigantic corporation working with gigantic corporation here, so I don't feel ethically obligated to keep my mouth shut here. Perfectly capable of keeping business on the business track and relationships on the relationship track. Problem here is that I think this woman is awesome and I want to grab a few drinks with her.

So, about to click send on an email to her asking if she has a non-work related email so I could ask her a question, namely, a date.

What do you guys think? Not sure how old she is, no rock, and assuming my age, if not a little younger. Just my type of woman. Was just going to ask her point blank if she's available and go from there.

You have to realize that I have had 2 real LTRs in my life. That takes up 5 years of my life right there. I dated a lot of girls in high school, but it was never very serious and I usually never had to initiate it. =P So this is always new ground for me. I'm excited about relationships again so I want to give this a shot. :eek:

You've got 30 minutes before I send this thing off.

2+2

Do it by phone or face to face...dont use email....

Demiurge

Seems less on the spot for her, especially given the circumstances. You still think so? Otherwise I'd definitely do it in that way. Was just trying to put myself in her shoes.

reeltrouble1

Good on ya Demi--go for it, but I am old fashioned, I would call her. But I suppose times have changed.

Its time you got back in the game.

RT1

Ron-P

So, about to click send on an email to her asking if she has a non-work related email so I could ask her a question, namely, a date.

Back'n 2+2's play here, not by email bro. Call her or wait until you see her next. Doing it via email is plain tacky.

Demiurge

Okay, guys, compromise....Send her an email saying "Got a non-work related question for you, do you have another e-mail, my cell phone number is blah blah blah." Like I said, just trying to consider the circumstances and don't want to put her on the spot. That's bad.

Skynut

Lot of variables with your work but if you feel it is ethical then go for it.

I know I can keep work and private seprate with employee's I sometimes party with but I have never tried with dating.

If the decision to use her services for work is in someone elses court then definatly go for it.

Especially if she is hot.

Skynut

Demiurge wrote:

Okay, guys, compromise....Send her an email saying "Got a non-work related question for you, do you have another e-mail, my cell phone number is blah blah blah." Like I said, just trying to consider the circumstances and don't want to put her on the spot. That's bad.

There ya go, something so the actual asking part is voice activated.

Demiurge

I'm 49% the boss, and the old man said "Does she have a rock on her finger?" Me: "Nope." old man "Go for it!"

BIZILL

email gives her an out...if she so choses it. if she's interested, she'll bite. if not, it's easier for you and for her to say no via email. this is the technological world. people get married after meeting through the net. remember not so long ago when that was considered nerdy? got news for you folk, it is not nerdy anymore. if you think it is, then you are mistaken. shoot off that email, bro. good luck.

Demiurge

I realize it's chicken **** to not do it in Real Life terms, so I am. I'm just trying to test the waters here and make it not akward.

MrBuhl

Demiurge wrote:

Okay, guys, compromise....Send her an email saying "Got a non-work related question for you, do you have another e-mail, my cell phone number is blah blah blah." Like I said, just trying to consider the circumstances and don't want to put her on the spot. That's bad.

Gotta back the Call Her folks - and I am an email guy all the way usually... to be fair ... email doesn't put EITHER of you on the spot for the uncomfortable silence ... I think it means more to go out on that limb...

Demiurge

MrBuhl wrote:

Gotta back the Call Her folks - and I am an email guy all the way usually... to be fair ... email doesn't put EITHER of you on the spot for the uncomfortable silence ... I think it means more to go out on that limb...

You're right, definitely. Thing is...I do have an issue with using the office phones to ask women on dates. I would think that calling her at work would be a bad idea.

The way I'm seeing it is this...If I'm giver her my number in an email, she's going to know what's coming next. It's obvious. No?

BIZILL

go email, but don't ask for it to be a date. rather ask her out for a non-professional outing. then if she goes along, work your magic in person.

Danny Tse

Call her or ask her in person....no e-mail.

Skynut

Do not forget to update us with pictures.

Skynut

Demiurge wrote:

The way I'm seeing it is this...If I'm giver her my number in an email, she's going to know what's coming next. It's obvious. No?

Is she blonde?

PolkThug

She's out of your league.
You don't have a chance.
You'll probably just talk about your ex if you do go out with her.
Give up.














































MUHAHAHAHAHHAH~~~~~

Demiurge

No way, brunette.

Ron-P

rather ask her out for a non-professional outing

Non-professional outing, in other words, a date.

People may get married after meeting on the net but dude, be real, do it face to face or over the phone, that's the respectful way to go about it. Don't hide behind an email. Let her hear it from your own voice, not read it on a computer, that's so chicken ****.

BIZILL

she doesn't remind you of your ex, does she?

Demiurge

haha, PolkThug, that's the way to really stab your chances right in the heart. lol.

BIZILL

demi, you've already met face to face. did you feel inclined to take one step further due to something she conveyed?

Demiurge

BIZILL wrote:

she doesn't remind you of your ex, does she?

haha, hell no. she's similar looking, but a lot of my girlfriends have similar looks. I like a certain kind of girl. =P I would say nothing like her, after all, this one has a job. :eek:

Demiurge

BIZILL wrote:

demi, you've already met face to face. did you feel inclined to take one step further due to something she conveyed?

Nah, probably just putting on the sales game. We don't know eachother at all. It's all surface **** right now. Want to see what's beyond all that. :cool: I got my type and this was it.

BIZILL

good luck no matter which avenue you take.

BIZILL

btw, the only time you meet face 2 face is while at work, correct? you can't ask for a date on company premisis. and you may never see her again if the deal falls through. if you call her, it would be like using company info to track her down. i suppose the same goes for email addy, but i dunno. still say take the email course.

BIZILL

btw...i've been in a disfuntional relationship for over 11 years. my advice should be taken with a grain of....

steveinaz

Ron-P wrote:

Back'n 2+2's play here, not by email bro. Call her or wait until you see her next. Doing it via email is plain tacky.

+3, phone her. Go for it buddy! Maybe ask next time she's in if she has eaten lunch yet....then you can talk outside the workplace.

Demiurge

She doesn't work with me. She works for a different company and came in here to sell come stuff. I'm the one who wants to go and ask her out. I'm just not going to call her while she's at her office, I think that's really bad. I also don't think asking her that while she's in my office would be a good idea either. Got to get a way to talk to her off premises, even though I wouldn't get in any kind of trouble doing so.

BIZILL

bizill stands yet to be corrected!