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  • bsoko2
    bsoko2 Posts: 1,449
    edited July 2009
    woodhead 2 wrote: »
    No, it's not easy to take. I'm having one hell of a time, keeping my **** together. I think she is taking it better than I am. If we were in our 70's, maybe a little easier to take, but 53 is way too young. All the retirment planning in jepardy. Sometimes it makes you want to just live for today, spend what you make, and have a ball. So what if you have to work till you die, you could die tomorrow.....

    I was 57 and took early retirement after 33 years working for a newspaper in Seattle. The management pension looked good and we had a big house for sale and would do ok. Well . . . 9/11 happened and we took a bath on the realestate. Feb the next year, my wife broke her hip and our Cobra had just run out. The following May on Mothers day weekend, she had a massive heart attack and it was discovered that she only had 20% of her heart working to keep her alive. Financially, we hit the bottom except for the pensions coming in. Everything else went to her healthcare. Now we are both OK and she is doing OK most of the time as long as she keeps up with the meds and get well program. We don't own our home and never will now, but we are comfortable and she will be 67 and I will be 66 this year. So, you get through things, keep it together and remember that others have it worse. At least you live in America, and nobody is knocking down your door in the middle of the night and dragging you out to the gulag. Life is good!

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  • TECHNOKID
    TECHNOKID Posts: 4,298
    edited July 2009
    comfortablycurt wrote: »
    Don't give up hope. Maintaining a positive attitude is a big part of beating these types of things. Don't underestimate the human ability to persevere.

    Your family will be in my thoughts.
    bsoko2 wrote: »
    I was 57 and took early retirement after 33 years working for a newspaper in Seattle. The management pension looked good and we had a big house for sale and would do ok. Well . . . 9/11 happened and we took a bath on the realestate. Feb the next year, my wife broke her hip and our Cobra had just run out. The following May on Mothers day weekend, she had a massive heart attack and it was discovered that she only had 20% of her heart working to keep her alive. Financially, we hit the bottom except for the pensions coming in. Everything else went to her healthcare. Now we are both OK and she is doing OK most of the time as long as she keeps up with the meds and get well program. We don't own our home and never will now, but we are comfortable and she will be 67 and I will be 66 this year. So, you get through things, keep it together and remember that others have it worse. At least you live in America, and nobody is knocking down your door in the middle of the night and dragging you out to the gulag. Life is good!

    The Best to You and Yours, Bill
    This is surely hard for you to swallow at this point but never ever give hope till the last breath, that is what makes the difference. Find some strength from deep within and give it to her with your deepest love. Enjoy life with her the best possible without looking at your fears (yes, easier said than done but possible), the way you take it and live it will make the difference! Just love her and let her love you more than ever, you will gain from this no matter what! You do not know what the final outcome will be, "your attitude almost always determine your altitude in life". Life isn't over yet for neither of you, enjoy it to its fullest! May our God bless your couple! Hang on, still praying for both of you big time!

    TK
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  • nikolas812
    nikolas812 Posts: 2,915
    edited July 2009
    GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY.





    Nik
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  • exalted512
    exalted512 Posts: 10,735
    edited July 2009
    The lady that does my mom's hair had that. She was able to completely beat it about 5 years ago. She's still doing great today. Keep your head up.
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  • woodhead 2
    woodhead 2 Posts: 367
    edited July 2009
    bsoko2 wrote: »
    I was 57 and took early retirement after 33 years working for a newspaper in Seattle. The management pension looked good and we had a big house for sale and would do ok. Well . . . 9/11 happened and we took a bath on the realestate. Feb the next year, my wife broke her hip and our Cobra had just run out. The following May on Mothers day weekend, she had a massive heart attack and it was discovered that she only had 20% of her heart working to keep her alive. Financially, we hit the bottom except for the pensions coming in. Everything else went to her healthcare. Now we are both OK and she is doing OK most of the time as long as she keeps up with the meds and get well program. We don't own our home and never will now, but we are comfortable and she will be 67 and I will be 66 this year. So, you get through things, keep it together and remember that others have it worse. At least you live in America, and nobody is knocking down your door in the middle of the night and dragging you out to the gulag. Life is good!

    The Best to You and Yours, Bill

    Yes, I guess we all have problems in life. And a part of life is dying. At least I'm still working, and have an income coming in. She is a lot of pain, and just wants it to end. I think the end is near.
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  • woodhead 2
    woodhead 2 Posts: 367
    edited July 2009
    TECHNOKID wrote: »
    This is surely hard for you to swallow at this point but never ever give hope till the last breath, that is what makes the difference. Find some strength from deep within and give it to her with your deepest love. Enjoy life with her the best possible without looking at your fears (yes, easier said than done but possible), the way you take it and live it will make the difference! Just love her and let her love you more than ever, you will gain from this no matter what! You do not know what the final outcome will be, "your attitude almost always determine your altitude in life". Life isn't over yet for neither of you, enjoy it to its fullest! May our God bless your couple! Hang on, still praying for both of you big time!

    TK

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  • steveinaz
    steveinaz Posts: 19,538
    edited July 2009
    What a tough thing, you got balls of steel brother. I know I'd be a wreck. Prayers continuing man, try to stay positive as her seeing you sad is as heart breaking for her, as you having to deal with this. Surround yourself with family/friends, and God bless, buddy.
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  • woodhead 2
    woodhead 2 Posts: 367
    edited July 2009
    Thanks again for all the prayers. We will see the specialist tomorrow. Lots of hurry up and wait. And all the while, she is getting weaker and weaker. I sure hope we find out something tomorrow. Once again, thanks for your support.
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  • Retro152
    Retro152 Posts: 985
    edited July 2009
    woodhead 2 wrote: »
    Thanks again for all the prayers. We will see the specialist tomorrow. Lots of hurry up and wait. And all the while, she is getting weaker and weaker. I sure hope we find out something tomorrow. Once again, thanks for your support.

    Big time prayers to your wife and you, hope for good news. Be strong. Keep the Forum updated when you can, we care! Much Luck!



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  • woodhead 2
    woodhead 2 Posts: 367
    edited July 2009
    Well, we saw two specialists, and no luck. She's full of cancer, so now we start the road to the end. What a nightmare. Thank you all for your concern, prayers, and words of encouragement. And another thing, if there is any smokers out there, I would advise you to throw those nasty things out the window.......
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  • Retro152
    Retro152 Posts: 985
    edited July 2009
    woodhead 2 wrote: »
    Well, we saw two specialists, and no luck. She's full of cancer, so now we start the road to the end. What a nightmare. Thank you all for your concern, prayers, and words of encouragement. And another thing, if there is any smokers out there, I would advise you to throw those nasty things out the window.......

    Very sorry to hear. Comfort her the best you can. Big time prayers to both of you, and still holding out for a miracle for you!



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  • schwarcw
    schwarcw Posts: 7,339
    edited July 2009
    I am so sorry to hear this sad news. I hope that your wife doesn't suffer through this. I am praying for your wife and family to find the strength go forward. God Bless!
    Carl

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  • zarrdoss
    zarrdoss Posts: 2,562
    edited July 2009
    woodhead 2 wrote: »
    Well, we saw two specialists, and no luck. She's full of cancer, so now we start the road to the end. What a nightmare. Thank you all for your concern, prayers, and words of encouragement. And another thing, if there is any smokers out there, I would advise you to throw those nasty things out the window.......

    +100000000 to stop smoking

    And again so sorry to hear. keep your friends and family close, you are going to need them.
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  • Sherardp
    Sherardp Posts: 8,038
    edited July 2009
    Very sad news, stay strong for her bro. Thoughts and prayers sent.
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  • cfrizz
    cfrizz Posts: 13,415
    edited July 2009
    I am very sorry to read this. I will hope & pray that your wife has a peaceful painfree passing. Try to stay strong & come here to vent when it gets to be too much.

    Don't forget to take care of yourself in the meantime.
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  • apphd
    apphd Posts: 1,514
    edited July 2009
    Sorry to read this latest update, sad news for sure but more of a need to stay strong and positive than ever. Continued prayers for you all.
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  • zarrdoss
    zarrdoss Posts: 2,562
    edited July 2009
    We lost my girlfriends mom to cancer about 9 months ago and she decided to die at home, Hospice made that possible and are still helping with grief counseling. They are a great non profit organization that I would highly recommend if thats what you decide.
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  • Tony M
    Tony M Posts: 11,164
    edited July 2009
    My wife and I quit smoking 10 yrs. ago and tonight we both were talking about you and prayed for you too. Sorry to hear your update is so grim.

    May GOD give you both strength while you both continue with what is to come.

    Ask and you shall receive...Knock, and thy door will open..

    May GOD comfort you both.
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  • disneyjoe7
    disneyjoe7 Posts: 11,435
    edited July 2009
    Sorry too hear, and a bit painful to talk about... You need local support on your end, we can offer support far away and I know first hand on how important that is. But you need local support, and if at all possible get Hospice support as soon as possible. I found them too help me when I needed the most, keep your chin up if possible. It sucks I know sorry.

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  • woodhead 2
    woodhead 2 Posts: 367
    edited August 2009
    zarrdoss wrote: »
    We lost my girlfriends mom to cancer about 9 months ago and she decided to die at home, Hospice made that possible and are still helping with grief counseling. They are a great non profit organization that I would highly recommend if thats what you decide.

    Hospice is coming in a few days. Boy, what a nightmare!!!!
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  • doggie750
    doggie750 Posts: 1,160
    edited August 2009
    OMG.........sorry to hear this.

    My sincere thoughts and prayers are with you and your family
    Godspeed,
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