How much patience?

Mike Kozak
Mike Kozak Posts: 931
edited February 2012 in The Clubhouse
Been "dating" a nice woman for 7, almost 8 weeks now. I really like her but we have not consumated the relationship. How much time is normal for this? I am not a kid, nor am I pushy, but my ROI is looking very poor!!
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  • tonyb
    tonyb Posts: 32,957
    edited February 2012
    Maybe she's not ready yet. Could always talk about it too, never hurts.
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  • Mike Kozak
    Mike Kozak Posts: 931
    edited February 2012
    Yea good call
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  • BottomFeeder
    BottomFeeder Posts: 1,684
    edited February 2012
    Sheesh, dude. Nice way to measure the quality of a relationship. ROI? Are you kidding us?

    Sorry & no offense intended, but if I had the chance, I'd tell her to run far, far away.
    "Wish I didn't know now what I didn't know then." Bob Seger
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  • heiney9
    heiney9 Posts: 25,165
    edited February 2012
    What kind of audio gear does she own?

    H9
    "Appreciation of audio is a completely subjective human experience. Measurements can provide a measure of insight, but are no substitute for human judgment. Why are we looking to reduce a subjective experience to objective criteria anyway? The subtleties of music and audio reproduction are for those who appreciate it. Differentiation by numbers is for those who do not".--Nelson Pass Pass Labs XA25 | EE Avant Pre | EE Mini Max Supreme DAC | MIT Shotgun S1 | Pangea AC14SE MKII | Legend L600 | BlueSound Node 3 - Tubes add soul!
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  • chumlie
    chumlie Posts: 8,658
    edited February 2012
    I beleive your way overdew. 3 to 5 dates IMO. She may be thinking something's wrong with you by now.
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  • bikezappa
    bikezappa Posts: 2,463
    edited February 2012
    Why would you ask the Polk forum for dating advice?
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  • Mike Kozak
    Mike Kozak Posts: 931
    edited February 2012
    I knew I would get a myriad of responses, some thoughtful, some not so much (bottomfeeder). There is more to the story, I know her ex is still trying to get back with her, I have not made an issue of that either by the way. I have all the time in the world, just have not dated in a long time and forgot the rules of engagement
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  • bikezappa
    bikezappa Posts: 2,463
    edited February 2012
    As Janis Joplin says?
    "Get it while you can"
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  • Rivrrat
    Rivrrat Posts: 2,101
    edited February 2012
    I don't know the situation, and having dealt with an ex I know how it goes, but I'd make sure you haven't been relegated friend status.
    My equipment sig felt inadequate and deleted itself.
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  • Willow
    Willow Posts: 11,007
    edited February 2012
    Get her drunk! seriously though, if it bothers you then talk about it. Maybe she is thinking the same thing
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  • heiney9
    heiney9 Posts: 25,165
    edited February 2012
    I say hit it on Valentine's Day.

    H9
    "Appreciation of audio is a completely subjective human experience. Measurements can provide a measure of insight, but are no substitute for human judgment. Why are we looking to reduce a subjective experience to objective criteria anyway? The subtleties of music and audio reproduction are for those who appreciate it. Differentiation by numbers is for those who do not".--Nelson Pass Pass Labs XA25 | EE Avant Pre | EE Mini Max Supreme DAC | MIT Shotgun S1 | Pangea AC14SE MKII | Legend L600 | BlueSound Node 3 - Tubes add soul!
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  • Mike Kozak
    Mike Kozak Posts: 931
    edited February 2012
    No friend status I am sure, she seems serious. Will be topic for short time tonight. Going to wine tasting, may try to bring it "up" on the way home :)
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  • jephdood
    jephdood Posts: 1,671
    edited February 2012
    I don't think 7-8 weeks is that unusual. Remember, sex is a real emotional thing for women, and so maybe she just wants to be sure the relationship is 'right'.

    Either that, or she's really a dude and is afraid you'll bolt after showing you 'the junk'. :eek:
    "I did not slap you. I high-fived your face."
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  • Mike Kozak
    Mike Kozak Posts: 931
    edited February 2012
    Ha ha, I knew I was worrying for nothing. She is worth waiting for, never met anyone like her!!
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  • halo71
    halo71 Posts: 4,602
    edited February 2012
    heiney9 wrote: »
    What kind of audio gear does she own?

    H9

    Hope it ain't Emo gear ehh? :eek:








    JUST kidding! Really....just kidding! :cheesygrin:
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  • heiney9
    heiney9 Posts: 25,165
    edited February 2012
    If it is Emo, she'd have to be pretty special not to be kicked to the curb............lol :lol::razz:

    H9
    "Appreciation of audio is a completely subjective human experience. Measurements can provide a measure of insight, but are no substitute for human judgment. Why are we looking to reduce a subjective experience to objective criteria anyway? The subtleties of music and audio reproduction are for those who appreciate it. Differentiation by numbers is for those who do not".--Nelson Pass Pass Labs XA25 | EE Avant Pre | EE Mini Max Supreme DAC | MIT Shotgun S1 | Pangea AC14SE MKII | Legend L600 | BlueSound Node 3 - Tubes add soul!
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  • halo71
    halo71 Posts: 4,602
    edited February 2012
    Hey maybe she is a Emo chick with Emo gear??
    --Gary--
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  • Drenis
    Drenis Posts: 2,871
    edited February 2012
    Nothing wrong with a girl on the wild side... :P

    This thread reminds me of a old hip hop song...

    Biz Markie - Just A Friend

    "Have you ever met a girl that you tried to date
    But a year to make love she wanted you to wait...    "
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  • Jonn Wain
    Jonn Wain Posts: 41
    edited February 2012
    why do people wish to air their private lives on the internet
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  • mrbiron
    mrbiron Posts: 5,711
    edited February 2012
    rufilin................................:wink:

    There is always Whip'em-Out-Wednesdays.....

    Hang a puppy from it, Chicks dig puppies.....

    Pierce it, chicks dig piercings.....

    Tattoo channel up and channel down on it. Then tell her that she can use the remote.....

    Uhhhh...that should work perfectly :cool:
    Where’s the KABOOM?!?! There’s supposed to be an Earth shattering KABOOM!!!
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  • halo71
    halo71 Posts: 4,602
    edited February 2012
    Jonn Wain wrote: »
    why do people wish to air their private lives on the internet

    True.....but it's not really any worse than that poster that made a thread about what to do about a chaffed @ss....I forget now who made that thread here at CP now.
    --Gary--
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  • Willow
    Willow Posts: 11,007
    edited February 2012
    Jonn Wain wrote: »
    why do people wish to air their private lives on the internet

    This CP...that's why! Not the same, we are like family
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  • Jonn Wain
    Jonn Wain Posts: 41
    edited February 2012
    Willow wrote: »
    This CP...that's why! Not the same, we are like family

    im sure you are,thanks for explaination
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  • heiney9
    heiney9 Posts: 25,165
    edited February 2012
    halo71 wrote: »
    True.....but it's not really any worse than that poster that made a thread about what to do about a chaffed @ss....I forget now who made that thread here at CP now.

    I believe that was Sean (Zero)...lol

    H9
    "Appreciation of audio is a completely subjective human experience. Measurements can provide a measure of insight, but are no substitute for human judgment. Why are we looking to reduce a subjective experience to objective criteria anyway? The subtleties of music and audio reproduction are for those who appreciate it. Differentiation by numbers is for those who do not".--Nelson Pass Pass Labs XA25 | EE Avant Pre | EE Mini Max Supreme DAC | MIT Shotgun S1 | Pangea AC14SE MKII | Legend L600 | BlueSound Node 3 - Tubes add soul!
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  • snow
    snow Posts: 4,337
    edited February 2012
    The beauty of the internet and CP is that you can more or less talk freely about anything that is on your mind from how to repair something to cooking rice or your bothersome anal warts.



    REGARDS SNOW
    Well, I just pulled off the impossible by doing a double-blind comparison all by myself, purely by virtue of the fact that I completely and stupidly forgot what I did last. I guess that getting old does have its advantages after all :D
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  • tonyb
    tonyb Posts: 32,957
    edited February 2012
    Mike Kozak wrote: »
    No friend status I am sure, she seems serious. Will be topic for short time tonight. Going to wine tasting, may try to bring it "up" on the way home :)

    Wine tasting...yeah man, love those. Anyway.....

    Don't bring it up in the car. Wait until you get home, sit both your asses down on the couch and talk to each other. Get a feel for her commitment to the relationship, just don't come out and say "I was curious why we haven't bumped uglies yet." Tell her how much you are commited, and looking forward to the time you are able to share a bed together. Don't put her in the position of having to decide to have sex right then and there.....though after a wine tasting, she may be more open to that, but she has to decide when. Just let her know that when she does decide, your ready and looking forward to it.
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    Acoustic zen Matrix 2 IC's
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  • Jstas
    Jstas Posts: 14,809
    edited February 2012
    Jonn Wain wrote: »
    why do people wish to air their private lives on the internet

    Why do people constantly have to whine about people posting their private lives on the Internet?

    It's his prerogative. It's not hurting you. Let him have it. Who knows, he might actually get something useful out of it. Then won't you look like a silly man?
    Expert Moron Extraordinaire

    You're just jealous 'cause the voices don't talk to you!
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  • codyc1ark
    codyc1ark Posts: 2,532
    edited February 2012
    tonyb wrote: »
    Wine tasting...yeah man, love those. Anyway.....

    Don't bring it up in the car. Wait until you get home, sit both your asses down on the couch and talk to each other. Get a feel for her commitment to the relationship, just don't come out and say "I was curious why we haven't bumped uglies yet." Tell her how much you are commited, and looking forward to the time you are able to share a bed together. Don't put her in the position of having to decide to have sex right then and there.....though after a wine tasting, she may be more open to that, but she has to decide when. Just let her know that when she does decide, your ready and looking forward to it.

    Best advice yet.

    On the flip side, Want to buy some ruphies?!? :eek:
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  • audiocr381ve
    audiocr381ve Posts: 2,588
    edited February 2012
    tonyb wrote: »
    "I was curious why we haven't bumped uglies yet."

    Genius! Hahahaha
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  • jephdood
    jephdood Posts: 1,671
    edited February 2012
    If she's had ANY experience with men, she already knows we are "ready and looking forward to it". Personally, I wouldn't go with any kind of 'talk'. Just let things flow naturally. It'll happen.
    "I did not slap you. I high-fived your face."
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