DNR Order - Prayers requested

hockeyboy
hockeyboy Posts: 1,428
edited March 2011 in The Clubhouse
Hi All,

I sit tonight writing from the hospital where I am caring for my Mother. She got dementia on Thursday and had trouble with movement after being in pretty decent shape for 72. Today is her 73rd birthday as she lays just feet away from me gasping for breath as comfortable as I can make her.

The dementia turned out to be from a urinary tract infection that had turned into Sepsis. We thought this was great news because that is 100% curable and treatable. Usually the dementia goes away in two days as the infection clears from IV antibiotics. Instead of getting better Mom got rapidly worse. Dozens of tests, being stuck with needles and strapped down onto contraptions and they discovered one of her heart valves is mostly clogged with calcium. This is akin to a water hose when you put your thumb over it- it sprays more quickly but reduced volume. Her volume measures right at 25% normal. Her brain was slowly starved of blood and how the dementia got worse (they think). The last words she ever spoke was when she was barely able to recognize me but said I love you. Anyway after all of those tests we decided to focus on comfort and stop any heroic efforts to save her. Now I sit watching her slowly decline and don't suspect she will make it through tomorrow.

Anyway sorry for such a long post but you really recognize how much you love someone when they are dying right next to you. Please pray for us and our family.
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  • ben62670
    ben62670 Posts: 15,969
    edited March 2011
    Sorry to hear. Prayers sent for you and your family. Hopefully she passes comfortably.
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  • dkg999
    dkg999 Posts: 5,647
    edited March 2011
    Hang in there! Prayers sent for you and your family.
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  • FTGV
    FTGV Posts: 3,649
    edited March 2011
    Prayers sent Hockey,I know what your dealing with having gone through a very similar situation with my dear mom in Sept.
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  • apphd
    apphd Posts: 1,514
    edited March 2011
    Prayers for your mom, and all your family
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  • comfortablycurt
    comfortablycurt Posts: 6,745
    edited March 2011
    Wow...I'm very sorry to hear that. I'll be hoping for the best, and you and your family will be in my thoughts.
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  • cfrizz
    cfrizz Posts: 13,415
    edited March 2011
    I'm sorry you have to go through this. Be strong.
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  • Toolfan66
    Toolfan66 Posts: 17,220
    edited March 2011
    Been there HB, Prayers sent to you and yours....
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  • Willow
    Willow Posts: 11,007
    edited March 2011
    My thoughts are with you and your family during this very difficult time.
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  • Pycroft
    Pycroft Posts: 1,960
    edited March 2011
    Sending thoughts and prayers!

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  • coolsax
    coolsax Posts: 1,824
    edited March 2011
    Thoughts and Prayers sent to you and your family man.. Sorry to hear about the situation.
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  • George Grand
    George Grand Posts: 12,258
    edited March 2011
    Good luck.
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  • apc
    apc Posts: 779
    edited March 2011
    May He hold her in one hand and your family in the other.
    Husband, Father, Son, Brother, Friend.
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  • wutadumsn23
    wutadumsn23 Posts: 3,702
    edited March 2011
    Wow, what a terrible situation. Can't even imagine what you are going through, hopefully she beats the odds and pulls through. You and yours are in my thoughts.

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  • Joe08867
    Joe08867 Posts: 3,919
    edited March 2011
    I have been where you are and all I can say is be strong and hold on to hope as long as you can. I lost my mom but God willing I hope you do not lose yours.

    My Prayers are with you, your mom and your family.
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  • Sherardp
    Sherardp Posts: 8,038
    edited March 2011
    Hang tough HB, prayers and thoughts sent you way.
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  • Fireman32
    Fireman32 Posts: 4,845
    edited March 2011
    So sorry to hear
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  • steveinaz
    steveinaz Posts: 19,538
    edited March 2011
    Praying for you Mom brother. God Bless, hang there Mom.
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  • Grimster74
    Grimster74 Posts: 2,573
    edited March 2011
    Prayers Sent!
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  • ESavinon
    ESavinon Posts: 3,066
    edited March 2011
    Prayers sent for you and your family.
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  • nguyendot
    nguyendot Posts: 3,594
    edited March 2011
    I pray for you and your family. May she pull through.
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  • TNHNDYMAN
    TNHNDYMAN Posts: 2,145
    edited March 2011
    Praying for your family HB
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  • sda2mike
    sda2mike Posts: 3,131
    edited March 2011
    my thoughts are with you
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  • dee1949
    dee1949 Posts: 1,425
    edited March 2011
    ...positive thoughts your way.
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  • megasat16
    megasat16 Posts: 3,521
    edited March 2011
    Thoughts and prayers for your mom and your family.
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  • Danny Tse
    Danny Tse Posts: 5,206
    edited March 2011
    Prayers send.

    My mom has dementia as well and she's not even 70. It pains me to see my mom's health deteriorate month by month. I can still remember my mom when she was in her late 20s and early 30s.
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  • madmax
    madmax Posts: 12,434
    edited March 2011
    hockeyboy wrote: »
    The last words she ever spoke was when she was barely able to recognize me but said I love you. Anyway after all of those tests we decided to focus on comfort and stop any heroic efforts to save her.

    Been there. Trying times but the wonderful thing is you are there for her, thats what really matters. Prayers and best wishes.
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  • fatchowmein
    fatchowmein Posts: 2,637
    edited March 2011
    A neighborly prayer sent.
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  • PSOVLSK
    PSOVLSK Posts: 5,197
    edited March 2011
    madmax wrote: »
    Been there. Trying times but the wonderful thing is you are there for her, thats what really matters. Prayers and best wishes.

    So true. I had been with my dad for over a week and he finally passed within 2 hours of my leaving. Hang in there. Prayers sent.
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  • TECHNOKID
    TECHNOKID Posts: 4,298
    edited March 2011
    Now I sit watching her slowly decline and don't suspect she will make it through tomorrow.
    Such is very heart breaking indeed. Keep in mind you were there for her before she lost conscience and she had the opportunity to tell you that she loves you.

    Now, where she goes from there is the will of God. I sure hope she can go through this but if this is not the will of God just have comfort in thinking that she had a good healthy life and that she didn't have to go through any long painful illness so that she may leave this eart in a respectable way.

    Thoughts and and prayers sent your way for your mom, your self and family.

    May God strengthen and bless you all during this hardship.
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  • PaulOne
    PaulOne Posts: 30
    edited March 2011
    That's all tough stuff to go through. I'm sorry that it's playing through like it is. My thoughts go with you and your mom.
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