So, I'm in a rough situation right now...

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  • GlennDog
    GlennDog Posts: 3,121
    edited March 2014
    cfrizz wrote: »
    For godsake this is NOT rocket science. She is MARRIED you have NO business being caught in the middle of their problems. Walk away and STAY away.

    That means NO chats on Facebook, no phone calls no contact whatsoever. Once you knew she was married you should have put distance between you and kept it there.

    She is looking for a new place to land & you are the sucker she has chosen. Cut ties now before you get in over your head. You've already got one foot on a banana peel. Keep it up and she is going to take you down with her.

    Find new friends.

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  • mrbigbluelight
    mrbigbluelight Posts: 9,864
    edited March 2014
    Cfrizz wrote:
    She is looking for a new place to land & you are the sucker she has chosen. Cut ties now before you get in over your head. You've already got one foot on a banana peel. Keep it up and she is going to take you down with her.

    Ms. Cfrizz hit the nail on the head.

    Being younger, it may be kind of flattering to have a married woman express an "interest" in you (forbidden fruit, etc).
    But to put it more bluntly than Ms. Cfrizz did, here's the truth of the matter:

    If she'll boink you, she'll boink anybody.

    Simple as that. Accept it for what it is, and RUN away.
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  • audiocr381ve
    audiocr381ve Posts: 2,588
    edited March 2014
    cfrizz wrote: »
    For godsake this is NOT rocket science. She is MARRIED you have NO business being caught in the middle of their problems. Walk away and STAY away.

    That means NO chats on Facebook, no phone calls no contact whatsoever. Once you knew she was married you should have put distance between you and kept it there.

    She is looking for a new place to land & you are the sucker she has chosen. Cut ties now before you get in over your head. You've already got one foot on a banana peel. Keep it up and she is going to take you down with her.

    Find new friends.

    Ditto Ditto Ditto

    You're an idiot for nurturing those feelings with a married women who supposedly is your "good friend's" wife. If you care anything about them and their marriage, stay the hell away from them. You're reckless dude.

    I really hope you take something away from this & you become a better man. Your decisions have consequences, and unfortunately something like this will cost you friends & destroy your reputation.
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  • Inspector 24
    Inspector 24 Posts: 1,308
    edited March 2014
    Why is this so complicated it needs three pages?

    Sounds like it's time for new friends.

    I've done it before, when a person or group of people has become toxic for whatever reason it's time to move on.

    Surprisingly it's not that easy, don't call, text, Facebook, nothing. Hit the road jack. 50 ways to leave your lover, or your toxic friends, they all involve stopping interaction and communication.
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  • Moose68Bash
    Moose68Bash Posts: 3,843
    edited March 2014
    smglbrth wrote: »
    You know, I usually don't quote scripture, but I will on this one. Proverbs 6 Verses 32-35 "Whoever commits adultery with a woman lacks understanding; He who does so destroys his own soul. Wounds and dishonor he will get, And his reproach will not be wiped away. For jealousy is a husband's fury; Therefore he will not spare in the day of vengeance. He will accept no recompense, Nor will he be appeased though you give many gifts."

    If they have problems, they have problems. Don't make it your problem because when their problems become your problems, you become the problem..., and you might not like the solution...

    Well put, smglbrth!
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  • jeremymarcinko
    jeremymarcinko Posts: 3,785
    edited March 2014
    I would need a demo in my room, before I could offer any advice.
    Oh, Listen here mister. We got no way of understandin' this world. But we got as much sense of this bird flyin in the sky. Now there is a lot that bird don't know, but it don't change the fact that the world is happening to him all the same. What I am tryin to say is, is that the course of your life, well its changing, and you don't even see it- Forest Bondurant
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  • Eocuph
    Eocuph Posts: 75
    edited March 2014
    It's sad how people don't respect marriages nowadays.. If a couple is married you should back off. I've never heard of a marriage where people are always happy. But they work through it. Last thing a marriage needs is for someone else to get involved and make things worse.
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  • seabeerob213
    seabeerob213 Posts: 1,843
    edited March 2014
    ta know, i did say taking the advice, its just difficult to keep going with the advice, doesnt mean i wont follow through
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  • George Grand
    George Grand Posts: 12,258
    edited March 2014
    Get this load of crap out of here and don't bring it back.
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  • Jhayman
    Jhayman Posts: 1,548
    edited March 2014
    I think you know what the right thing to do is, I think you're just trying to find someone to validate your inner feelings and I get it it can become intoxicating to gave some euphoria feelings tickling your nether region..
    I almost ended up in a very similar situation many many years ago when I was about 18 and I would have ruined my future marriage but I chose to end it before it even got started by not seeing these friends anymore which in turn lost a few more friends as well..
    You know what to do so just do it..
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  • seabeerob213
    seabeerob213 Posts: 1,843
    edited March 2014
    Jhayman wrote: »
    I think you know what the right thing to do is, I think you're just trying to find someone to validate your inner feelings and I get it it can become intoxicating to gave some euphoria feelings tickling your nether region..
    I almost ended up in a very similar situation many many years ago when I was about 18 and I would have ruined my future marriage but I chose to end it before it even got started by not seeing these friends anymore which in turn lost a few more friends as well..
    You know what to do so just do it..

    like i said im doing it, but its not always easy, i dont need the validation, i have plenty of peers here twlling me i should go for it, that i shouldnt feel bad about this, and all that jazz, i wanted the encouragement and support in basically telling my friends to buzz off.
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  • gudnoyez
    gudnoyez Posts: 8,132
    edited March 2014
    Since you reluctantly seem to be taking anyone's advice wait till the day before you pcs or ets and hit it real good seems that is your intentions is it not?
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  • seabeerob213
    seabeerob213 Posts: 1,843
    edited March 2014
    no, my intentions are to try and keep my friends and let this be water under the bridge,
    2 Channel(work in progress):DAC: Schiit modi 2 uberAmp:Parasound 1200 MK IISub:RBH 1010-SEP Speakers: Monitor 5A peerlesscurrently running some krk rokit 3g since the HK pre outs died and i need to start breaking everything down to move in a couple monthsHeadphones:Source: tidalDAC: schiit modius epre: schiit sysAmp: AQ dragonfly black/ schiit magni2 Cans: Velodyne V-True, Grado SR225i, sennheiser x drop gaming headsetPC:DAC: schiit modius e(over spdif)pre: schiit sysspeakers: prenous eris 5 xtSub: Earthquake Sound MiniMe-P63most of my comments are passing on of info, im a noob, im just trying to help how i can, if im wrong or out of place to comment, dont hesitate to let me know :)"WITH WILLING HEARTS AND SKILLFUL HANDS, THE DIFFICULT WE DO AT ONCE, THE IMPOSSIBLE TAKES A BIT LONGER, WITH COMPASSION FOR OTHERS. WE BUILD - WE FIGHT FOR PEACE WITH FREEDOM"Seabee Memorial, Arlington, VA
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  • tonyb
    tonyb Posts: 33,014
    edited March 2014
    seabeerob213 wrote: »
    no, my intentions are to try and keep my friends and let this be water under the bridge,

    Unfortunately my friend.....that's not how the real world works with these scenarios. This isn't like telling a friends mom they got a tattoo...this is serious crap and with serious crap that water will never be under the bridge. Learn and move on.
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  • ken brydson
    ken brydson Posts: 8,786
    edited March 2014
    PFB's brother... This isn't going to end well...
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  • sucks2beme
    sucks2beme Posts: 5,606
    edited March 2014
    **** around with another man's wife is a good way to end up dead.
    I knew a couple of guys back in the Corps that did that cr*p all the time.
    One ended up in a shooting match with an angry husband. It ended with
    the husband dead. And no, he didn't end up with the girl, either.
    So stop mulling it over. Walk away. You already messed up that relationship
    between them and you, there is no going back. No point whining about it
    either. It's done, move on.
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  • Inspector 24
    Inspector 24 Posts: 1,308
    edited March 2014
    seabeerob213 wrote: »
    no, my intentions are to try and keep my friends and let this be water under the bridge,

    I've had friends that fit your stories all too well. Eventually I got sick of getting my feet wet every time the river rose above the bridge, after a couple good soaks (some were alcoholic soaks) I crossed the bridge and haven't looked back.

    Sounds like you care about your friends. I hope for your sake things turn out good for you.
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  • seabeerob213
    seabeerob213 Posts: 1,843
    edited March 2014
    Inspector 24 wrote: »
    I've had friends that fit your stories all too well. Eventually I got sick of getting my feet wet every time the river rose above the bridge, after a couple good soaks (some were alcoholic soaks) I crossed the bridge and haven't looked back.

    Sounds like you care about your friends. I hope for your sake things turn out good for you.

    I have been told my whole life i care too much about other people, and am too nice, kinda sounds like im being told that now, by everyone saying forget them all. Think I'll start heading down that path, and only associate with the one i have to work with(part of the group but not the married couple).
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  • megasat16
    megasat16 Posts: 3,521
    edited March 2014
    All the Great advises given here! Run far away as fast as you can and never look back! Shoot the foot that wants to turn back.

    Permanently shuts down all connections on all the social networking sites and change the phone number.

    Forget all about this and you'll be as good as brand new in a couple of months.
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  • seabeerob213
    seabeerob213 Posts: 1,843
    edited March 2014
    all right everybody, thanks for the advice, i know im acting like a stupid kid, i am one, but trying to grow up a little at a time, and take responsibility and fix my mistakes. sorry to post my drama and problems on you guys, i love CP and you guys. can the mods lock or remove this thread? i dont think it belongs here now that i have a solid base of advice.
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