Thoughts and prayers needed

Fongolio
Fongolio Posts: 3,516
edited August 2008 in The Clubhouse
This morning (Monday) at around 11:00am my 12 year old son who lives with his mother but stays with me on weekends found his mother dead in her bedroom from either a prescription drug overdose or asphyxiation. I was at work and got a call from him hysterical and scared out of his mind. It's been a long and horrible day for both of us but the worst part is that tomorrow (Tuesday) is his 13th birthday. He is with me now and and will live here from now on.We are both in shock. Please pray for my son. Thankyou.
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  • ben62670
    ben62670 Posts: 15,969
    edited August 2008
    Prayers sent for you, and your family. I'll continue to prey. All I can offer besides prayer is heart felt condolences.
    Sincerely
    Ben
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  • danger boy
    danger boy Posts: 15,722
    edited August 2008
    sorry to hear about the terrible tragedy. Prayers sent for you and your son and family.
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  • Sherardp
    Sherardp Posts: 8,038
    edited August 2008
    Prayers sent, I can only imagine what the little guy must of felt like. Hope all goes well.
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  • engtaz
    engtaz Posts: 7,664
    edited August 2008
    Prayers sent. That's really sad.

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  • Ricardo
    Ricardo Posts: 10,636
    edited August 2008
    Prayers sent.
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  • del44
    del44 Posts: 686
    edited August 2008
    I feel for you and your son. Prayers sent.
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  • TNRabbit
    TNRabbit Posts: 2,168
    edited August 2008
    My niece experienced a similar situation; he'll need stability & love from you to recover, and it won't be a short road.

    Sympathy & prayers for you and your son.
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  • George Grand
    George Grand Posts: 12,258
    edited August 2008
    Kelvin, I'm so sorry for you, your son and your ex-wife. Hopefully he'll get over this horrible turn of events. He's fortunate in one respect. He's still got his dad. Good luck.
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  • janmike
    janmike Posts: 6,146
    edited August 2008
    Sad indeed. Prayers sent for all. Take care.
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  • NotaSuv
    NotaSuv Posts: 3,860
    edited August 2008
    Sympathy & prayers for you and your son
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  • Fireman32
    Fireman32 Posts: 4,845
    edited August 2008
    So sorry to hear. Hope all turns out well.
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  • phoneisbusy
    phoneisbusy Posts: 867
    edited August 2008
    prayers sent.
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  • avelanchefan
    avelanchefan Posts: 2,401
    edited August 2008
    Prayers sent.
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  • joeparaski
    joeparaski Posts: 1,865
    edited August 2008
    OMG..that is terrible. Prayers sent.

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  • steveinaz
    steveinaz Posts: 19,538
    edited August 2008
    Oh lord, prayers sent man. What a terrible thing--you have our heart-felt condolences.
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  • BottomFeeder
    BottomFeeder Posts: 1,684
    edited August 2008
    I will pray for you and for your son.

    It's amazing, but the Lord can do some really good things, even through something like this.

    Hang on.
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  • reeltrouble1
    reeltrouble1 Posts: 9,312
    edited August 2008
    Prayers sent. Take care of yourself and your son.

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  • disneyjoe7
    disneyjoe7 Posts: 11,435
    edited August 2008
    OMG sorry for your loss, prayers sent, take care of yourself and son.

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  • Shizelbs
    Shizelbs Posts: 7,433
    edited August 2008
    PM sent.
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  • audiobliss
    audiobliss Posts: 12,518
    edited August 2008
    Wow, man, so sorry to hear that. Can't imagine how traumatic that would be for the little guy. Can't imagine how traumatic it'd be for me now!

    Prayers will definitely be sent for you, your son, and everyone else affected. As mentioned before, God works in mysterious ways and knows what He's doing, however hard it may be for us to see it.

    Keep believing and strengthening your faith... that can be a great example for your son during this time and help him to develop a stronger faith, as well.
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  • bdaley6509
    bdaley6509 Posts: 1,167
    edited August 2008
    That's horrible. Prayers for you, your son, and family.
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  • cfrizz
    cfrizz Posts: 13,415
    edited August 2008
    My deepest sympathies. Take care of yourself & your son, and don't be afraid to have him talk to a therapist if necessary.
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  • Serendipity
    Serendipity Posts: 6,975
    edited August 2008
    Prayers sent. Sorry for your loss.
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  • Shizelbs
    Shizelbs Posts: 7,433
    edited August 2008
    cfrizz wrote: »
    My deepest sympathies. Take care of yourself & your son, and don't be afraid to have him talk to a therapist if necessary.

    +1,

    Don't be afraid to do it before it becomes necessary.
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  • george daniel
    george daniel Posts: 12,096
    edited August 2008
    Prayers sent.
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  • shack
    shack Posts: 11,154
    edited August 2008
    I'm so sorry. Even though you were not together...she was still your son's mother and someone you cared about (at some time during your life) and I know everyone is hurting. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your son.
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  • mrbigbluelight
    mrbigbluelight Posts: 9,840
    edited August 2008
    cfrizz wrote: »
    My deepest sympathies. Take care of yourself & your son, and don't be afraid to have him talk to a therapist if necessary.

    Excellent advice.

    There's a saying, "There's strength in knowledge" but I think you can show your son strength right now by letting him know that answers to some of the questions he must have inside are: "I don't know".

    And while you may not have all the answers, the answers to two of the most important questions ("Dad, do you love me ?", and "Dad, will you be there for me ?") are an unwavering, "Yes !".

    Don't waste any time trying to figure out the "Why", just deal with the "What Is".

    Prayers for you and your son.
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  • ben62670
    ben62670 Posts: 15,969
    edited August 2008
    mrbigbluelight wrote: »
    Don't waste any time trying to figure out the "Why", just deal with the "What Is".

    Very good advice. The why part is the tormentor.
    Still in my prayers.
    Ben
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  • Fongolio
    Fongolio Posts: 3,516
    edited August 2008
    You people have truly touched my heart with your outpouring of prayers and wishes. I truly thank you all. John (my son) is doing ok all things considered. We went to the family doctor today and to a grief counselling session for traumatized children and we both felt a little better coming out. I was actually very good friends with his mother even though we had not been together as a couple for almost 10 years. We even played ball on the same mixed slo-pitch team. As I wrote earlier his birthday was today (Tuesday) and despite everything we had an ok time. I took him to his favorited restaurant (Denny's believe it or not) with a good family friend and her child and then went to a local kids fun place with arcade games and stuff. I told him we'll do a genuine real birthday celebration after things are settled a little. He was good with that. He's feeling a lot of anger that this happened on his 13th birthday but is expressing it well and not bottling it all up but not in rage either. The kid at times shows courage and strength far beyond his years and as the counsellers pointed out a very significant maturity for a boy his age. He had a very hard time going to sleep last night being terrified of choking in his sleep which was how he found his mom but did fall asleep in my bed by about 1:00am andwoke at almost 10:00 so he had a great sleep all things considered. He was already starting to point out some of the positives of living with me today and that's a great start. By the way he's a budding audiophile himself and can appreciate very good hifi over lofi mp3. I should be careful about that though because as many of us know this hobby can be addicting. Anyway I very sincerely thank you all again for the outpouring of support. Even though I've never met any of you I feel a real sense of community here on this forum and am proud to be a member of it. God bless you all.

    Kelvin
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  • ben62670
    ben62670 Posts: 15,969
    edited August 2008
    It is like a family here. My heart truly went out to you, and your son like many others have. There is power in prayer. I don't care what anyone says.
    Ben
    Please. Please contact me a ben62670 @ yahoo.com. Make sure to include who you are, and you are from Polk so I don't delete your email. Also I am now physically unable to work on any projects. If you need help let these guys know. There are many people who will help if you let them know where you are.
    Thanks
    Ben
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