There goes the audio upgrades for a while...

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  • Lil'Abbey
    Lil'Abbey Posts: 50
    edited June 2010
    Oh yeah, one other thing. Next time around try and find someone who doesn't care about this sort of thing.
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  • danger boy
    danger boy Posts: 15,722
    edited June 2010
    Noah is free to do as he feels is right..


    personally though.. i'd want the ring back.... what female wouldn't want a keep a $2k ring?
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  • danger boy
    danger boy Posts: 15,722
    edited June 2010
    nadams wrote: »
    I got off work early today, and have Days of the New CRANKED on the SDA's. Sounding good. I don't have any brews yet, but I'll be going to pick some up later.

    atta boy! now you're talking ;)

    If i lived closer to you.. i'd take you out and buy you a drink or two :p
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  • Demiurge
    Demiurge Posts: 10,874
    edited June 2010
    danger boy wrote: »
    .... what female wouldn't want a keep a $2k ring?

    ...one with some integrity. No offense to this woman, but he shouldn't have to ask.
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  • Lil'Abbey
    Lil'Abbey Posts: 50
    edited June 2010
    danger boy wrote: »
    what female wouldn't want a keep a $2k ring?

    I managed to find one. 10 years ago when we were just dating and she needed a new car I offered to buy her a Boxster. She said she wanted a Honda Prelude instead and that she would pay for it with her own money. I knew right then she was a keeper!
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  • nadams
    nadams Posts: 5,877
    edited June 2010
    She was just over to get some of her stuff. I told her I wanted to keep the ring. She asked why, and I just said "because it cost me a lot of money, and I'd rather keep it". She said a quiet "ok" and left it at that.

    And to be fair, the only reason I had to ask is because I told her last night she could keep it. You guys changed my mind for the better.

    Now... about those brews... Maybe a smoke too, she hated that.
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  • cfrizz
    cfrizz Posts: 13,415
    edited June 2010
    Sorry to hear Noah, but better now than later. I agree that you should keep the ring. It would be one thing if it was paid off, but since it isn't & your expenses are tight...

    A better woman will come along eventually. Give yourself sometime to heal, & focus on you for a bit.
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  • heiney9
    heiney9 Posts: 25,164
    edited June 2010
    I don't see a problem with you keeping the ring. You're only in 3 payments. Had you gotten married then it's really hers to keep. Why should you have to continue to pay on it long after she's gone? Try to work something out with the place you bought it at or sell it, and move on.

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  • Jstas
    Jstas Posts: 14,808
    edited June 2010
    Keep the ring as a "reminder"? So I guess the time she spent with you and the actual proposal didn't have enough of an impact for her that she needed to keep what now amounts to a $2K trinket?

    Yeah, that ain't cool. Glad you got it back.
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  • danger boy
    danger boy Posts: 15,722
    edited June 2010
    cool Noah that you got the ring back.

    I don't know your now ex, so I can't say anything good or bad about her since I've never met her b4.

    now get your drink and smoke on!! ;)
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  • bsoko2
    bsoko2 Posts: 1,449
    edited June 2010
    Sell the ring and upgrade!
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  • nooshinjohn
    nooshinjohn Posts: 25,383
    edited June 2010
    bsoko2 wrote: »
    Sell the ring and upgrade!


    Plus 1/2 on that...


    I think it better to try and sell the ring privately and put that money towards
    paying off the money you paid for it.:)
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  • Polkersince85
    Polkersince85 Posts: 2,883
    edited June 2010
    The two of you will be friends....until you see her out with someone else. Sell the ring but be sure you know it's actual value. Don't let it go too cheap. The consignment idea may work better for you.
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  • nadams
    nadams Posts: 5,877
    edited June 2010
    I think the jewelers will help me out with selling the ring, but I haven't approached them yet. The ring is still in immaculate condition, and they know what they sold me. The diamond is certified, and has no visible flaws (that either of us could see).

    I'm still going to hang on to it for a month before I try to do anything with it. I'm not being optimistic about us getting back together. And, in fact, neither of us should want it. BUT, we've had splits like this before, when we weren't engaged. We never lasted more than a month apart, so I figure that will be a good timeline.
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  • nooshinjohn
    nooshinjohn Posts: 25,383
    edited June 2010
    nadams wrote: »
    I think the jewelers will help me out with selling the ring, but I haven't approached them yet. The ring is still in immaculate condition, and they know what they sold me. The diamond is certified, and has no visible flaws (that either of us could see).

    I'm still going to hang on to it for a month before I try to do anything with it. I'm not being optimistic about us getting back together. And, in fact, neither of us should want it. BUT, we've had splits like this before, when we weren't engaged. We never lasted more than a month apart, so I figure that will be a good timeline.

    I wish I could be optomistic for you. Even IF you decide to get back together, I would not propose to her again for a very, very long time. Take the ring to the jeweler and have them resell it. If you guys make it a couple years and you want to try again, buy a new one that has not been tarnished by the mistakes of the past.
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  • jflail2
    jflail2 Posts: 2,868
    edited June 2010
    Sorry to hear things went South Noah, but like you said it's better to find out now than later.

    The girl I was engaged to broke up with me about a year and a 1/2 ago now. I mistakenly let her keep the ring (very nice one set in platinum), and now I wished I'd gotten it back.

    That being said, you might have some luck at www.idonowidont.com

    This was the site recommended to me for selling the engagement ring if I got mine back. Sounds as if you'd get a fair assessment of quality and value, and you don't HAVE to sell if you send it in for appraisal. You can apparently also list it on their site without selling it directly to the company. Might be worth checking out anyway.

    Good luck man. It sucks right now, but it's for the best in the long run. Take your time finding someone new. DO NOT RUSH. I did, and ended up with a complete idiot. I'm finally over her, and have just started dating a new girl after a quality 6 month hiatus.

    Spend some time "repairing yourself", and treat yourself to a nice vacation, trip to Atlantic City with the fellas, something fun and you-centric. I took up martial arts as it was a way to kick cigs and feel better about myself as well. I LOVE it now, even though I'm horrible still :). Work on you, and let everything else fall into place. It most certainly will.
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  • billbillw
    billbillw Posts: 6,726
    edited June 2010
    EDIT: Didn't see that you got the ring back. Way to MAN UP! It might reduce the chances of friendship with her, but like others have said, a clean break is better in the long run.
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  • Danny Tse
    Danny Tse Posts: 5,206
    edited June 2010
    I just noticed the thread....sorry to hear about what happened, Noah. :( Good to hear you got the ring back though.

    I am in the same boat. Engaged in January 2008 and she broke it off May 2009. I asked her to return the engagement ring (an upgrade ring after she rejected my first engagement ring - think that was a sign of trouble?) and she said she will. I keep asking her about it and finally last month, she said she don't have it. She no longer return my calls nor my emails. I am about to start legal actions against her. That ring cost me some serious audio upgrades and I intend to get it back.
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  • nadams
    nadams Posts: 5,877
    edited June 2010
    jflail - thanks for the link. I'll consider it if I don't like the offer from the local shop I bought it from. Regardless of if we get back together or not, it will be a long time before we get engaged again, if ever. And I'd never give that ring to another girl.

    bill- yeah, I got it back. Don't worry guys, I'm not a complete ****. Remember - that's why this relationship didn't work... I wasn't willing to be the ****.

    Danny - I hope your state has the conditional arguement (not likely... it is CA after all). Best of luck to you.

    Remember guys.... neither one of us are bitter.... yet.
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  • nadams
    nadams Posts: 5,877
    edited June 2010
    Currently at rock-concert (or in this case "punk") volume - The Offspring.
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  • Danny Tse
    Danny Tse Posts: 5,206
    edited June 2010
    nadams wrote: »
    Danny - I hope your state has the conditional arguement (not likely... it is CA after all). Best of luck to you.

    Thanks. I checked....and it's conditional. Heck, I even called up one of the the local radio lawyers and asked....yup, conditional.
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  • Sherardp
    Sherardp Posts: 8,038
    edited June 2010
    Pardon my earlier post bro. Sorry things went South with the relationship. Just remember there's always something better out there. Who knows maybe she will realize what she really screwed up and coming running back. Regardless I hope it all works out for the best bro. If I were in the area I'd take you out and get you trashed man.
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  • nadams
    nadams Posts: 5,877
    edited June 2010
    Sherardp wrote: »
    Pardon my earlier post bro. Sorry things went South with the relationship. Just remember there's always something better out there. Who knows maybe she will realize what she really screwed up and coming running back. Regardless I hope it all works out for the best bro. If I were in the area I'd take you out and get you trashed man.

    No worries, man.... Seems there's NOBODY around here to get me trashed! And I'm too broke to do it myself. *sigh*. I don't want her to come running back... if we're to be together, then it's both of us who screwed up this time. Either way, it'll be a long damn time before I'm engaged again.

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    If I had the doors/windows open, I'd have a disturbing the peace count against me by now. It may still be coming...
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  • nadams
    nadams Posts: 5,877
    edited June 2010
    Is it bad when I go out on the porch and the neighbors look at me funny? I'm not sure if it's because I'm smoking again, or because I've had the music cranked (and been singing along). Either way, they need to stay out of my business.
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  • maximillian
    maximillian Posts: 2,144
    edited June 2010
    Got to agree with the ex on the smoking thing... try to get out of that habit. Besides the health issues, how do smokers afford their habit?

    I am glad you got the ring. It's just too much coin to let her have it as a gift. Worst case, if the jewelers don't help you out, many of them will let you trade in for an upgraded one and give you the inflated price that you already paid. I know Kay's does this. So when you do find that special someone you can trade in the current ring for the one she really likes. I really don't think you can give your next fiancee the same ring. Some women are particular like that.

    About keepers... I too am blessed with a woman who spends less than I do. She is quite frugal. Just one of the many reasons I have been married for almost 14 years now.
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  • Kex
    Kex Posts: 5,166
    edited June 2010
    maximillian wrote: »
    ... I too am blessed with a woman who spends less than I do. She is quite frugal. Just one of the many reasons I have been married for almost 14 years now.
    I used to have a GF like that too. She was truly amazing, although a bit too much of the "silent" type for my liking at times. Some friends brought her by my place to introduce us since they thought we might be a good match. Everything was going great until the day I decided to give her a love bite on the bum, and she farted in my face and flew out the window. That's how I found out why she was so quiet up until then: she was an inflatable. It took me a long time to get over that relationship! :D
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  • grimmace19
    grimmace19 Posts: 1,429
    edited June 2010
    Sorry again for the errant post much earlier on today and sorry to hear the bad news. One suggestion if you aren't desperate for cash from getting the ring back is to hold onto it and upgrade when you do find the right one. Most places will give you your full purchase price back for the ring as long as you put it towards something more expensive. That way whenever you are ready to do it again you could put just a bit more towards another ring and get something even better without having to give her the same one haha.
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  • nooshinjohn
    nooshinjohn Posts: 25,383
    edited June 2010
    Kex wrote: »
    Everything was going great until the day I decided to give her a love bite on the bum, and she farted in my face and flew out the window. That's how I found out why she was so quiet up until then: she was an inflatable. :D


    Did she at least pop your cherry before you popped hers?:p:D:D;)
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  • lightman1
    lightman1 Posts: 10,788
    edited June 2010
    Noah... You are a f#cktard of the highest order. No BS here. I know where you live. What say we head down to the brewhouse when I get there?
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  • disneyjoe7
    disneyjoe7 Posts: 11,435
    edited June 2010
    Good you didn't lose a close friend, but sorry it didn't work out either.

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