Son Moved out today.

mantis · August 2023

We as parents teach our childern to be strong, do the right things, make good decisions etc.

We prepare them for life after living at home and pray they make it and better then you did.

I'm proud of my son and his Girlfriend. She is an absolute sweetheart and an Engineer so right up our German alley LOL.

As he packed up his stuff I started to get this sick feeling in my stomach, a bit of a pain in my chest and an overall sadness of lose. My Son is not just my Son, he's my buddy , we do so much together. Car Shows, Dealer lots , we love going and looking at cars, Detailing cars together and talking about detailing stuff. He loves I'm a Chemical Distubitor and wants to come to car shows with us to set up shop. We have a 10x10 tent for the business.

We watch YouTube together , go on rides all kinds of stuff and I feel like all of that just came to an end.

Don't get me wrong, I'm extremely happy for them and it's what we prepared him for and I know he will do great. He's great kid well man I should say and one day he will make an excellent Father.

So did any of you have a hard time seeing your kids move out? My wife seems to be taking it well, I'm a mess.

PSOVLSK · August 2023

If they’ll ever move out I’ll let you know.

marvda1 · August 2023

Just think you're going to miss out on all that rent money and you get to keep food in the fridge.

nooshinjohn · August 2023

I’ll just be glad when son number two can start daycare…

Milito · August 2023

I have a 40 year old son and he moved out (needless to say a long time ago) I had mixed feelings about it. It happened when he went to college and he never moved back as He stayed in Austin and ended up getting married. I was happy to see he get a chance to see what he could do in the world, but sad to know that he would never be living back home again or at least having long visits with us.
He is doing very well in software development. He designs the software that allows you to order items online.
One of the smartest things I did when they were growing up was building and putting computers in their rooms (this was in the 90's) so they could learn about them. He read numerous books and was self taught about programing. She was into computer art.
You are blessed that you and your son have a lot of common interest as my son and I never did. I was a car guy (got that from my Dad) and he wasn't among other interests that are different. We can't discuss politics as we have very different views on that subject. His changed after he went to UT in Austin, his professors and wife I believe had a big influence on his views. I can't discuss politics with her either, however she is a great wife to him and a great mother to their children so I guess I can't complain too much
Now this may be different for you, but many of my friends say that their daughters visit home more than their sons do as they end up visiting their wife's families more. I know our daughter talks with us much more than our son as she calls just about every day and he calls once a week. As far as visits she is an hour away and he is 4 hours away so we get see her more than him. I'm closer to my daughter than my son and he is closer to my wife.

mantis · August 2023

Milito wrote: »

I have a 40 year old son and he moved out (needless to say a long time ago) I had mixed feelings about it. It happened when he went to college and he never moved back as He stayed in Austin and ended up getting married. I was happy to see he get a chance to see what he could do in the world, but sad to know that he would never be living back home again or at least having long visits with us.
He is doing very well in software development. He designs the software that allows you to order items online.
One of the smartest things I did when they were growing up was building and putting computers in their rooms (this was in the 90's) so they could learn about them. He read numerous books and was self taught about programing. She was into computer art.
You are blessed that you and your son have a lot of common interest as my son and I never did. I was a car guy (got that from my Dad) and he wasn't among other interests that are different. We can't discuss politics as we have very different views on that subject. His changed after he went to UT in Austin, his professors and wife I believe had a big influence on his views. I can't discuss politics with her either, however she is a great wife to him and a great mother to their children so I guess I can't complain too much
Now this may be different for you, but many of my friends say that their daughters visit home more than their sons do as they end up visiting their wife's families more. I know our daughter talks with us much more than our son as she calls just about every day and he calls once a week. As far as visits she is an hour away and he is 4 hours away so we get see her more than him. I'm closer to my daughter than my son and he is closer to my wife.

Yeah I hear yeah. Sorry about that. Sharing car life with your son is something very special. I'm really sorry you missed out on that. It really bonds my son dn I together in a pretty deep way. It's great and I fear it's gonna fizzle out some since he doesn't live here. He did say he still wants to go out on Sundays to car lots, go to car shows, clean the cars on weekend etc. He only live about 20-25 minutes from here so I hope that stays true. I'll have no one to do those thing with if he doesn't. I drag my wife to car shows and sometimes she enjoys them but honestly I feel like she just wants to rush through and maybe not stay as long as I would like.

My daughter is still home and I also have a very good relationship with her. But it's very different. She's a girl, she is into cars but on a different level than my Son and I. It's fun she like VW buggies.

audioluvr · August 2023

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mantis wrote: »

I have a 40 year old son and he moved out (needless to say a long time ago) I had mixed feelings about it. It happened when he went to college and he never moved back as He stayed in Austin and ended up getting married. I was happy to see he get a chance to see what he could do in the world, but sad to know that he would never be living back home again or at least having long visits with us.
He is doing very well in software development. He designs the software that allows you to order items online.
One of the smartest things I did when they were growing up was building and putting computers in their rooms (this was in the 90's) so they could learn about them. He read numerous books and was self taught about programing. She was into computer art.
You are blessed that you and your son have a lot of common interest as my son and I never did. I was a car guy (got that from my Dad) and he wasn't among other interests that are different. We can't discuss politics as we have very different views on that subject. His changed after he went to UT in Austin, his professors and wife I believe had a big influence on his views. I can't discuss politics with her either, however she is a great wife to him and a great mother to their children so I guess I can't complain too much
Now this may be different for you, but many of my friends say that their daughters visit home more than their sons do as they end up visiting their wife's families more. I know our daughter talks with us much more than our son as she calls just about every day and he calls once a week. As far as visits she is an hour away and he is 4 hours away so we get see her more than him. I'm closer to my daughter than my son and he is closer to my wife.

Yeah I hear yeah. Sorry about that. Sharing car life with your son is something very special. I'm really sorry you missed out on that. It really bonds my son dn I together in a pretty deep way. It's great and I fear it's gonna fizzle out some since he doesn't live here. He did say he still wants to go out on Sundays to car lots, go to car shows, clean the cars on weekend etc. He only live about 20-25 minutes from here so I hope that stays true. I'll have no one to do those thing with if he doesn't. I drag my wife to car shows and sometimes she enjoys them but honestly I feel like she just wants to rush through and maybe not stay as long as I would like.

My daughter is still home and I also have a very good relationship with her. But it's very different. She's a girl, she is into cars but on a different level than my Son and I. It's fun she like VW buggies.

skrol · August 2023

I'm there with you mantis. My oldest son moved out about a year ago at 24 but only a state away in DE. Last month he packed up and moved from DE to Portland OR. We worry about them. We hope we taught them all the stuff they needed to know, that the know enough to learn the rest on their own (he is pretty bright), that we didn't screw them up too much but also we are very proud of them and look forward to seeing them soon.

mantis · August 2023

skrol wrote: »

I'm there with you mantis. My oldest son moved out about a year ago at 24 but only a state away in DE. Last month he packed up and moved from DE to Portland OR. We worry about them. We hope we taught them all the stuff they needed to know, that the know enough to learn the rest on their own (he is pretty bright), that we didn't screw them up too much but also we are very proud of them and look forward to seeing them soon.

Thanks for sharing that. It's pretty hard. I look for him out of habit and I know he's where he wants to be and should be. The Selfish in me holds on while the Father in me feels proud.

Son Moved out today.

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