An appreciation for my dad

halohalo Posts: 5,154
Hello to all my fellow Polk Forum members.

I am sad to report that my father is now in a hospice facility. He was diagnosed with congestive heart failure a little over a year ago. Despite having a defibrillator installed and going through some PT specifically for his condition he had a bout with pneumonia/bronchitis that he simply cannot overcome. Other organs have begun to fail so he doesn’t have much time remaining.

I am grateful that my wife and I were able to make it to Chicago in time to talk with him, hold his hands, and to have those important moments to say what we need/want to say. He is still lucid, as of last night, but he’s asked for pain medication and his deteriorating condition will lessen his awareness as time goes on.

I have talked to a few forum members about this through PM’s but I wanted to share the news with the rest of my Polk family. This is where he wants to be and our main goal going forward is to keep him as comfortable as possible.

Some of you may remember that the wood I used for the base of my Bottlehead phono preamp came from the very last piece of mahogany that my father received from his uncle while he was living in Monrovia, Liberia.

My father is the one who instilled a love of stereo/reproduced music in me, among many, many, other things. I will forever cherish him and I am grateful to have had such an amazing father. He provided me with everything I needed to succeed in life. I love you dad!

Here is a picture of the mahogany base on the Bottlehead:
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Thanks for listening/reading :)
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  • dromundsdromunds Posts: 8,177
    Sorry to hear this. Best wishes for your father and your family.
  • indyhawgindyhawg Posts: 1,273
    So sorry to hear Victor. Thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
  • joecoulsonjoecoulson Posts: 3,347
    Prayers for your father and the family Vic.
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  • pglbookpglbook Posts: 1,671
    Very sorry to hear about this, halo. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. Unfortunately I had to deal with a similar thing about 2 years ago when my mother went into hospice. While it was of course extremely difficult, it was also an amazing time to be able to spend every one of her last few days with her and to share so much love. Take a deep breath and enjoy the time that you have left together... hold your father's hand and talk to him...talk and talk and talk...and let him know everything you are feeling and how much he means to you...even while he is sleeping he will hear you. My mother lost consciousness in her last 2 days (she was in hospice for a week) but she still heard everything I told her. Best wishes for you and your loved ones.
  • ManticoreManticore Posts: 390
    Very touching post & heart felt. Prayers for your dad & family!
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  • GlennDogGlennDog Posts: 2,001
    Nicely said, Vic. Prayers sent
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  • cfrizzcfrizz Posts: 13,420
    I'm very sorry to hear this Victor, sending comforting thoughts to your family.
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  • nooshinjohnnooshinjohn Posts: 21,109
    God be with you, your father and your entire family though this time and always. Be mindful of the little things, as within them are sometimes the greatest joys. Just like that piece of mahogany, something so small, yet so meaningful...

    May this time bring peace and love to all.
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  • jdjohnjdjohn Posts: 898
    Praying for peace and comfort. I can certainly relate as my dad is having some serious health issues as well...tough decisions to make.
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  • WagnerRCWagnerRC Posts: 1,921
    You are a great son. Prayers for your family.
  • pitdogg2pitdogg2 Posts: 14,014
    It's never easy Victor to watch someone as special as a father or mother go through the last stages of life. You do have that Bottlehead and that with the chills and goosebumps that will come the many times listening to music remembering the love of music your father instilled with you. I myself still have the memories and smells of family members who have passed while listening to songs we both sat and grooved to together.

    <3 <3 <3
    May the higher power take and lead him to a better place and let you know how wonderful of a son you where for helping him through.

  • daddyjtdaddyjt Posts: 982
    I am glad you are able to be there for him at this time. I live every day with regret for not going to see my mother “just one more time...”.

    Take care, and Godspeed.
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  • polrbehrpolrbehr Posts: 2,362
    edited September 11
    I feel humble and honored that you chose to share this. I offer my good thoughts and prayers for you and your Dad. I miss mine a lot, and wish I had the chance you have to be with yours.
    So, are you willing to put forth a little effort or are you happy sitting in your skeptical poo pile?


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  • BDTBDT Posts: 189
    Prayers to you and yours, brother.

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  • vmaxervmaxer Posts: 4,425
    Praying for your family.
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  • kharp1kharp1 Posts: 3,296
    Thanks for sharing this, Victor. Sorry to hear about your dads condition, but, am thankful you were able to get there to spend some time with him. Thoughts and prayers.
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  • JayCeeJayCee Posts: 488
    Sorry to read this. Glad to see you've been able to find solace in seeing and talking with him. Sounds like a wonderful guy. That Bottlehead is a beautiful piece and I'm sure will remind you of great memories in the years to com. Best wishes for your dad, family and you.
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  • scubalabscubalab Posts: 2,738
    So sorry to hear this Victor. Cherish and make the most of every minute you have to spend with your dad. Prayers sent my friend!
  • gudnoyezgudnoyez Posts: 6,955
    So sorry to hear the news.
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  • ken brydsonken brydson Posts: 7,503
    Sorry to hear. I lost my dad in April. Miss him every day...
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  • aprazer402aprazer402 Posts: 1,434
    So sorry, prayers for your Dad and family.
  • Mike ReeterMike Reeter Posts: 3,481
    So sorry to hear of your fathers condition. Sounds like he is a remarkable man that has been a great influence on your life.
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  • westmassguywestmassguy Posts: 6,409
    So sorry to hear. I pray his journey will be peaceful.
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  • heiney9heiney9 Posts: 24,108
    Victor, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this difficult time. Sounds like you're making the best of it and getting some quality time in with him.

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  • muncybobmuncybob Posts: 2,120
    Saying good bye is tough. Glad you were able to do so while he could still appreciate it. Peace to all.
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  • Very hard to let parents go. You will always have great memories of your Dad! Praying for you and your family.
  • MilitoMilito Posts: 571
    Very sorry to hear about your Dad. Just remember the good times when the time comes.
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  • voltzvoltz Posts: 5,250
    Sorry to hear this Victor! I miss talking to my Dad more then anything as I know you will and have all ready found! but that bottle head looks so special it makes me so happy and sad all at the same time... I makes me smile big time at what you made it into!

    Kudo's to you my Friend as now you can always listen to music thru this headphone amp and know you made you father proud! This is so special.
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