In the dumps.... What to do need advise...

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  • doctorcilantro
    doctorcilantro Posts: 2,028
    edited April 2010
    If you have cash, maybe take a vacation/getaway together and be realistic about looking deeply into your relationship with one another. Get a change of scene, not a romantic getaway, but a way to get out of your skin with the specific purpose of not necessarily reconnecting, but taking a firm look at who you are 18 years later....
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  • FiveORacing
    FiveORacing Posts: 105
    edited April 2010
    disneyjoe7 wrote: »
    Agree, lawyered up today..... He's a bit scary.... I'm a bit afraid of him and he's on my side. :eek:;):D



    Sounds like you got a good one;)

    Hope things work out for you.
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  • hearingimpared
    hearingimpared Posts: 21,137
    edited April 2010
    disneyjoe7 wrote: »
    Agree, lawyered up today..... He's a bit scary.... I'm a bit afraid of him and he's on my side. :eek:;):D

    Ah you should have retained a woman attorney. They really go for the throat!:eek:;)
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  • nooshinjohn
    nooshinjohn Posts: 25,384
    edited April 2010
    Sorry to see it has come to this, but in the end all anyone can do is do what is best for them. I wish you nothing but the best and will pray for a resolution that brings you the piece of mind you need to get your life back.
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  • disneyjoe7
    disneyjoe7 Posts: 11,435
    edited April 2010
    doctorcilantro wrote: »
    If you have cash, maybe take a vacation/getaway together and be realistic about looking deeply into your relationship with one another. Get a change of scene, not a romantic getaway, but a way to get out of your skin with the specific purpose of not necessarily reconnecting, but taking a firm look at who you are 18 years later....

    I offered to do a 7 day cruise, but she said no. She sees her self to be in another house which she looking to rent. She's over it. I still like to love this person since we have been together for 21 years now, 18 years by married. I don't like when she post a picture on her facebook which is her male friend work account. I asked about it she stated Radio Disney, she killed her facebook account because I asked about it. I found later this picture is not Radio Disney but UCF Knight radio. :eek:


    She says she out, it's over. She can't bring back, ok but don't screw later.

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  • SolidSqual
    SolidSqual Posts: 5,218
    edited April 2010
    disneyjoe7 wrote: »
    Agree, lawyered up today..... He's a bit scary.... I'm a bit afraid of him and he's on my side. :eek:;):D

    Good for you. You are buying peace of mind.
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  • disneyjoe7
    disneyjoe7 Posts: 11,435
    edited April 2010
    SolidSqual wrote: »
    Good for you. You are buying peace of mind.


    YES it has, giving me peace of mine... Even so my wife asked what's up:eek:

    I told her, I lawyered up... I don't wish this to get UGLY but he's there to protect my interest and I would keep him in his cage if things where smooth. ;)


    Steve

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  • Jetmaker737
    Jetmaker737 Posts: 1,045
    edited April 2010
    Polk user wrote: »
    If she is staying with you because of finances, she will bolt when she feels like the time is right for her, not you.

    ... so, SO true! Sounds like you are going down the right path lawyering up at this point. I let my ex string me along a little too long and it cost me. But I was thinking of the kids. She was looking out for her own best interest. It's amazing how treacherous your former "partner" can become!
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  • snow
    snow Posts: 4,337
    edited April 2010
    To be honest with you it sounds like from what I have read here the only reason/s she hasnt left yet is because she hasnt found someone else yet that is willing to provide for her and she is worried about having to split a house payment. Personally after reading everything it doesnt sound like she doesnt want the marriage to work if that is actually the case, as much as it may hurt to give her up the quicker you do so the better off you will be.

    And I wouldndt take her back if she begged but thats just me, once im done with a relationship I dont come back for seconds, too many fish out there that want to be caught to put up with one that has tried to get off the hook :p

    REGARDS SNOW
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  • SolidSqual
    SolidSqual Posts: 5,218
    edited April 2010
    disneyjoe7 wrote: »
    YES it has, giving me peace of mine... Even so my wife asked what's up:eek:

    I told her, I lawyered up... I don't wish this to get UGLY but he's there to protect my interest and I would keep him in his cage if things where smooth. ;)


    Steve

    That's a good attitude. Don't let this become adversarial. Try to be cooperative as long as the other side provides the same courtesy.
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  • schwarcw
    schwarcw Posts: 7,335
    edited April 2010
    Steve,

    I am sorry to hear about your situation.:( It really stinks. I think you did the right thing by getting a lawyer. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

    Good luck!
    Carl

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  • disneyjoe7
    disneyjoe7 Posts: 11,435
    edited November 2010
    It's official I'm now Divorced as of yesterday morning 11/18/10, I know some here been there done that but I thought an update would be nice.


    Overall I'm good with it, and felt it all worked out in the end. My mood is better, I now even have someone in my life now I feel is real and understands me. So things are better.:biggrin:

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  • NotaSuv
    NotaSuv Posts: 3,849
    edited November 2010
    disneyjoe7 wrote: »
    It's official I'm now Divorced as of yesterday morning 11/18/10, I know some here been there done that but I thought an update would be nice.


    Overall I'm good with it, and felt it all worked out in the end. My mood is better, I now even have someone in my life now I feel is real and understands me. So things are better.:biggrin:

    Always good to have closure...glad all worked out and great to hear all is getting better...............
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  • AudioGenics
    AudioGenics Posts: 2,567
    edited November 2010
    kinda corny
    but
    you heard that
    with every ending
    there is a new beginning......



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  • ben62670
    ben62670 Posts: 15,969
    edited November 2010
    Sorry I missed this thread. I hope things work out for you Steve.
    Ben
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    Thanks
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  • disneyjoe7
    disneyjoe7 Posts: 11,435
    edited November 2010
    Things are differently better now for me.

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  • sda2mike
    sda2mike Posts: 3,131
    edited November 2010
    disneyjoe7 wrote: »
    Things are differently better now for me.

    thats great! now go celebrate by buying some audio stuff....YOU DON'T NEED TO THINK ABOUT the WAF!!!!!!:eek::biggrin:
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  • engtaz
    engtaz Posts: 7,663
    edited November 2010
    Glad to hear it's finalized. The D word can mean a brutal situation.
    engtaz

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  • George Grand
    George Grand Posts: 12,258
    edited November 2010
    Good luck in your new life Diz.
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  • Fireman32
    Fireman32 Posts: 4,845
    edited November 2010
    Glad to hear it all worked out
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  • Jetmaker737
    Jetmaker737 Posts: 1,045
    edited November 2010
    Good for you! Getting through all of that is a ****. You're over the hump now.
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  • disneyjoe7
    disneyjoe7 Posts: 11,435
    edited November 2010
    Thanks all, it means the world too me.

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  • bikezappa
    bikezappa Posts: 2,463
    edited November 2010
    disneyjoe7 wrote: »
    Jet,

    Your input is scary due to the fact, there's more to my story and you have an idea what that would be. I think you know why I stated "I'm over it".

    I hope you both can work it out and do the right thing.

    Buy why you would think we can help you with advice/input is beyond me.
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  • bobman1235
    bobman1235 Posts: 10,822
    edited November 2010
    bikezappa wrote: »
    I hope you both can work it out and do the right thing.

    Buy why you would think we can help you with advice/input is beyond me.

    Might wanna read the whole thread there BZ :)

    Glad things are working out for you DJ.
    If you will it, dude, it is no dream.
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  • disneyjoe7
    disneyjoe7 Posts: 11,435
    edited November 2010
    BTW I did lawyer up, and I loved it, everything we asked for I got.

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  • disneyjoe7
    disneyjoe7 Posts: 11,435
    edited November 2010
    Like to add also since its out here anyway, I felt it was fair to both parties.

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  • Jetmaker737
    Jetmaker737 Posts: 1,045
    edited November 2010
    bikezappa wrote: »
    Buy why you would think we can help you with advice/input is beyond me.

    When I was going through my divorce the advice I got from guys that had already been through it was invaluable.
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  • mrbigbluelight
    mrbigbluelight Posts: 9,697
    edited November 2010
    Glad to hear that you're making the best out of a difficult situation, Mr. D.

    And remember: it DOES get better. :smile:
    Sal Palooza
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  • hearingimpared
    hearingimpared Posts: 21,137
    edited November 2010
    Steve, I'm glad that chapter of your life came to a good conclusion. Now I wish you the best for your new life. One word of advice Steve; make sure you mourn the loss of your wife (if you haven't already done so) before moving on to another woman. Sometimes rebound loves don't work out for a variety of reasons. Just sharing my experience here buddy.

    God Bless my friend.
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