Single again!!!
JoshParsons84
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By the title it sounds like I'm happy. Well....I'm not!! 
. I caught my fiance of 4 years with some other dude tonight. They weren't doing anything but I had a feeling I interrupted them. Things have been really really really rocky the past like 4 months. My drinking has gotten worse than it ever has. Every weekend a fifth and sometimes a couple days during the week too. I left a message on her voicemail saying that you know if she didn't love and she wanted him then I would support her financially, and emotinally. This was after the fact that I tried to hit him right in the mouth AND after she threatened to call the law. It hurts a lot though. We have a beautiful 18 month old baby boy. I should've known after our first date was at a strip club and she had 4 other kids by 3 different guys, but I ignored the red flags because I liked her. Infatuation turned into like and like turned into strong feelings which eventually turned into love. I'm beside myself right now with hurt and anger and hatred. I know this isn't the place to post a thread like this but I know OF all of y'all and know you're all good people. And plus I have no TRUE friends that don't have 2 faces. And y'all are probably the closest to friends I have to talk to. But for what it's worth thanks for listening/reading.
Back on the hunt again - YAY not:mad:
. I caught my fiance of 4 years with some other dude tonight. They weren't doing anything but I had a feeling I interrupted them. Things have been really really really rocky the past like 4 months. My drinking has gotten worse than it ever has. Every weekend a fifth and sometimes a couple days during the week too. I left a message on her voicemail saying that you know if she didn't love and she wanted him then I would support her financially, and emotinally. This was after the fact that I tried to hit him right in the mouth AND after she threatened to call the law. It hurts a lot though. We have a beautiful 18 month old baby boy. I should've known after our first date was at a strip club and she had 4 other kids by 3 different guys, but I ignored the red flags because I liked her. Infatuation turned into like and like turned into strong feelings which eventually turned into love. I'm beside myself right now with hurt and anger and hatred. I know this isn't the place to post a thread like this but I know OF all of y'all and know you're all good people. And plus I have no TRUE friends that don't have 2 faces. And y'all are probably the closest to friends I have to talk to. But for what it's worth thanks for listening/reading.Back on the hunt again - YAY not:mad:
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That sucks, dude. Hope things get better.Shawn
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Well, look at it this way. When your single you want to be married and when you married you want to be single. It's a no win situation.
Best of luck bro, things will get better. Next time though, keep a watch out for those flags.
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Put the bottle down and everything in your life will get better, including picking better partners. Good luck.Political Correctness'.........defined
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JoshParsons84 wrote: »I should've known after our first date was at a strip club and she had 4 other kids by 3 different guys, but I ignored the red flags because
not passing judgement here.. but yeah.. that should have been a big red flag right there.
good luck, hope you find a better partner.
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What Jesse said. I have nothing against pulling a cork once in awhile but life is about making good choices, time to start.
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Put the bottle down and everything in your life will get better, including picking better partners. Good luck.
+1 on this! 4 kids by 3 other dudes...she's a flippin breeding machine. Support your kid, not her. Lay off the booze and stay away from the stripclubs. Take it from me on that last one.
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Actually she told me she did it for a couple of months to "raise money for christmas for her kids". This was before we got together. And as far as the bottle, this makes me wanna hit even harder. My cousin has my fifth of Crown right now in his freezer, and I told him to keep it in there that I didn't need it after this happened. Because that was the first thing I wanted to do was hit the Crown and go looking for both of them.
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My condolences. Stay away from the bottle, it WON'T fix the problem. Good luck.I refuse to argue with idiots, because people can't tell the DIFFERENCE!
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...and including working things out with current partners, if possible.Put the bottle down and everything in your life will get better, including picking better partners.
I hope things work out the best they can for both of you!
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I hope everything works out for you.
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Josh, sorry to hear about these troubles. I hope that you can begin to pull your life together. I'm sure things will get much better without her and the booze. A lot of good advice here. I hope that you can take some advice from your extended family here. Good luck!Carl
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Try and make it work? Riiiiiiiiiiight.
Did it just to make money for Christmas? Dry that out and you could fertilize the lawn with it.
I'm not making light of you or your situation but if this is on the up and up...you need to get your **** together. Count yourself lucky that you are only looking at child support on ONE crumb snatcher for the next 16.5 years.
Seriously man, support and take care of your kid, take out the garbage and leave it. Get your **** in one sock and press on.
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Put the bottle down and everything in your life will get better, including picking better partners. Good luck.
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Sounds like you might want to get some help with kicking the alcohol habit.
There's nothing wrong with admitting you can't get over a physical addiction and it's much better to nip it in the butt sooner then later.
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Regarding the alcohol, I imagine there are quite a few members here in the Polk forums that could help someone struggling with their powerlessness get pointed in the right direction.
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Hope it works out for ya.
The alcohol is just magnifying a problem that was already present.Make better choices.Fun is fun.USE PROTECTION FOR GOD"S SAKE.
I had a friend at my job go through almost the exact situation.Met her at a bar.Multiple kids by different fathers.That women had that boy goin all kinds of directions. He was so proud when the baby was born.This girl ended up in jail because of her really bad temper.(she was already on probation)
Not making enough money to support his kid & live alone, he went back home & lived with his parents till he could get on his feet.He went to a lawyer to try & gain permanent custody of his kid & the first thing they required after hearing his story was a blood test.Turns out the child wasn't even his:eek::eek:After all that time & hell she put him through.Not to mention the money part of it.
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The way I read that is that your drinking has been going on for a while, right?
Own what's yours since that's what you can control. The rest will be addressed, but not if you try to pin this or that on her, etc etc.........just try to fix you before you go off and try to 'help' her fix her.........comment comment comment comment. bitchy. -
Bust the bottle and grow a set."she had the body of Venus, with arms."
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You're not going to catch trout out of a river slough and, despite movies like "Pretty Woman" (Julie Roberts), the nice hooker with a heart of gold is pretty darn rare.
Most have drug addictions or enough baggage that they should be named "Samsonite".
You think you love this gal but, IMO, you love the idea of what you think she is or what you would like her to be.
It's kind of tough sometimes to admit, "Gawd dam, did I fug up !", but cut your losses and walk.
You mentioned "We have an 18 month old daughter". Certainly, SHE has an 18 month old daughter; I wouldn't bet the farm on you being the Poppa.
GET A DNA TEST !!
If the girl is yours, support her via Child Support PAID THROUGH THE COURT SYSTEM !
None of this, "Hey, I'm a good dad, I drop by every couple of weeks with a box of Pampers" crap.
If she isn't yours, than walk away, don't look back, and sober up.
You mentioned she had 4 other kids by 3 other men: just curious, where are those kids at ?
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You know I think I AM gonna get a DNA test. Does anybody know how much one costs? This girl really f@#cked my head all up. I was always the guy who knew how to talk to anybody and was the semi-player, until I met her. I dunno what happened to me. I never let a girl do this to me. My heads so screwed up right now, I dunno whether I'm coming or going. I need to get back out there, but it's been so long and she messed me up so bad I wouldn't even know the first thing on it. How did some of y'all meet your significant other and maybe I can draw pointers from that.
Man, I know it sounds lame and pathetic and probably ****, but I can't even remember what to do when you approach a random girl at the store or on the street (like downtown) or anything like that. What do I do? I'm putting my faith and emotions in y'alls hands for spiritualness and guidance. Don't let me down. -
Are you for real??
Uh, couple of tips here.
You know, this is a great place and all but, you know, there's only so much that you can realistically expect from this place.
Right now? You need to excavate your cranium from your ****. You've got bigger issues than working on your NEXT train wreck.
I think some SERIOUS self introspection is the order of the day. The way you are headed, you'll be on a Jerry Springer episode before Labor Day.
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LOL Jerry Springer? You're funny man. Alright then forget I said anything.
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JoshParsons84 wrote: »
Yeah, absolutely. Get some spanish fly while you are at it.
I don't mean to be harsh but I'm just sick and damn tired of people acting like dumbasses, making STOOPID frigging choices, frigging up thier lives and then scratching thier heads WONDERING why the are in the mess they are in.
What REALLY pisses me off is that it's not bad enough people want to f*ck up thier lives. No, we've got to introduce kids into the picture? Why? Because it just ain't the same with a condom? We can afford Marlboro Lights and Jim Beam but not birth control pills? You know, if people want to be dumbasses then, well, God Bless but producing kids that are pretty much f*cked from Jump Street through no fault of thier own? Yeah, THAT pisses me off.
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Hey Troy you need to leave with that attitude man. And I'm gonna report you.
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JoshParsons84 wrote: »We have a beautiful 18 month old baby boy. I should've known after our first date was at a strip club and she had 4 other kids by 3 different guys, but I ignored the red flags because I liked her.
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JoshParsons84 wrote: »Hey Troy you need to leave with that attitude man. And I'm gonna report you.
And a ***** bag to boot.
