So... I'm getting married

BjornB17
BjornB17 Posts: 752
edited September 2008 in The Clubhouse
Any advice???? :D
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  • NotaSuv
    NotaSuv Posts: 3,845
    edited September 2008
    well if ya have to ask ;)
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  • BjornB17
    BjornB17 Posts: 752
    edited September 2008
    NotaSuv wrote: »
    well if ya have to ask ;)

    Am i missing something? :confused:
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  • exalted512
    exalted512 Posts: 10,735
    edited September 2008
    Put if off as long as possible...

    ...at least thats what im doing with my fiancee
    -Cody
    Music is like candy, you have to get rid of the rappers to enjoy it
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  • steveinaz
    steveinaz Posts: 19,536
    edited September 2008
    RUN.

    RUN LIKE THE WIND.

    RUN WITH EVERYTHING YOU HAVE, SON.

    RUN.











    kidding.
    (hey, was that a haiku?)
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  • sucks2beme
    sucks2beme Posts: 5,601
    edited September 2008
    If you like living poor, get married.
    "The legitimate powers of government extend to such acts only as are injurious to others. But it does me no injury for my neighbour to say there are twenty gods, or no god. It neither picks my pocket nor breaks my leg." --Thomas Jefferson
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  • steveinaz
    steveinaz Posts: 19,536
    edited September 2008
    Not really, my wife is my sugar-mama.
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  • phoneisbusy
    phoneisbusy Posts: 867
    edited September 2008
    Congratulations !
    Buy all your toys now. :D
    Time is the best teacher. Unfortunately it kills all its students.
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  • Jstas
    Jstas Posts: 14,806
    edited September 2008
    BjornB17 wrote: »
    Any advice???? :D

    Stick a tire iron in a fire until it is white hot. Then remove it from the fire and shove it directly into your eye.

    It feels better than marriage.

    Really, it does.
    Expert Moron Extraordinaire

    You're just jealous 'cause the voices don't talk to you!
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  • ShinAce
    ShinAce Posts: 1,194
    edited September 2008
    Step 1: do not post serious life events in PolkForums
    Step 2: provide pics of your finac
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  • Danny Tse
    Danny Tse Posts: 5,206
    edited September 2008
    BjornB17 wrote: »
    Any advice???? :D

    See "Reality of marriage for guys thread" :D

    Disclaimer: :D is there just in case fiance saw what I posted
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  • George Grand
    George Grand Posts: 12,258
    edited September 2008
    Don't listen to these guys, cause nobody knows if marriage is for you except you. If you think it's for you, give it a shot. A real shot. I'd buy myself a lot of good toys ahead of time in case things don't pan out.
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  • ben62670
    ben62670 Posts: 15,969
    edited September 2008
    Just make sure you really know her, and her family. Look long and hard at her mom. After marriage she will(without having any control over this) turn into her mother. How does she handle things when they don't go well? Does she get upset? How long have you known her? Did you know who she was before you two started dating? Sorry about all the ?'s. You need to know the answers, but you don't need to post them.
    Ben
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    Thanks
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  • hockeyboy
    hockeyboy Posts: 1,428
    edited September 2008
    Congratulations Bjorn! I look at my marriage as some of the happiest times of my life. We broke up eventually because of unwillingness to compromise and too much dependence on the other. The best advice I can offer is to make absolutely sure that you each have your own separate lives. You need to each be successful and fulfilled before you can make each other happy. Congratulations and I wish you tremendous success and happiness.
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  • Face
    Face Posts: 14,340
    edited September 2008
    Lasareath wrote: »
    She had to re-finance the house and pay him $50,000 and he took most of the furniture as well.
    I'm surprised he's still able to walk.


    Bjorn, do you live with her yet? It's good to try before you buy.
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  • Early B.
    Early B. Posts: 7,900
    edited September 2008
    The OP says he's getting married. Some of y'all are responding as though he's asking whether or not he should get married.

    Here's some actual marriage advice -- compatibility, communication, and compromise. If the two of you can handle those three, you'll be fine.

    Congrats.
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  • george daniel
    george daniel Posts: 12,096
    edited September 2008
    Tubes :)
    JC approves....he told me so. (F-1 nut)
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  • NotaSuv
    NotaSuv Posts: 3,845
    edited September 2008
    BjornB17 wrote: »
    Am i missing something? :confused:

    cant answer that one............the point of my reply was this isnt the place to ask for advice....had you just posted "i'm getting married and its great" well then a totally different set of replies..sadly alot have seen the not so nice face of marriage and posted accordingly.......some lose all......congrats for many happy years ahead.......and not everyone goes thru the living hell...lol...well i did the first time around..one of those that lost ALOT but second time has been a true charm.......best wishes
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  • exalted512
    exalted512 Posts: 10,735
    edited September 2008
    love the tags
    -Cody
    Music is like candy, you have to get rid of the rappers to enjoy it
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  • BjornB17
    BjornB17 Posts: 752
    edited September 2008
    phoneisbusy wrote: »
    Congratulations !
    Buy all your toys now. :D

    my signature should be an indication of me being in the process of doing that :D
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  • exalted512
    exalted512 Posts: 10,735
    edited September 2008
    phoneisbusy wrote: »
    Congratulations !
    Buy all your toys now. :D

    I'm not getting married until next summer, but I've been working on getting all my toys since I first started dating this one...I've amassed a ton of crap!!
    -Cody
    Music is like candy, you have to get rid of the rappers to enjoy it
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  • BjornB17
    BjornB17 Posts: 752
    edited September 2008
    lol the tags and many of the replies in this thread are hilarious!

    I guess to address some, erm "concerns," I didn't post the thread expecting serious answers or any decision-making advice, but mainly just for conversation purposes. i'm going to marry her regardless and I'm very excited :D

    I guess to answer some questions:
    -We've been dating for over 5 years
    -I'm 24 y/o
    -We bought a house that will be done in a couple months
    -No, we haven't lived together
    -Yes i know her family very well, and if she turns out to be anything like them, that's just fine
    -Yes, I'm already buying all my toys (minus the UPA-7 which i hope i can get later :eek:) :D
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  • BjornB17
    BjornB17 Posts: 752
    edited September 2008
    Lasareath wrote: »
    Cables do Help!

    Oh no, you've gone and done it, haven't you? :mad:
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  • Lowell_M
    Lowell_M Posts: 1,660
    edited September 2008
    Good luck and enjoy! I've been married 8 years this coming Tuesday and can say that there a some definite challanges in marriage, but I'm married to my best friend...and she fortunatley got sucked into this audio thing somehow.... (Thanks to DKG999 and Heiney9...not sure how)

    Moral of the story.... how good are your selling skills? Make sure you get her involved in this insanity that we call audio.
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  • Lowell_M
    Lowell_M Posts: 1,660
    edited September 2008
    ...and..... Cables Make a Difference!!!!!
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    RTi70 mains
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    RTi28 Rears
    Velodyne CHT-12
    H/K AVR-247
    ADCOM GFA-7000
    Samsung PN58B860
    Playstation 3
    2-Channel
    Polk Audio LSi15's
    Rotel RCD-1072
    Nakamichi CA-5 Pre
    ADCOM GFA-555
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    Signal Ultra Bi-Wire Speaker Cables
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  • BjornB17
    BjornB17 Posts: 752
    edited September 2008
    a_mattison wrote: »
    ...and..... Cables Make a Difference!!!!!

    Thanks, I'll buy Monster Cables.
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  • Lowell_M
    Lowell_M Posts: 1,660
    edited September 2008
    BjornB17 wrote: »
    Thanks, I'll buy Monster Cables.

    NOT THOSE CABLES!!! Well... unless your fiance is into that kinda thing
    HT
    RTi70 mains
    CSi30 center
    RTi28 Rears
    Velodyne CHT-12
    H/K AVR-247
    ADCOM GFA-7000
    Samsung PN58B860
    Playstation 3
    2-Channel
    Polk Audio LSi15's
    Rotel RCD-1072
    Nakamichi CA-5 Pre
    ADCOM GFA-555
    Signal Cable Analog II IC's
    Signal Ultra Bi-Wire Speaker Cables
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  • BjornB17
    BjornB17 Posts: 752
    edited September 2008
    a_mattison wrote: »
    NOT THOSE CABLES!!! Well... unless your fiance is into that kinda thing

    Cables are Cables :D
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  • danger boy
    danger boy Posts: 15,722
    edited September 2008
    best advice.. be happy.. and make her happy.

    then rescue a pet from the local shelter and you immediately have someone you both can look after and enjoy.

    :)
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  • ben62670
    ben62670 Posts: 15,969
    edited September 2008
    BjornB17 wrote: »
    Thanks, I'll buy Monster Cables.

    Well from that post....
    Please. Please contact me a ben62670 @ yahoo.com. Make sure to include who you are, and you are from Polk so I don't delete your email. Also I am now physically unable to work on any projects. If you need help let these guys know. There are many people who will help if you let them know where you are.
    Thanks
    Ben
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  • carpenter
    carpenter Posts: 362
    edited September 2008
    Ok, once a thread is tagged "no more bj's" there isn't much I can do, but I'll give it a try.
    The best advice I can give you, is: learn how to argue, or better yet, learn how to prevent an augment from transforming into a huge fight.
    However worked up you're getting mid argument .....
    1) never bring up her mother
    2) never mention her looks
    3) never talk trash about her girlfriends, especially if their overweight ..
    4) never, ever (ever (ever)) mention one of your old girlfriends, and how they behaved better in similar situations.

    If I'm to translate it to Bj economics (thus keeping up with the spirit of the thread ;))
    each violation will cost you a month. and there is no such thing as concurrent sentencing in a marriage. :D


    and finally.. Congrats man!, Getting married is the best thing I ever did!
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