Did I Over React ?

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  • jephdood
    jephdood Posts: 1,671
    edited December 2010
    When people deserve a smackdown, you need to administer. Or their their 'assitudes' will go unchecked and ruin us all.

    Tell the clerk that YOU are the next one in line. In fact, the ONLY one in THIS line. Polite, but firm about it.. and if the snarkiness continues, ask to speak to someone with a bigger name tag.
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  • wz2p7j
    wz2p7j Posts: 840
    edited December 2010
    kawizx9r wrote: »
    I'm still looking for black paint........

    Btw, you felt bad because of her statement? I hate to say it but the more I stick around reading this kind of s@#t on forums the more I realize we've got generation upon generation of pansies among us.

    Well, it was a young female checker and two middle aged ladies in the next line. I'm a fairly big 53 year old male. Not the place to make a scene and not even worth it.
    kawizx9r wrote: »
    I'd hate to meet you in person, my sarcastic attitude might make you cry.

    You really don't know me well enough to talk to me like that. But I can say your sarcasm is already making me laugh. :biggrin::biggrin: Have a good night with whomever you spend time with on New Years Eve. :eek::eek:

    Chris
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  • gwh
    gwh Posts: 1,451
    edited December 2010
    @ herself.





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  • decal
    decal Posts: 3,205
    edited December 2010
    I'm a fairly big 53 year old male.

    To me,your posts make you sound like a mousey 16 year old girl.My opinion,nothing more.Good luck with your social skills in the new year.
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  • wz2p7j
    wz2p7j Posts: 840
    edited December 2010
    decal wrote: »
    To me,your posts make you sound like a mousey 16 year old girl.My opinion,nothing more.Good luck with your social skills in the new year.

    Decal, you also don't know me well enough to talk to me like that. :biggrin:
    But happy new year to you anyway, my friend.

    Chris
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  • munk
    munk Posts: 258
    edited December 2010
    If she didn't mean the next customer After You, then she was inexcusably rude and unprofessional, and you did not overreact. We all have store line horror stories. You are very understandably pissed.

    I just wonder if there was a way to express this and make a pointed message? Don't know. Go too far and you've lost the moment. You did OK.
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  • jinjuku
    jinjuku Posts: 1,523
    edited December 2010
    I just use my Amazon Prime account. 90% of stuff arrives next day since there is a Warehouse in Lexington.

    As an example I needed a parallel cable: $2.99 shipped over-night. I don't bother with brick and mortor if I can avoid it.
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  • wz2p7j
    wz2p7j Posts: 840
    edited December 2010
    munk wrote: »
    If she didn't mean the next customer After You, then she was inexcusably rude and unprofessional, and you did not overreact. We all have store line horror stories. You are very understandably pissed.

    I just wonder if there was a way to express this and make a pointed message? Don't know. Go too far and you've lost the moment. You did OK.

    Thanks Munk. Yeah, it all happened pretty quick. But I'm old enough to know fighting over space in line with some middle age women wasn't going to cast me in the best light and wasn't worth the fight or the time to make a scene. But, in retrospect, the checker clearly screwed up by throwing me out of line.

    Best wishes for a good new year for you as well. :cool:

    Chris
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  • F1nut
    F1nut Posts: 50,492
    edited December 2010
    Polkersince85 wrote: »
    May(be) you are on her Ignore List.

    He's on mine.....
    This message is hidden because wz2p7j is on your ignore list.
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  • wz2p7j
    wz2p7j Posts: 840
    edited December 2010
    jinjuku wrote: »
    I just use my Amazon Prime account. 90% of stuff arrives next day since there is a Warehouse in Lexington.

    As an example I needed a parallel cable: $2.99 shipped over-night. I don't bother with brick and mortor if I can avoid it.

    Me too, but I needed some paper to print out some last minute state returns for one of my businesses that needed a postal stamp of 12-31-10. I also needed some bubble wrap to pack up some cd's and such I'm "karma-ing" here that I want to send off first thing Monday.

    Chris
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  • wz2p7j
    wz2p7j Posts: 840
    edited December 2010
    F1nut wrote: »
    He's on mine.....

    And F1, you can say what you want, rolls off my back. :tongue:

    Have a happy and safe new year.

    Chris
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  • munk
    munk Posts: 258
    edited December 2010
    Chris, you have a great new year. I dont think you should have stuck a bowie knife into the counter top.



    munk
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  • mrbigbluelight
    mrbigbluelight Posts: 9,712
    edited December 2010
    ""I can help the next person in line here !".

    YOU:

    "Do you think these pants make my butt look fat ?"

    Then just stand there. And look at her. And don't say a word.
    The key is, have some fun.
    Worst case, she still stays snippy, in which case you tell her, as you leave with the stuff on her counter, "I just knew it ! I'll be back, I have to go home and change these pants !!".

    Again .... the key is, "Have some fun !"
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  • wz2p7j
    wz2p7j Posts: 840
    edited December 2010
    mrbigbluelight wrote: »
    ""I can help the next person in line here !".

    YOU:

    "Do you think these pants make my butt look fat ?"

    Then just stand there. And look at her. And don't say a word.
    The key is, have some fun.
    Worst case, she still stays snippy, in which case you tell her, as you leave with the stuff on her counter, "I just knew it ! I'll be back, I have to go home and change these pants !!".

    Again .... the key is, "Have some fun !"

    Great response :biggrin::biggrin:

    Wish I would have thought of it that quick.

    Chris
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  • munk
    munk Posts: 258
    edited December 2010
    He's right- if you can keep your poise you can make real points and change the people around you. But you have to think, and be cool, and have some fun.

    It's called class.


    munk
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  • dorokusai
    dorokusai Posts: 25,577
    edited December 2010
    jinjuku wrote: »
    I just use my Amazon Prime account. 90% of stuff arrives next day since there is a Warehouse in Lexington.

    As an example I needed a parallel cable: $2.99 shipped over-night. I don't bother with brick and mortor if I can avoid it.

    Online shopping is swell.
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  • dorokusai
    dorokusai Posts: 25,577
    edited December 2010
    I always wait until called, just habit. Ive been in a couple situations where I felt I was treated rudely and simply walked out, left everything on the counter. Sorry, but I'm courteous and even if I'm not all smiles and backflips at the checkout, don't take your day out on me. I'm never in that much of a hurry that I cannot, won't and haven't taken my business elsewhere.

    Take a moment and change the people around me? I walk around in a bubble whenever possible.
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  • hearingimpared
    hearingimpared Posts: 21,137
    edited December 2010
    Keiko wrote: »
    There's more for your life on amazon.

    http://www.amazon.com/Case-Studies-Dental-Hygiene-2nd/dp/0131589946/ref=sr_1_44?ie=UTF8&qid=1293872287&sr=8-44

    LOL! You're a tough one Lillian!!!:biggrin:
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  • halo71
    halo71 Posts: 4,602
    edited January 2011
    Nah...you didn't over react at all. Although......I would be looking for my balls if I were you. :biggrin:
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  • wz2p7j
    wz2p7j Posts: 840
    edited January 2011
    halo71 wrote: »
    Nah...you didn't over react at all. Although......I would be looking for my balls if I were you. :biggrin:

    Well, I wasn't entirely sure at the time if I'd breached some etiquete I was unaware of. That's really the issue I was trying to get at when I started this thread (although many people took it many ways). I've done that before and, thinking I was in the right, made a complete arse of myself (no arse jokes please).

    Plus I'm still not convinced fighting over position in line with some middle aged woman and making a scene constitutes having "balls," especially when in doubt. :smile::smile:

    Chris
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  • faster100
    faster100 Posts: 6,124
    edited January 2011
    wz2p7j wrote: »
    Plus I'm still not convinced fighting over position in line with some middle aged woman and making a scene constitutes having "balls," especially when in doubt. :smile::smile:

    Chris


    Exactly, you took the high road and left, amazing how a simple thread can turn into this :rolleyes:
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  • kawizx9r
    kawizx9r Posts: 5,150
    edited January 2011
    wz2p7j wrote: »
    Plus I'm still not convinced fighting over position in line with some middle aged woman and making a scene constitutes having "balls," especially when in doubt. :smile::smile:

    Chris

    No one said anything about creating a scene. It's the fact that you; went out of your way to Staples (whether you walked, drove, road a bike), gathered a few things with the intent to purchase them, and because of a simple remark you changed your mind to buy anything and left.

    I don't know if you did it to 'hurt' their sales for the day, or if the comment was just too much for you to handle. However, I don't see a reason why you shouldn't have bought whatever it was you were going to buy.
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  • wz2p7j
    wz2p7j Posts: 840
    edited January 2011
    kawizx9r wrote: »
    However, I don't see a reason why you shouldn't have bought whatever it was you were going to buy.

    Uh, because I was rudely thrown out of line for no apparent reason by a snarky counter girl? :rolleyes: They weren't getting my money. :mad:

    Chris
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  • brettw22
    brettw22 Posts: 7,624
    edited January 2011
    I don't let others inconvenience my actions.......IMO, you got huffy and puffy and you coudln't blow a house down......kinda worthless if you ask me.

    If I'd have gone out of my way to get something at a place that is the only readily available option, I'd have made the purchase and then had a conversation about it with either the manager or higher about how they could have addressed a situation better.

    I once got someone fired for the way they handled a tire purchase/installation. I'm not proud of it, but I wasn't about to let someone pull the same type of BS on someone else later.....
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  • snow
    snow Posts: 4,337
    edited January 2011
    wz2p7j wrote: »
    Uh, because I was rudely thrown out of line for no apparent reason by a snarky counter girl? :rolleyes: They weren't getting my money. :mad:

    Chris
    I didnt then and dont know now how you were thrown out of line by anyone. You could simply have put your items on the sales counter and waited for her to check you out. Unless she grabbed you by the waist and moved you away she didndt throw you out of anywhere, you left of your own accord she won you lost.

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  • kawizx9r
    kawizx9r Posts: 5,150
    edited January 2011
    snow wrote: »
    I didnt then and dont know now how you were thrown out of line by anyone. You could simply have put your items on the sales counter and waited for her to check you out. Unless she grabbed you by the waist and moved you away she didndt throw you out of anywhere, you left of your own accord she won you lost.

    REGARDS SNOW

    Thanks Snow, pretty much what I was getting at.

    Simply replying with "I'm next" is all it took.
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  • halo71
    halo71 Posts: 4,602
    edited January 2011
    wz2p7j wrote: »
    Plus I'm still not convinced fighting over position in line with some middle aged woman and making a scene constitutes having "balls," especially when in doubt. :smile::smile:

    Chris

    Yeah, sorry...just giving you a hard time. But I am still not understanding how you got thrown out of line. I woulda been saying "hello...can you not see me standing here?" or something like that.
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  • Face
    Face Posts: 14,340
    edited January 2011
    Did you also cry yourself to sleep that night?
    "He who fights with monsters should look to it that he himself does not become a monster. And when you gaze long into an abyss the abyss also gazes into you." Friedrich Nietzsche
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  • kawizx9r
    kawizx9r Posts: 5,150
    edited January 2011
    Face wrote: »
    Did you also cry yourself to sleep that night?

    Better question is if he still cries himself to sleep?
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  • wz2p7j
    wz2p7j Posts: 840
    edited January 2011
    kawizx9r wrote: »
    Better question is if he still cries himself to sleep?

    Look, the counter lady asked for the next person in line by leaning around me and calling out to the line next to me, the middle aged lady about bowled me over getting in front of me and laying her armful of stuff on the counter.

    A) I was a little surprised by what happened. After the fact it's easy to say woulda, shoulda coulda. But this all happened pretty quick.
    B) No, I wasn't going to challenge the middle aged lady, I was brought up to be respectful to women, maybe you guys were brought up differently
    C) And HELL NO, I wasn't going to wait in line any longer and argue to PAY THEM MONEY after being treated like that and waste any more time there.

    As I stated earlier, my original thought was I had breached some etiquette or something I was not aware of. Anyway, I threw the situation out on this board just to get some reasoned input regarding queuing and such.

    That's where I made my second mistake of the day, coming to this board looking for "reasoned input" from you clowns. :rolleyes::rolleyes:

    An internet community can be a good place to get quick input, help or opinions from a diverse group of people. There's an element on this board seemingly intent on spoiling that for Club Polk - too bad.

    Anyway, I'm off this topic. I got the input I was looking for. Consensus is the counter person was out of line and maybe I should have actually reacted more strongly than I did. I'll store it away for future use.

    Happy New Year everyone,

    Chris
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