Hi Ya'll!

daboyz
daboyz Posts: 5,207
edited November 2011 in The Clubhouse
I've been stressing on how exactly to bring up what I've got to say so I'm gonna do the best I can.

On June 26 I lost my stepson to a motorcycle accident. He was 23. I raised him from the age of 3 since his dad found other things were more important than him. His loss. He was not always the easiest child to raise but I'd be damned if he didn't grow into an unbelievable young man. We were very proud of him.

It has been a devastating loss to our family. We loved him very much and life is just so empty without him being there. I have come to the point where I just think WTF. My wife is so hurt, she's still not there yet. My daughter puts up a good front but she's still no where near what she should be.

I know I haven't been chatting or adding anything to the forum like I used to but this has changed my world so much that it's just not the same. I've been selling off my two channel rig slowly but surely. Part of it is I just don't have the time to listen anymore. The other side is I need the cash to be able to keep up with all the expenses that come with losing someone.

I have shared this with some folk on the forum and my RAS brethren whom I appreciate. I really didn't want to bring this to the attention of the whole forum but I felt that I should explain my reason for all the sales lately and the low post count towards the forum.

Sorry kids. I've got a lot to say about this but have had to hold it in so that I was the strong one. It's a ****.
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  • F1nut
    F1nut Posts: 50,508
    edited November 2011
    Dave, I'm sorry for your family's loss and hope that the good Lord will give all of you the strength to move forward.
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  • headrott
    headrott Posts: 5,496
    edited November 2011
    Jesse said it perfectly. God bless you and your family. Take care of yourselves.

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  • engtaz
    engtaz Posts: 7,663
    edited November 2011
    So sorry to hear. Prayers sent for your family.
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  • chumlie
    chumlie Posts: 8,658
    edited November 2011
    So sorry for your loss, can't imagine the pain of looseing a child. I almost lost my 24yr old son to a motorcycle accident about 2months ago. Truck cut him off at 60mph. Thankfully the only thing wrong is his back which the Dr's say will recover. I will never forget that phone call. I wish nothing but the best for you and your family.
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  • BeefJerky
    BeefJerky Posts: 1,320
    edited November 2011
    I am so sorry to hear about your loss. It will be hard, but I know ya'll will make it through.
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  • cfrizz
    cfrizz Posts: 13,415
    edited November 2011
    My deepest condolences to you and your family.
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  • tonyb
    tonyb Posts: 32,957
    edited November 2011
    Sorry to hear this Dave, may the good Lord see you threw this.
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  • [Deleted User]
    [Deleted User] Posts: 1,225
    edited November 2011
    Sorry for your loss.
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  • steveinaz
    steveinaz Posts: 19,538
    edited November 2011
    No need to explain anything. Sorry for your loss man, God Bless.
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  • polkatese
    polkatese Posts: 6,767
    edited November 2011
    Dave, I am so sorry to hear that. Thoughts and prayers to you and the family. Let me know if there's anything I could do.
    I am sorry, I have no opinion on the matter. I am sure you do. So, don't mind me, I just want to talk audio and pie.
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  • Conradicles
    Conradicles Posts: 6,079
    edited November 2011
    Prayers sent Dave and grace and peace from the LORD. Sometimes things happen that make no sense at all.
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  • steveinaz
    steveinaz Posts: 19,538
    edited November 2011
    Take solace in knowing you provided that boy with a Dad that was truly meaningful in his life. God Bless buddy, as a step-father and grandfather myself, we both know it's no different, your child is your child. Bev & I are praying for your family.
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  • nguyendot
    nguyendot Posts: 3,594
    edited November 2011
    We stand with you and our prayers go out to you.
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  • apc
    apc Posts: 779
    edited November 2011
    Words at a time like this seem insufficient, so prayers are sent for peace in your family.
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  • Oldfatdogs
    Oldfatdogs Posts: 1,874
    edited November 2011
    Thats a tough one,thoughts ans prayers to you and your family. Dan
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  • cambir
    cambir Posts: 1,045
    edited November 2011
    Sorry to hear of your family's loss. Thoughts and prayers of strength and hope for Dave and his family.
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  • gimpod
    gimpod Posts: 1,793
    edited November 2011
    So sorry for your loss, Sometimes life truly sucks. Take it from someone who's been there more time's than I care to remember it does get better it just takes time. Going on 30+ years ago I lost my little brother then my mom then ended up in a car wreck that left me paralyzed for life all in a span of less than 18 months. It will never get back to normal but it does get better you just have to take it one day at a time.

    Best wishes for you and yours ~ Tony
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  • thsmith
    thsmith Posts: 6,082
    edited November 2011
    Dave, so sorry and no way could imagine what you and your family are going through. I can offer no words that will help but you sound strong and to have the courage to share is no small thing.

    I can only suggest counseling or a support group. I think this is where time helps.

    It makes me cry to even think of something happening to my kids or grandkids.

    I admire anyone that raises kids that are not theirs, my son is raising 2 plus 2 of his own. I suspect he would be defensive of "raises kids that are not theirs" as he feels they are his.
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  • evhudsons
    evhudsons Posts: 1,175
    edited November 2011
    I'm so sorry to hear that too. I can't imagine your pain. Words may not help you now, but I hope they help you and your family in whatever way they may.

    God Bless you and your family,

    -Everett
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  • starkiller
    starkiller Posts: 2,723
    edited November 2011
    Wow, really sorry to hear that:cry: All the best to you and your family and I am sure you know we are all here for you!

    Take care...
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  • TECHNOKID
    TECHNOKID Posts: 4,298
    edited November 2011
    I am soooo sorry about your lost, very heartbreaking!:cry: As a father of 2 sons (both slightly older than your son), I can barely imagine the ordeal your family had to go through! My thoughts and prayers go to you and your family hoping the Lord will bring the healing. I am out of words but my heart is with you and your family during this trial...

    God Bless!
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  • PSOVLSK
    PSOVLSK Posts: 5,198
    edited November 2011
    I can't even begin to comprehend losing my son or daughter. My heart breaks for you and your family. Prayers for peace and comfort to you.
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  • dfretwell
    dfretwell Posts: 103
    edited November 2011
    God bless, Dave.
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  • schwarcw
    schwarcw Posts: 7,335
    edited November 2011
    Dave,

    I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your step son. I hope you and your wife can work through these tough times, grieve as you need to do. Hopefully, you and your family will come to a better place and be at piece with this loss.

    Prayers sent!

    Regards,

    Carl
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  • daboyz
    daboyz Posts: 5,207
    edited November 2011
    Thanks everyone. I guess some days are better than others. The headstone(a granite bench) was just installed today. Really beautiful. I'll try to get a pic up soon. We've got a picture of him on it. Pretty cool.
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  • cstmar01
    cstmar01 Posts: 4,424
    edited November 2011
    I'm sorry to hear about your loss Dave. You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.
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