Am I In Love

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  • Jstas
    Jstas Posts: 14,842
    edited August 2008
    bigaudiofanatic wrote: »
    O okay that is a tad different than what I assumed you were saying. I will talk with her tonight but just change what i was going to say and ask a bit.

    Oh, no it isn't. What I said previously was just a small part of the big story. Everything I said is not a clarification of a previous post. More like an addendum.
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  • Jstas
    Jstas Posts: 14,842
    edited August 2008
    Where the hell does this girl live anyway? How far away is it from you?
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  • bigaudiofanatic
    bigaudiofanatic Posts: 4,415
    edited August 2008
    Georgia
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  • lunazul
    lunazul Posts: 781
    edited August 2008
    Young man ,you are 20 years old, Hell your balls have barely dropped.
    I see no good coming from this in the long run.
    I married at 24 and it lasted less than 6 years. Sure it was great at the beginning but it was better when it was over.
    No offense but you have alot of life to live. Make the most of it and don't
    rush into anything. REMEMBER think with the head that is on your shoulders.
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  • Jstas
    Jstas Posts: 14,842
    edited August 2008
    bigaudiofanatic wrote: »
    Georgia

    You live in the most densely populated area of the country in the most densely populated state in the Union in the middle of the economic heart of the country and you can't find anyone closer than Georgia.


    You are gonna do what you are gonna do, no doubt about that. No one is trying to tell you to bail immediately. Well, it seems some are. But honestly, you are jumping in to this waaaaay too fast. Long distance relationships go this way. Months of talking with a few fleeting moments of contact. But you have so many red flags waving in your face that your chances of this working out are slim to none and it seems slim is leavin' town.

    You pursue this if you want but with extreme caution and prejudice about the situation. This requires a very healthy dose of skepticism.

    If you stay with this girl and try it out, good luck. If you don't, I feel bad for mentioning this but http://www.plentyoffish.com I feel bad mentioning it because cl35 uses it but I honestly found out about it months before he ever posted about it here. It's totally free and there are so many freaking people looking to meet someone on there it borders on insane. You're much more likely to find someone compatible there and you'll actually get to MEET them!
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  • bigaudiofanatic
    bigaudiofanatic Posts: 4,415
    edited August 2008
    Ya densely populated with mexicans
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  • Jstas
    Jstas Posts: 14,842
    edited August 2008
    bigaudiofanatic wrote: »
    Ya densely populated with mexicans

    You are willing to travel to Georgia but unwilling to go, we'll say 15 miles, outside of your town that is "populated with Mexicans" to meet someone with the particular physical qualities you prefer?


    Where in NJ do you live that you are so overwhelmed with Mexicans?
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  • bigaudiofanatic
    bigaudiofanatic Posts: 4,415
    edited August 2008
    LMAO Bridgeton nothing but Pennsylvania tags all over illegal mexicans.
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  • Mike Reeter
    Mike Reeter Posts: 4,315
    edited August 2008
    bigaudio,I'm really sorry man...but,if I were you I would disconnect my web service...bury myself in my work or whatever it is that you do...and get over this on-line love affair.

    If you don't,you will be back here crying the blues one day,wondering what to do next.
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  • BeRad
    BeRad Posts: 736
    edited August 2008
    Every relationship poses the (probable) set up for disaster. It's a fact, most relationships don't end up in marriage. Right now things may be going great as they usually do between 1 date and 2 months, but she might be seeing you as her support as she goes through this issue. I have dated a girl who was raped 19 years before I met her and it lasted 2 years (the relationship, not the rape). It took quite a while for the issues to start becoming apparent (or at least for me to notice them) It ended in disaster and I was messed up for a few months!

    If things are good now, stick with it as it is (as my boss always says: "It is what it is and nothing more.") Don't plan anything too long term however, as traumatic events such as what she experienced can cause repressed feelings and rendered attitudes towards everything from men to society in general. No matter how well you know her, you probably won't know the true person she is until many months after she gives birth. She might see the baby then want to keep it right away, or regret not keeping it afterwards as she sees and hears about it growing up. The situation is more than a bit sticky.

    Be prepared that in such a situation, the odds are that things will change drastically. Don't be afraid to be optimistic as the odds are sometimes beaten (I beat the odds at blackjack all the time), just refrain from developing expectations. Also be prepared to feel like **** for a long time if things get bad (although they probably won't be you fault in the least).

    Whatever you do, don't change your life for this person. Long distance relationships are almost impossible (I've tried it twice and still haven't learned, both times thinking she was "the one") Keep it going with the mentality of it being just for fun. Something might develop but as I said, odds are against you.

    I hope all works out well for you in either possible outcome.
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  • TroyD
    TroyD Posts: 13,077
    edited August 2008
    Exhibit 'A' that the gene pool needs a stronger dose of chlorine. :rolleyes:

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  • Dennis Gardner
    Dennis Gardner Posts: 4,861
    edited August 2008
    You didn't happen to spend any time with Tony Robbins in a elevator recently did you?;):D

    Repeat after me..........Shallow Hal wants a gal.
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  • demaples
    demaples Posts: 266
    edited August 2008
    20 years old with a gazillion single ladies everywhere???? Get a ticket to Costa Rica, experience many beautiful young ladies and you'll change your mind. Either that or get a bottle of scotch and a couple of girls gon wild dvds and kick back and wack it...:)~~~~

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  • candyliquor35m
    candyliquor35m Posts: 2,267
    edited August 2008
    what's love got to do with it ;)
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  • AsSiMiLaTeD
    AsSiMiLaTeD Posts: 11,728
    edited August 2008
    bobman1235 wrote: »
    Musta been true love.
    I was already laughing, but that made me spit out just a bit of coke... :D
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  • shadowofnight
    shadowofnight Posts: 2,735
    edited August 2008
    Hell, you have already invested a lot of your time talking to this girl...go meet her in person...have protected sex ( Not gonna get her pregnant, its for all the other crap out there...you know she was raped so I think HE wasnt too worried about passing on or catching diseases ) .....its not like you are getting married or anything.

    At least then you would know if the juice is worth the squeeze.......
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  • shawn474
    shawn474 Posts: 3,047
    edited August 2008
    Man, I was hoping this thread would just die. But, it's like a tractor beam - I keep getting sucked in.......
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  • Demiurge
    Demiurge Posts: 10,874
    edited August 2008
    shadowofnight wrote: »
    hell, you have already invested a lot of your time talking to this girl...go meet her in person...have protected sex ( not gonna get her pregnant, its for all the other crap out there...you know she was raped so i think he wasnt too worried about passing on or catching diseases ) .....its not like you are getting married or anything.

    At least then you would know if the juice is worth the squeeze.......

    wtf.....
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  • shadowofnight
    shadowofnight Posts: 2,735
    edited August 2008
    Demiurge wrote: »
    wtf.....

    This will splain it to you....... http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Always+know+if+the+juice+is+worth+the+squeeze
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  • Demiurge
    Demiurge Posts: 10,874
    edited August 2008
    shadowofnight wrote: »
    This will splain it to you....... http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Always+know+if+the+juice+is+worth+the+squeeze

    I didn't need an explanation. It's was a WTF for some really stupid advice.
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  • shadowofnight
    shadowofnight Posts: 2,735
    edited August 2008
    Demiurge wrote: »
    I didn't need an explanation. It's was a WTF for some really stupid advice.

    This guy has had a long term/long distance relationship never meeting this woman and comes to an audio forum and writes a thread asking if he is in LOVE ?

    Unless he plans on breaking it off with her right NOW , the ONLY thing left to do is meet her in person and see if they are physically compatible . Then he will know if putting up with the high amount of baggage is actually worth it...just as my advice stated.

    So WTF do you see that as stupid advice ? It's the only logical next step....unless your one of those that shudders at premarital sex :rolleyes:
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  • bobman1235
    bobman1235 Posts: 10,822
    edited August 2008
    Banging someone who is emotionally damaged just to see if the sex is worth the effort? That's horrible "advice".
    If you will it, dude, it is no dream.
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  • shadowofnight
    shadowofnight Posts: 2,735
    edited August 2008
    bobman1235 wrote: »
    Banging someone who is emotionally damaged just to see if the sex is worth the effort? That's horrible "advice".

    I didnt mean it in that sense....I was looking at the overall picture...thinking a relationship over the phone/internet ONLY is no relationship at all....its basically a fantasy.

    I wasnt delving into the go bang a rape victim....jesus christ...it was that you cant believe you actually have a relationship if you havent even MET the person. Go see if you can hold a conversation while physically together...and yes this includes ( Maybe not right away , but the woman can still have a healthy sex drive even after being raped...I have actually known a couple. ) sex at some point.
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  • zombie boy 2000
    zombie boy 2000 Posts: 6,641
    edited August 2008
    That's effin' hilarious, Bob. Maybe I should start considering hookers for a lifelong commitment.
    I never had it like this where I grew up. But I send my kids here because the fact is you go to one of the best schools in the country: Rushmore. Now, for some of you it doesn't matter. You were born rich and you're going to stay rich. But here's my advice to the rest of you: Take dead aim on the rich boys. Get them in the crosshairs and take them down. Just remember, they can buy anything but they can't buy backbone. Don't let them forget it. Thank you.Herman Blume - Rushmore
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  • dkg999
    dkg999 Posts: 5,647
    edited August 2008
    zombie boy 2000 wrote: »
    That's effin' hilarious, Bob. Maybe I should start considering hookers for a lifelong commitment.

    At least you would be on the pay as you go plan ;)
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  • Demiurge
    Demiurge Posts: 10,874
    edited August 2008
    I'm not "against" premarital sex. I set a personal standard for myself, and being a **** or a stick man isn't one of them. What you think is right for you and your own personal morals is your deal.

    The bottom line is that guy isn't in love. He sounds like a lonely guy who has trouble meeting women so he turned to the web. That's not to say you can't meet women on the internet, but generally they should at least live within a short car ride from you.

    This woman/girl was raped recently and is pregnant, she's in no emotional position to be carrying on any type of romantic relationship with anyone. She needs to take care of herself.

    Encouraging this guy to meet up with this chick and get laid to find out if it's all worth the effort is just a really messed up line of thinking, regardless of the back story.

    Put the facts together:

    20 years old guy.
    Fired from his job.
    Selling gear to travel from NJ to GA to meet a pregnant ex-stripper rape victim for the first time.
    Asking the forum if he's in love.

    The only advice is to keep away from this girl and get his own life in order and seek some help.
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  • zombie boy 2000
    zombie boy 2000 Posts: 6,641
    edited August 2008
    Are we ever going to get an update about the "meeting"? Did this **** go down or what?
    I never had it like this where I grew up. But I send my kids here because the fact is you go to one of the best schools in the country: Rushmore. Now, for some of you it doesn't matter. You were born rich and you're going to stay rich. But here's my advice to the rest of you: Take dead aim on the rich boys. Get them in the crosshairs and take them down. Just remember, they can buy anything but they can't buy backbone. Don't let them forget it. Thank you.Herman Blume - Rushmore
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  • dkg999
    dkg999 Posts: 5,647
    edited August 2008
    Make that "pregnant ex-stripper med-student rape victim". Anyone else here smell an online dating scam?
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  • bobman1235
    bobman1235 Posts: 10,822
    edited August 2008
    I believe he said the meeting was "3 weeks or so" away, so even if we haven't scared him off yet, it hasn't happened.
    If you will it, dude, it is no dream.
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  • shadowofnight
    shadowofnight Posts: 2,735
    edited August 2008
    dkg999 wrote: »
    Make that "pregnant ex-stripper med-student rape victim". Anyone else here smell an online dating scam?

    I got the pregnant, med-student, and rape victim.....was she really an ex- stripper too :eek:

    After this thread, I think he was " Scared straight " and going to stick with local women. But you never know...
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