I may have just dug my own grave

Mattox86
Mattox86 Posts: 65
Just bought a set of RTi A5 speakers from Fry's at 150/speaker. What a great deal, so much so I didn't ask permission from the wife. This was a total impulse buy, but I'm pretty excited. Anyone been through this with their wife or gf and live to tell about it? Lol
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  • verb
    verb Posts: 9,809
    Too funny! I feel ya bro! Been there, plenty of times! :smile:

    Give it time! :smile:
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  • BlueFox
    BlueFox Posts: 14,414
    Mattox86 wrote: »
    Just bought a set of RTi A5 speakers from Fry's at 150/speaker. What a great deal, so much so I didn't ask permission from the wife. This was a total impulse buy, but I'm pretty excited. Anyone been through this with their wife or gf and live to tell about it? Lol

    Nice first post. Have fun.
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  • Geoff4rfc
    Geoff4rfc Posts: 1,786
    Mattox86 wrote: »
    Anyone been through this with their wife or gf and live to tell about it? Lol

    Yes, in fact, so many times, I'm divorced now :D J/K

    I had an arrangement with my wife, so long as there was affordability and I let her know I was going to order something, she didn't mind.

    I've been in your shoes however and the best advice I can give is:

    1) Tell her I said it was okay

    2) Tell her that you had planned to and the deal was so good that you got carried away and pulled the trigger before you had a chance to "do the right thing"

    One of the most important rules in this game when you have a "significant" other is, It's easier to ask for forgiveness than permission!

    Never say "one more upgrade then I'm done"

    Try to be aware of WAF, Wife Approval Factor, always let her know that you are keeping her in mind when placing your next order.

    There is no such thing as "overkill" and too much is NEVER enough.

    Welcome to Club Polk, nice purchase!

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  • Geoff4rfc
    Geoff4rfc Posts: 1,786
    edited June 2019
    Mattox86 wrote: »
    Anyone been through this with their wife or gf and live to tell about it? Lol

    Yes, in fact, so many times, I'm divorced now :D J/K

    I had an arrangement with my wife, so long as there was affordability and I let her know I was going to order something, she didn't mind.

    I've been in your shoes however and the best advice I can give is:

    1) Tell her I said it was okay

    2) Tell her that you had planned to ask permission and the deal was so good that you got carried away and pulled the trigger before you had a chance to "do the right thing"

    One of the most important rules in this game when you have a "significant" other is, It's easier to ask for forgiveness than permission!

    Never say "one more upgrade then I'm done"

    Try to be aware of WAF, Wife Approval Factor, always let her know that you are keeping her in mind when placing your next order.

    There is no such thing as "overkill" and too much is NEVER enough.

    Welcome to Club Polk, nice purchase!

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  • Mattox86
    Mattox86 Posts: 65
    Thanks for the support everyone. I knew I could count on this forum to ease my mind. Geoff4rfc, great advice. I have other Polk equipment and an SVS sub, which was like pulling teeth to have her be ok with it. I figured I'll be in the doghouse for a little bit, but it will cost more to return them, so I'm hopeful she'll get over it. She has stated she likes the Cherry veneer on my RTi a1's and CSi a4, so the a5 will have more to like, at least that what I'll keep telling myself haha.
  • kharp1
    kharp1 Posts: 3,459
    edited June 2019
    Welcome, and, man up :) This is the first of many such transgressions, and, you've come to the right place. We will enable the heck out of you!
  • Mattox86
    Mattox86 Posts: 65
    So what's the smarter way to handle this. Tell her about them before they arrive or just wait for the order to show up, or does it not matter?
  • mlistens03
    mlistens03 Posts: 2,751
    Mattox86 wrote: »
    So what's the smarter way to handle this. Tell her about them before they arrive or just wait for the order to show up, or does it not matter?

    When they show up, play dumb and say "what are these?" Pretend like you don't know what they are. decide that Christmas has come early and Santa has taken a liking to you. Maybe then she'll let you keep them. Or you'll die... one of the two.

    Welcome man! :)
  • Mattox86
    Mattox86 Posts: 65
    Mlistens03, sometimes I wish my wife was that gullible.
  • tratliff
    tratliff Posts: 1,174
    edited June 2019
    Not the way I handle my audio purchases.

    My wife and I have an agreement. We will not purchase anything more than a couple of hundred without at least discussing it with each other. And if I really want it she most always says OK. Regardless of price.

    This is the best advice I can give. It works well since I don't want a new Louis Vuitton showing up on my credit card that I was unaware of.
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  • cfrizz
    cfrizz Posts: 13,414
    edited June 2019
    Welcome to Club Polk, I hope you enjoy divorce court! ;):D But at least you will have your system to enjoy, unless the judge makes you give it to her.
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  • Mikey081057
    Mikey081057 Posts: 7,128
    Hmmm. you went for towers which will hurt way more when she decides where she is gong to place them. Ouch!
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  • Emlyn
    Emlyn Posts: 3,019
    Just show her a photo of the A9s that are also on sale and say you think you showed eminent restraint. And then go clean the bathrooms.
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  • mlistens03
    mlistens03 Posts: 2,751
    Don't take my advice... I promise you it ain't good! ;)
    Hmmm. you went for towers which will hurt way more when she decides where she is gong to place them. Ouch!

    True that. This is what it's gonna be like (these are my dad's Eosones)
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    :p
  • Mattox86
    Mattox86 Posts: 65
    mlistens03 wrote: »
    Don't take my advice... I promise you it ain't good! ;)
    Hmmm. you went for towers which will hurt way more when she decides where she is gong to place them. Ouch!

    True that. This is what it's gonna be like (these are my dad's Eosones)
    dm0gcpzp8uj5.jpg
    :p

    Thankfully there is only one place these towers can go in my small living room. None of which involves furniture being placed in front.
  • Willow
    Willow Posts: 10,350
    Sometimes it is easier to ask for forgiveness than permission!
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  • Tony M
    Tony M Posts: 9,671
    edited June 2019
    Rookie! :D

    Married for 30 years here. I love it when my wife brings me a box or package "for me" from the front porch "with that look in her eyes". :D

    Maybe you can get her to make "Road trips" to pick up audio stuff. A bunch of us members do it quite often with our wives or husbands or whomever. Mostly the other ones couldn't give a hoot BUT it's a nice ride to see otherwise , sights we wouldn't have a reason to travel down those roads.

    Verb just made another "Road trip" yesterday in fact. ;):) He bought a great set of Polk SDA-CRS's at a great bargain!
    I don't know if his wife went along again on this "Road trip" though.

    Try bringing these Polk Big Boys home after snagging a great bargain on them without her knowing it. I have the SRS2s but they're out in another building. They'd be too big for my living room with my big entertainment units in there at the same time. :#
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  • dromunds
    dromunds Posts: 9,283
    That's why I never got married. I do as I see fit
  • monepolk
    monepolk Posts: 1,114
    edited June 2019
    ^^^I recognize that picture. Those puppies followed me home.
  • rooftop59
    rooftop59 Posts: 7,151
    edited June 2019
    Mattox86 wrote: »
    So what's the smarter way to handle this. Tell her about them before they arrive or just wait for the order to show up, or does it not matter?

    Here is where you need to know your spouse. Early on I would tell her and explain why the new speakers would sound better and where the money was coming from in the budget. After a few times, she just got used to me buying and selling and then just rolling her eyes to now only saying something if someone else asks, and then she will kind of roll her eyes but nothing terrible.

    And to @cfrizz, if this is a divorceable offense then your marriage has much deeper problems. Now, if $300 means you can't pay the rent or you’ll be struggling trying to pay off the credit card for a year, then that’s a different story and you need to send them back lol...
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  • indyhawg
    indyhawg Posts: 1,559
    Done that more than once. Always find a way to escape the doghouse.
  • pitdogg2
    pitdogg2 Posts: 18,546
    edited June 2019
    indyhawg wrote: »
    Done that more than once. Always find a way to escape the doghouse.

    I built my own dog house, well then i needed to outfit said dog house so i bought more gear.... If you have the right dog house set up then you enjoy being in it and then once again they are PO'd just the same.... They'll get over it
  • indyhawg
    indyhawg Posts: 1,559
    I feel fortunate to have a wife who supports my hobby. She could care less about audio events like AXPONA, but she lets me go with no hassle.
  • Mattox86
    Mattox86 Posts: 65
    Haha, I'm not concerned about divorce, that would be ludacris. I am very picky about my battles. My wife doesn't understand my hobby, not to the point of buying speakers when I don't technically need them. I'll take my licks with this one. But I figured it would be funny to see some of the responses to my post given this is a common trend with this hobby.
  • Mattox86
    Mattox86 Posts: 65
    I'll post pics of my setup if I am still alive lol.
  • codycatalist
    codycatalist Posts: 2,661
    I usually tell her after I buy to be honest however I RARELY make big purchases. $300, hmm I might get away with it. Just have a gift ready or a date night planned.

    Good luck!
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  • Mattox86
    Mattox86 Posts: 65
    I usually tell her after I buy to be honest however I RARELY make big purchases. $300, hmm I might get away with it. Just have a gift ready or a date night planned.

    Good luck!

    That's exactly my thoughts on the matter. I already have a plan. The shipping time has allowed me to carefully plan this out haha.
  • Mattox86
    Mattox86 Posts: 65
    indyhawg wrote: »
    I feel fortunate to have a wife who supports my hobby. She could care less about audio events like AXPONA, but she lets me go with no hassle.

    You are one of the lucky few I believe.
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