Single again!!!

janmike

Josh,
Looks likes the words of wisdom have been provided to you. What you do with that is your decision. The last thing I would want is a relationship where the trust element is anything less than 100%. I am not sure how old you are but you will probably meet a number of ladies in your life. A wise good looking and successful colleague, yes a female, once told me that the last thing a respectable good looking, successful female wants is a drunk hanging off the end of her arm. Good luck.

George Grand

Report me too cause I'll echo everything Troy said.

You came here with a head and heart full of pain, and a system full of booze. Some of the stuff your displaying is off the wall. Get a handle on your own affairs (the drinking) and then try and surmount whatever other problems you have.

NotaSuv

Polkitup2 wrote: »

Man you remind me of that guy that got voted off the island last week.

hahaha... i think this whole season has been scripted

JoshParsons84

Do you seriously think I have an alcohol problem? I mean I go to work and come home. And that's my week. Then I party on the weekend. OMG I do have a problem! Holy sh@t...Y'all are right. Maybe I DO need to quit. I'm just sick of being hurt and I'm tired of being lonely. I'm only 24 years old but I can honestly say I've been through a lot of BS in my life. Not only with women heartaches (I've been through a few of women already) but family affairs. Countless fist-fights with my dad because of being an alcoholic, my dad's side of the family turning their back on me over her and so much more BS. I know what I want in life, I'm not looking for one-night screws. I want a wife to come home to that loves me and cherishes me. The same love I have to offer a woman. I want everybody to know that I appreciate the words of wisdom but now it's up to me to take heed to everybody's advice and see what I can do now. Man I'm telling you depression sucks big time!

janmike

JoshParsons84 wrote: »

...My drinking has gotten worse than it ever has. Every weekend a fifth and sometimes a couple days during the week too...

Seems like you identified that you may have a problem. The folks here are only responding to your words and by the sounds of it your cry for help. That is your decision and conclusion Josh.

Strong Bad

I do have to side with Troy's comments, as harsh as they were said, yeah i'm siding with them.

I've put in almost 7 years working in stripclubs, so I've seen a helluva lot in my time. Those girls do it for a number of reasons and most of those reasons are because of something effed up in their life. The home life is effed up, molested as a child, abandoned, hooked on drugs, alcoholic, scrambled eggs for brains, just looking for someone to take care of them for the rest of their life, you name it. NOW, not all of the girls are completely wacked. I honestly have seen a few finish college or nursing school (alot of strippers love going to nursing school) and have gotten out of the stripclub scene.

This one you got was a HUGE train wreck from the start. She was VERY good at manipulating you.

What you should do (only a suggestion) is put the bottle down and think about that DNA test. You grab the bottle, get effed up, pass out, wake up the next morning and find the problems still there exactly as they were. 4 kids by 3 guys....see the pattern. You absolutely cannot take her word for ****. DO NOT believe her any longer. Look out for yourself!

Stay single for a while and patch up your life! You got the huge mess with her to deal with and now all you can think about is finding a new chick to bone.

STAY SINGLE AND FIX THE PROBLEMS YOU HAVE!

JoshParsons84

I just have 1 question: are there any GOOD women out there anymore? Or is that an obsolete suggestions?

JoshParsons84

Well Strong Bad I haven't had sex in probably 2 months and yeah it sucks going that long. I can't help it but I AM a total nympho. Maybe that adds to the problem also. But I AM gonna get the DNA test done. And I admit yeah she was really good at manipulating me. Everybody told me she was gonna take me for a ride. Maybe last night happened for a reason. As bad as it hurt to see another guys car there. Maybe it HAD to happen before she DID take me for a long expensive ride. I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason and I try to see the positive in every situation but she just totally had a cloud over my eyes. I dunno what it was about her that I loved. Maybe it WAS the fact I was a total nympho and she gave me the best sex I EVER had in my life. Maybe it was lust not love. I dunno. But as much as I wanna jump right into another new relationship, it might be best to straighten out this mess that's called "my life" huh? It feels good having people to talk to. That's been another reason I've been having such a hard time with this is I have nobody to talk to and get everything off my chest. I have a problem with keeping everything bottled in and communicating with people.

janmike

Go get some help Josh. You are revealing way too many personal things here to a bunch of total strangers.

NotaSuv

JoshParsons84 wrote: »

I just have 1 question: are there any GOOD women out there anymore? Or is that an obsolete suggestions?

DUDE are you rereading your posts???
This is a audio board where all have been nice enough to read and post to your thread....they dont have too, but most if not all, have been there ..done that...now I am sure that while you were going out with this girl many people told you to just walk away from her but you didnt....blinded by whatever....when you post as you did...you get what you got...what did you expect..."wait hold on a minute let me wrap up my oldest and send her to you" "college grad and a virgin to boot"..........so try the personals if your looking for a rebound romp.....take the advice given here with a open mind....at 24 your still wet behind the ears REGUARGLESS of the tough life you think you have had so far...I had 3 broken eardrums by the age of 10 from my wonderful pops backhanding me for elbows on the table...we all have closets full of crap..thats life and it doeant always get better unless you make it better.....nothings predetermined..you control your own life...you made the bad choices....now learn by them and the advice some are trying to give you...if you want sugar coatings go to facebook

george daniel

Josh,,, put the cork back in the bottle,,and spend some time alone,,take inventory,,it's never too late,, good luck,, and go easy bro.

Strong Bad

You just answered most of your questions. Josh, you know what to do man.

Using common sense I can assure you of this...she will try to manipulate you again. "Oh, i'm sorry! I didn't mean to do what I did last night with that guy! I am going through a tough emotional time! Blah blah blah!" Then she no doubt will tempt you by wanting to rock your world again.

Don't believe a damn word of it! Do the math again....4 kids by 3 different guys. As harsh as this may be to think of, you're just one of the guys she twisted to get what she wanted. The guy that was with her last night, he's got the honors of dealing with her now. I'm guessing in about 9 months, the tally will be 5 kids by 4 different guys.

For the record, I'm 40yo, single and NO KIDS! I dated a few strippers in my 7 years working in clubs so i'm not innocent of that aspect. I was however smart enough to use birth control and somehow had the smarts (or maybe guardian angel) to see the **** when it was starting.

Find a good **** website and jerkoff for a while. Definitely do that if she wants to see you in person to talk. Snap one off the carrot so your hormones drop down for a little bit before meeting with her. That way, you'll think better with your brain and not other things.

heiney9

Josh, life is suck sometimes. I'm sure it helps to vent and discuss on the forum but do yourself a favor and get some professional help. See a counselor and get the issues up on the table and let the professional help work through the issues. This is not the place to fix your problems or to get deep emotional support or spiritual guidance. Lots of good people here, but in the end the words on the screen is the only contact we have.

Your situation is by no means unique and I'm sure you feel pretty bad (and rightly so), but getting your head back in order should be numero uno and then taking care of your daughter (if she's really yours) should be your second order of business.

Good luck

H9

shawn474

Josh,
You seem like a pretty good guy that just going through a rough time right now. I agree with everyone here. If the boy happens to be yours, then meeting her happened for a reason and you are blessed with a son. If it's not your kid, decide what's best for you (take that as a blessing and walk away from her). Either way, the consensus seems to be to quit drinking and get some professional help. Hope you start feeling better soon.

Airplay355

+1 to the **** website

JoshParsons84

Strong Bad wrote: »

Find a good **** website and jerkoff for a while.

Dude that's hilarious! Just might have to do that. I have a few good ones in mind

brettw22

JoshParsons84 wrote: »

I just have 1 question: are there any GOOD women out there anymore? Or is that an obsolete suggestions?

Who's to say that women would consider YOU 'good' exactly? Maybe harsh, but think about it.......

THe best thing that anyone can do with regard to relationships is to pretty much ignore all that the other person says, and pay complete attention to what they do........

That goes both ways.........not just for your skewed way of focusing primarily on her......

You're 24.........grow up.

dfranks

TroyD wrote: »

Yeah, absolutely. Get some spanish fly while you are at it.

I don't mean to be harsh but I'm just sick and damn tired of people acting like dumbasses, making STOOPID frigging choices, frigging up thier lives and then scratching thier heads WONDERING why the are in the mess they are in.

What REALLY pisses me off is that it's not bad enough people want to f*ck up thier lives. No, we've got to introduce kids into the picture? Why? Because it just ain't the same with a condom? We can afford Marlboro Lights and Jim Beam but not birth control pills? You know, if people want to be dumbasses then, well, God Bless but producing kids that are pretty much f*cked from Jump Street through no fault of thier own? Yeah, THAT pisses me off.

BDT

Better report me too cause I agree with him. I am dad too, the only thing I heard out of all this is you have a kid and are trying to get another GF.

Smarten up and get some backbone in life and raise your kid and leave the hoochie mammas alone.

Your kid will love you for it.

If you don't like the answers.... Don't post the question!

engtaz

F1nut wrote: »

Put the bottle down and everything in your life will get better, including picking better partners. Good luck.

Great Advice. +1

engtaz

danger boy

Strong Bad wrote: »

I've put in almost 7 years working in stripclubs

this i gotta hear more about. LOL

jayman_1975

brettw22 wrote: »

THe best thing that anyone can do with regard to relationships is to pretty much ignore all that the other person says, and pay complete attention to what they do........

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That is super good advice as i've always believed that "actions speak louder than words"

tom t

my brother met a girl at a bar once. she was a nice girl he thought. then he found out she had a kid. a week later he found out she had two kids,then three kids,then four kids then five kids. all by different guys,and married to none of them. i smacked him around alittle to strighten him out. now shes gone. end of story

Strong Bad

danger boy wrote: »

this i gotta hear more about. LOL

Gonna make for some fun Polkfest conversation, thats for sure! LOL!

TroyD

Please do report me.

If you are looking for someone to sit here and blow sunshine up your skirt take it someplace else because here is the way I see it. You hook up with a known baby-making machine. She takes you for a ride. You have a child. You drink too much. From what you are posting here, the issue that you should worry about the most (hint: 18 months old) you are talking about the least. You seem to be more worried about taking care of your ****.

Tough life? I just spent a good chunk of last year in Iraq. Part of that entailed sending kids home in metal cases. Ask me how much sympathy I have for your ****.

If you got problems, deal with them. Period. End of story. You are 24 years old...I don't know what sort of hand you've been dealt but the thing about this train wreck is that you can put it back on the track. However, that will take some growing up, slick. Worrying more about your kid than your dick would be a good first step.

BDT

bikezappa

TroyD wrote: »

I don't mean to be harsh but I'm just sick and damn tired of people acting like dumbasses, making STOOPID frigging choices, frigging up thier lives and then scratching thier heads WONDERING why the are in the mess they are in.

What REALLY pisses me off is that it's not bad enough people want to f*ck up thier lives. No, we've got to introduce kids into the picture? Why? Because it just ain't the same with a condom? We can afford Marlboro Lights and Jim Beam but not birth control pills? You know, if people want to be dumbasses then, well, God Bless but producing kids that are pretty much f*cked from Jump Street through no fault of thier own? Yeah, THAT pisses me off.BDT

I'll be harsh, this guy screwed up and will probably continue to screw up.

Makes a baby with a women and has no commitment.

You screwed that child. You should grow up and take resposibility for that child.

Have another drink to get numb and dumb.

Give me a break.

petrym

Troy will mellow after he gets over the jet lag or over the soju hangover.
j/k

danger boy

Josh, turning **** may just solve all your problems LOL

JK!

good luck. hope you can work things out and be happy. but whatever you do, DO NOT take that girl back. I think she'll prob come looking for you to patch things up at some point. tell her to take a hike though.

bikezappa

Josh get a Vas ASAP.

tom t

maybe we should start a social service category. seems it would do rather well here

Early B.

TroyD wrote: »

If you got problems, deal with them. Period. End of story. You are 24 years old...I don't know what sort of hand you've been dealt but the thing about this train wreck is that you can put it back on the track. However, that will take some growing up, slick. Worrying more about your kid than your dick would be a good first step.

Troy --

You're asking too much. The damage has already been done. Children are incapable of raising children. It's in the gene pool now. The word for today is "incorrigible."