Today has been one of the hardest days of my life

ben62670
ben62670 Posts: 15,969
edited November 2007 in The Clubhouse
Well my kids are leaving for Georgia, and their isn't much I can do about it. My X works for the Police department in the city she lives in, and really created some serious problems for the children, and I. I have meet some really nice cops through this ordeal, and some real jerks too. Bottom line is when I was younger I used to party hard. I was never a thief, or anything like that, but my X looks spotless on paper. I could try fighting her to keep the kids here, but that would not work for too long, and make the long term worse. I don't like it here anyways. I'm country, and this is just about as city as it gets. On top of all that my health is failing, and I can't keep up with the child support, and get my medical treatment. I am 37 now, and when I was 16 I contracted Hep C. Well the treatment involves Peg Interferon for a year straight. Its a tough thing to go through. My liver is starting to fail so I have to get it done now. I tried it once, and had to stop or the treatment was going to kill me. My platlit count dropped way down, and you can bleed out internally. One of the side effects is death. Seriously that is on the warning label for the meds. So I am letting the X take off with the kids to GA without a fight, and my mom, and I are looking at moving to be near the kids. My mom is an awesome person, and has been a great help through this whole mess. If you have read this far thanks. I am completely mentally, and emotionally shot out. I really need prayer for all my family. Even the X.
Please. Please contact me a ben62670 @ yahoo.com. Make sure to include who you are, and you are from Polk so I don't delete your email. Also I am now physically unable to work on any projects. If you need help let these guys know. There are many people who will help if you let them know where you are.
Thanks
Ben
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  • Face
    Face Posts: 14,340
    edited November 2007
    Wow, sorry to hear about your tough times! I wish you and your family the best of luck.
    "He who fights with monsters should look to it that he himself does not become a monster. And when you gaze long into an abyss the abyss also gazes into you." Friedrich Nietzsche
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  • treitz3
    treitz3 Posts: 19,185
    edited November 2007
    You have my best wishes and support. However I can help Ben. Just let me know.
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  • ben62670
    ben62670 Posts: 15,969
    edited November 2007
    Thanks. I am going to sign off. I have to try to get some sleep. The kids are still with me, and I may have a shot at going swimming with them this morning before their mom comes, and gets them.
    Please. Please contact me a ben62670 @ yahoo.com. Make sure to include who you are, and you are from Polk so I don't delete your email. Also I am now physically unable to work on any projects. If you need help let these guys know. There are many people who will help if you let them know where you are.
    Thanks
    Ben
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  • dragon1952
    dragon1952 Posts: 4,907
    edited November 2007
    Sincerest condolences on your troubles. Good luck and hope it all works out for the best.
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  • Frank Z
    Frank Z Posts: 5,860
    edited November 2007
    Hope everything works out for the best.
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  • fatchowmein
    fatchowmein Posts: 2,637
    edited November 2007
    My sincere sympathies.
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  • audiobliss
    audiobliss Posts: 12,518
    edited November 2007
    Boy, when it rains it pours. :( Sorry to hear about that.

    I'll definitely be praying for you, your kids, your mom, and your x.
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  • PolkThug
    PolkThug Posts: 7,532
    edited November 2007
    That **** sucks. You are in my thoughts.
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  • F1nut
    F1nut Posts: 50,729
    edited November 2007
    All the best, Ben. I know two folks who have gone thru that treatment, both made it thru ok. I pray you do too.
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  • TroyD
    TroyD Posts: 13,083
    edited November 2007
    Good luck and more importantly, I hope everything works out for the kids.

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  • mrbigbluelight
    mrbigbluelight Posts: 9,833
    edited November 2007
    Ben, best wishes and prayers for you, your kids, and yes, even your ex-wife.

    Plug and chug, it WILL get better, if you let it.
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  • danger boy
    danger boy Posts: 15,722
    edited November 2007
    Ben, best of luck with your treatments and the rough times you are going thru now.. take care of yourself and feel free to lean on us here whenever you need a pick me up chat.

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  • engtaz
    engtaz Posts: 7,664
    edited November 2007
    Prayers sent. Sorry for all the sorrow. Great Mom you have there and good luck.

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  • Ricardo
    Ricardo Posts: 10,636
    edited November 2007
    Praying for you and your family; hang in there.....and be positive.
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  • pearsall001
    pearsall001 Posts: 5,092
    edited November 2007
    You & your whole family are in my prayers. Keep the faith & everything will work out for you.
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  • lightman1
    lightman1 Posts: 10,794
    edited November 2007
    With you in heart and prayers Ben. Be strong for your kids and yourself.
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  • rskarvan
    rskarvan Posts: 2,374
    edited November 2007
    My prayers are with you also. I would encourage you to fight legally to keep the kids near you. The court will probably not allow her to move the kids away from you as that is not in the best interest of the children. Having them near would be a comfort to both you and your children - especially since you aren't feeling your best.

    My advice... hire a lawyer ASAP. The kids need both parents near for as long as possible!
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  • george daniel
    george daniel Posts: 12,096
    edited November 2007
    Hang in there ,Ben,,things seem to have a way of working out,,I'll keep you and your family in my prayers.
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  • McLoki
    McLoki Posts: 5,231
    edited November 2007
    Ben - best of luck to you and your family. You are in my prayers. If you need someone to talk to, you can always call.

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  • George Grand
    George Grand Posts: 12,258
    edited November 2007
    Good luck friend.
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  • dudeinaroom
    dudeinaroom Posts: 3,609
    edited November 2007
    Sorry to hear about that man.IF you still have my number, you can give me a call if you just wanna chat, and I can call you right back. I hope every thing works out in the end. If you can move closer to your girls do it, I don't know what I would do with out my boys, so I feel for you. Best of luck and wishes to your family. If you don't have my number any more, just drop me a pm. My wife also told me to tell you to check into clinical trials for you treatments @ clinicaltrials.gov heres a for link you. You can also search by location, or illness from the main page
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  • heiney9
    heiney9 Posts: 25,203
    edited November 2007
    Ben, good luck, keep your chin up and do what you can to get treatment and stay close to your kids. Check in from time to time if you can and let us know how things are going. You and your family are in my thoughts.

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  • wingnut4772
    wingnut4772 Posts: 7,519
    edited November 2007
    Wow Ben hang in there. It will get better you have to keep the faith that is so. That is all that keeps me going. Take care of your health and get strong for them. Have you looked into alternative treatments?
    My prayers and thoughts are with you.
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    jflail2 Posts: 2,868
    edited November 2007
    Ouch, good luck man....
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  • BaggedLancer
    BaggedLancer Posts: 6,371
    edited November 2007
    Best of luck Ben
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  • Pauly
    Pauly Posts: 4,519
    edited November 2007
    Best of luck. My ex has mentioned moving out of state with our son. I would hate to do it but i would sell everything i had gear included to make it not happen.


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    cfrizz Posts: 13,415
    edited November 2007
    Best of luck.
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  • kingkip
    kingkip Posts: 401
    edited November 2007
    Good luck bro.
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    bdaley6509 Posts: 1,167
    edited November 2007
    Saying a prayer for you and your family.
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  • MKZ
    MKZ Posts: 1,068
    edited November 2007
    Sorry to hear that. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Good Luck Ben!
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