Dating an older woman?

mmadden28

I don't see any reason you should avoid meeting the daughter now. Doesn't Mom have any other adult friends? Does she keep her daughter from meeting them?

I mean if you ever planned on sleeping over or any Public Displays of Affection in front of the daughter that's different. But just meeting her and hanging out? It's a non-issue IMHO.

munk

I don't know how I feel about what is "fair" for the child. It's probably not fair for a child to have only one parent, or to live in a bad neighborhood, or have braces..... The child is going to meet the men her mother has over. That's life. But I do agree having a deep friendship very early, without knowing the direction of the adult's own relationship, is best avoided. Yes, I can agree with that. It's impossible to avoid the children, however, and personally I would introduce the kid to the adult in open fashion. I'd worry that 'brief encounter with her daughter later on down the road' would send the message the relationship had a forbidden element, something the mother should avoid. The age of the child also matters for these issues. The child is going to know her mother has gone out on a date. She will figure it out by herself and with her own limited judgement; not the best. Better if Mom directs the context and perceptions.

With all things of the heart, IRMV



munk

gfong

nadams wrote: »

I think we can probably let this thread die now.

This is the internet man, die now, heck this could get epic! lol

Good luck and you will of course know what to do once faced with it. Have fun and be honest to all and yourself and things will go smoothly with clear conscience.

From the Friday Night Lights gang!
Clear Eyes, Full Hearts, Can't Lose!

Good luck man. I'm letting it die! Greg.

j allen

This may be a little late, but...

I used to work with a guy who dated the same girl for 6 or 8 years. She had 3 kids. When she left him, he was heartbroken, because even though the relationship had run it's course, he had essentially lost 'his' children, and since they weren't technically his, he had no recourse.

disneyjoe7

Sorry but I feel you're too young to get involved with a mother with a kid.

nadams

disneyjoe7 wrote: »

Sorry but I feel you're too young to get involved with a mother with a kid.

My brother was 21 when he had his first... *shrugs*

mmadden28

j allen wrote: »

This may be a little late, but...

I used to work with a guy who dated the same girl for 6 or 8 years. She had 3 kids. When she left him, he was heartbroken, because even though the relationship had run it's course, he had essentially lost 'his' children, and since they weren't technically his, he had no recourse.

Same thing happened to a friend of mine--He married her when 'her' children were very young--The bio-father was pretty much out of the picture. He practically raised them like his own. When they divorced--he tried very hard but could make no claim for the kids--not even visitation. Losing the kids was the worst of it for him. Heartbreaking really for both he and the kids.

lightman1

My foot, your nards, beer after that. A short 7 hour drive. I'll do it!