My 10 year anniversary today

tonyb

CNH has a valid point and in no way is he eluding to the assumption you must be an idiot if you marry in your 20's. Everyone is different, situations are different. Some mature faster than others....that alone is painfully obvious. Heck, most our own parents married young, but it was a different world with different priorities then.

Cnh,

Your comment about elders is somewhat telling in a sense. When we were young, were we any different ? Did we respect our elders wisdom ? We knew it all didn't we....just like the youth of today. No matter how old I personally get, I still seek out those older for their wisdom. My elders....yours too, are walking history books. You will learn stuff you never thought possible from your Seniors and you will find they are not so oblivious to todays world as we tend to think.

Think they don't know about substance abuse, sexuality in schools or media, lost children to drugs and gangs, making ends meet and raising families, politics, trying to climb that ladder in the corporate world, investments and financials, war.....hell man, they've been there done that. They've navigated those waters and came out on the other end. So when you feel a bit overwhelmed by life in general, seek out your elders and sit down and simply talk to them. I guarantee you....you'll walk away a better person.

cnh

John Megadeth wrote: »

What the hell; I'll respond (since I have about five minutes of downtime at work).

I just turned 30 (as you probably could surmise from my previous post). I (as well as my wife) have college degrees from an accredited public university. We waited to get married until after we both graduated so as to not put our respective college careers in peril, hence the 1.5-year long engagement. My wife graduated without any student loan debt, and I followed an aggressive, self-imposed debt repayment plan on my small (relative to most people's) student loan, in which I paid it off in 5 years. Wait a moment--that sounds like some pretty wise planning and execution!

My wife has been with her company for over 7 years now, working full-time. I've been with my company (a Fortune 200 Company that has an application-to-acceptance rate on par with Harvard and NASA) for over 6 years.

We have two beautiful, healthy children. Our oldest is 4.5 years old and the youngest turns 1 next month. Thanks to our wonderful health insurance benefits, we paid for both deliveries in cash.

A few months before the birth of our oldest, my mother suffered a severe and unexpected medical condition that almost took her life, leading to nearly a month in the hospital and a miraculous recovery. This was *extremely* hard on me at the time, and the slightest hiccup in any neurological issues she experiences today still makes me nervous. My wife's grandmother died the day before her birthday, so she's reminded of that every year.

We have a great income, a respectable mortgage, minimal auto debt (which, like the student loan, will be assassinated soon), a 401(k) account that my company thankfully matches 1:1 up to 10%, two awesome kids, careers, and a dog.

There are a *multitude* of other things I have experienced in my life, both positive and negative, but I'll save those for my diary I keep under my pillow.

What's the point of this? Some of us--regardless of age--are actually pretty experienced! Don't use a blanket statement to say that all "those damn kids" don't respect those older than them; it's simply not true. I agree with your sentiment, and agree that there are *plenty* of young people who are destined to sling burgers or not fulfill their potential. Many of today's (and yesterday's) young people are doing smart, calculated, amazing things with their lives; I confidently include myself and my wife in that category.

Moral of the story? I don't remember; I've been typing this for far too long now. What I think I was getting at was...ah yes:

SCREW YOU, OLD MAN!

I'm kidding; this is what I hope you take away from it: respect everyone, not just the elder statesmen. Some of us younger people have more life experience (both positive and negative, successful and riddled with failures) then some of *your* elders.

Hugs and high fives,

Megadeth

P.S.--I still think PFB is a trollbot, created by a forum moderator to annoy to piss off everyone on here.

Oh but "I" do respect you John. Why are you getting so "upset"? I admitted there are "exceptions"? And asked a series of questions, which "you" answered, no? Good for you! You're doing fine. And all us old farts deserve to be cursed, occasionally, except that if you'd ever meet me face to face I wouldn't look that "old" to you. I'm on the F1nut plan, you see. Sleep in some of that earth from the "old country" daily! lol

But check in in another 20 or 30 years perhaps? That's all I'm saying. Why do the young think they've done it all already? Don't you have anything left to look forward to, no more challenges ahead? Think life will sail smoothly till we're old, can't remember who we are and young people would just as soon be "rid" of us? We live in a society that discards its old for the most part and targets young professionals like yourself, makes it seem that that's the only age worth being? lol

You already have, at 30, a good income, good job, benefits, savings. Bravo!

Ultimately we "agree", "most" people marry too young, there is just too much "statistical evidence for that". And even if that does not include you, and it seems not to, that does not refute the evidence and a MAJOR problem in this society and I believe some of our members who've been through more than one marriage can agree here. Nothing personal here at all.


cnh

cnh

John Megadeth wrote: »

Ah, friend, no angst here! I typed all of that with the most sincere and happiest of intentions! All for fun

Again, don't assume we (henceforth to be referred to as the collective "whipper snappers") believe that we have it all figured out. Some do, and they are fools.

Time for me to go commute 40 miles home for the next 1.5 hours. The whiskey greeting me will be lovely.

Toodles,

M

Some good Kentucky Bourbon, I hope!

Enjoy!

cnh

cnh

Sorry, double post!

cnh

tonyb wrote: »

CNH has a valid point and in no way is he eluding to the assumption you must be an idiot if you marry in your 20's. Everyone is different, situations are different. Some mature faster than others....that alone is painfully obvious. Heck, most our own parents married young, but it was a different world with different priorities then.

Cnh,

Your comment about elders is somewhat telling in a sense. When we were young, were we any different ? Did we respect our elders wisdom ? We knew it all didn't we....just like the youth of today. No matter how old I personally get, I still seek out those older for their wisdom. My elders....yours too, are walking history books. You will learn stuff you never thought possible from your Seniors and you will find they are not so oblivious to todays world as we tend to think.

Think they don't know about substance abuse, sexuality in schools or media, lost children to drugs and gangs, making ends meet and raising families, politics, trying to climb that ladder in the corporate world, investments and financials, war.....hell man, they've been there done that. They've navigated those waters and came out on the other end. So when you feel a bit overwhelmed by life in general, seek out your elders and sit down and simply talk to them. I guarantee you....you'll walk away a better person.

Tony, right as "usual". Isn't it ironic how our generation whose slogan was "Don't trust anyone over 30" has come full circle now that we are our parents age? You have to smile and laugh a little at how arrogant we were as youth, defiant, self-assured. We KNEW so much more than our parents and probably did not respect them as much as we should have? After all, who "gave" us our values? Who taught us how to care for others? Who picked us up when we fell, clothed us, fed us, loved us? And the PAIN! We had to watch them grow old, weak, feeble, and die--become dependent on "us" as though we could care for them as WELL as they did us? No my friend, I fell short, myself. I was NOT the equal to those who came before "me" even though I was better educated, knew more, had a better job, more things, etc. I didn't "struggle" the way they did. I didn't get off the boat with "nothing" in my pocket. I didn't work forever at shxxty jobs saving and saving and saving while being maligned as a swarthy southern European who would NEVER make anything of himself. It's "embarrassing" to even think of comparing ourselves to them. What they did, what they built. I am humbled!

I remember once when I was doing research for NYC as a grad student I had to interview some senior citizens in a home who had actually dug the tunnels for the NY subway system! WOW. Just WOW! The stories! Most of them are no longer with us and yet when we ride those subways they are "everywhere"!

Or in the words of Santayana: "Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it"

cnh

teekay0007

cnh - better get that computer looked at. It seems to throw out a lot of random quotation marks! Do "you" know what I "mean"?


Lots of semi-random question marks too. Might want to have them look at that too, if you're taking it in?


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cnh

teekay0007 wrote: »

cnh - better get that computer looked at. It seems to throw out a lot of random quotation marks! Do "you" know what I "mean"?


Lots of semi-random question marks too. Might want to have them look at that too, if you're taking it in?


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lol, you seem to "KNOW" exactly how "I" am using them! What, no love for prose-poetry? No rhetorical use of the question mark allowed?

Ever read any e e cummings
???

cnh

zane77

You guys are cracking me up! I'm old too.

tonyb

Cnh,

Amen to all that bro. Truth hurts at times, but it's the lessons learned from it that's the real treasures of life. This is a subject dear to me as I'm sure it is to you and many others. Myself, like you, have tried to live up to be the same caliber as my elders and find I fall short time and time again. I may even say, I try to be the person my dog thinks I am.....and I still fall short. Thing is I know it and always strive to be better.

Sorry for the derail PFB, congrats on your 10 years. Least you can do is give the woman a Purple Heart medal. LOL

Seriously....congrats and may you have many more.

DMara

polkfarmboy wrote: »

Well todays my 10th year anniversary of marriage to celebrate, I nearly forgot.

Congrats! Luckily you haven't broken her banana binding post

TNHNDYMAN

DMara wrote: »

Congrats! Luckily you haven't broken her banana binding post

I sure hope he's using banana plugs......I'd hate to see the results of putting bare wire in there.

hochpt21

TNHNDYMAN wrote: »

I sure hope he's using banana plugs......I'd hate to see the results of putting bare wire in there.

Quote of the year.