Got back into dating after 10 years...

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  • Strong Bad
    Strong Bad Posts: 4,277
    edited June 2011
    Sure, why not! You guys will enjoy! :biggrin:

    Having logged 9 1/2 years working in stripclubs in some capacity AND being a single guy, sure, I caved into the temptations. I dated some of the nutcases! Of course at the beginning I thought "I found a cool one!" It never took long before their insanity came forth making me think "WTF!" The last one was "leaving her boyfriend just as soon as she finds an apartment." This dragged on, but I held out because..she was a smokin hot little asian girl. I wasn't bailing on that body! (just being honest) Things dragged on for about a month as she was still trying to leave him. I also figured out quite fast that she was looking for good ole sugar daddy to take care of her. I called it off and said thats it! About 2 weeks later she tells me she's preggers by her boyfriend and is doing the only thing she can...I ask what that is...she's keeping it and is getting married to her boyfriend. This the guy she hates, has been leaving and messing around with me!

    I dodged a HUGE bullet there! She was far enough along before we even did anything. Besides, Mr. Trojan did his job! After that, I steared clear of them all! A year ago I called it quits entirely from the stripclub scene. I needed it gone from my life! I'd never find a real WOMAN and I no longer needed the money! Besides, a real woman wouldn't want me as long as I worked there. So, I spent the last year focusing on my career and getting my Harley. Of course, I spent the last 5 1/2 months here in Texas working. When I get home, it's back full blast into the dating game and just having fun. I have some friends that have someone for me to meet and who's been wanting to meet me. A professional woman with a career! All I can...she better like Harley's!

    Oh, the best time I ever had in my stripclub days was a redhead who just wanted to hang out one night and have fun. Thats it, no strings and just fun!

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  • Polkie2009
    Polkie2009 Posts: 3,834
    edited June 2011
    Had an aquaintance once(ex husband of next door neighbor) who worked as a dj in the strip clubs. You're right SB, most women aren't interested in guys who work in those establishments,lol. I've learned that you can avoid most of the dating drama by not going out with women who are alcoholics or use drugs.
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  • steveinaz
    steveinaz Posts: 19,538
    edited June 2011
    Jstas wrote: »
    If this person is put off by dentures then superficiality is their strong suit and probably not for you.

    Exactly John.
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  • ryanjoachim
    ryanjoachim Posts: 2,046
    edited June 2011
    Well, I told her about them last night and she took it pretty well. She wasn't excited about it, but she didn't run away screaming, so I'd call that a success.
    MrNightly wrote: »
    "Dr Dunn admitted that his research could also be interpreted as evidence that women are shallower than men. He said: "Let's face it - there's evidence to support it."
    mystik610 wrote: »
    Best Buy is for people who don't know any better. Magnolia is for people who don't know any better and have more money to spend.
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  • Jstas
    Jstas Posts: 14,809
    edited June 2011
    ryanjoachim wrote: »
    ...she took it pretty well. She wasn't excited about it...

    I'm not sure what that means, could you elaborate a bit?
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  • ryanjoachim
    ryanjoachim Posts: 2,046
    edited June 2011
    Jstas wrote: »
    I'm not sure what that means, could you elaborate a bit?

    Well, she was a bit put-off by it...meaning it certainly didn't increase my attractiveness in her eyes. It didn't seem to change how she felt though, and she says it isn't an issue for her.
    MrNightly wrote: »
    "Dr Dunn admitted that his research could also be interpreted as evidence that women are shallower than men. He said: "Let's face it - there's evidence to support it."
    mystik610 wrote: »
    Best Buy is for people who don't know any better. Magnolia is for people who don't know any better and have more money to spend.
    My System:


    TV: SAMSUNG UN55B7000 55" 1080p LED HDTV
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  • VR3
    VR3 Posts: 28,611
    edited June 2011
    I feel like I am watching Oprah
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  • Jstas
    Jstas Posts: 14,809
    edited June 2011
    ryanjoachim wrote: »
    Well, she was a bit put-off by it...meaning it certainly didn't increase my attractiveness in her eyes. It didn't seem to change how she felt though, and she says it isn't an issue for her.

    But put off how? Did she scream, did she wince, did she laugh, what?

    'Cause honestly, any reaction other than "How did you end up with those?" would have made me wonder if she was holding back.

    Vr3MxStyler2k3 wrote: »
    I feel like I am watching Oprah

    Says the guy whose last romantic encounter involved lightman, a dimly room and Spackle...while the dogs watched. :tongue:
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  • ryanjoachim
    ryanjoachim Posts: 2,046
    edited June 2011
    Jstas wrote: »
    But put off how? Did she scream, did she wince, did she laugh, what?

    'Cause honestly, any reaction other than "How did you end up with those?" would have made me wonder if she was holding back.

    "Put-off" was probably the wrong word to use. She was surprised, and then asked how I got them. I've only got a week invested into this relationship so far, so I'm not worrying too much about whether or not she's holding back. If she is, she'll let me know soon enough.
    MrNightly wrote: »
    "Dr Dunn admitted that his research could also be interpreted as evidence that women are shallower than men. He said: "Let's face it - there's evidence to support it."
    mystik610 wrote: »
    Best Buy is for people who don't know any better. Magnolia is for people who don't know any better and have more money to spend.
    My System:


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  • ryanjoachim
    ryanjoachim Posts: 2,046
    edited June 2011
    Vr3MxStyler2k3 wrote: »
    I feel like I am watching Oprah

    I'm too white for Oprah.
    MrNightly wrote: »
    "Dr Dunn admitted that his research could also be interpreted as evidence that women are shallower than men. He said: "Let's face it - there's evidence to support it."
    mystik610 wrote: »
    Best Buy is for people who don't know any better. Magnolia is for people who don't know any better and have more money to spend.
    My System:


    TV: SAMSUNG UN55B7000 55" 1080p LED HDTV
    HTPC: Chromecast w/ Plex Media Server. Media streamed from Media Server.
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  • zingo
    zingo Posts: 11,258
    edited June 2011
    ryanjoachim wrote: »
    And let me tell you...I'm rusty as all hell!

    Luckily I found a nice librarian who doesn't seem to mind my occasional "dating blunder".

    We've been on several dates now (out to drinks, movie, karoke, etc) and spent a few nights at my place with Netflix (a god-send imo).

    Just thought I'd give people a spot to post their stories, if you have any.

    Pictures or it didn't happen. :tongue:
    Jake
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  • ryanjoachim
    ryanjoachim Posts: 2,046
    edited June 2011
    zingo wrote: »
    Pictures or it didn't happen. :tongue:

    Lol...I jokingly told her I was going to take a picture of her "O-face" (Office Space reference) and tag her in it on Facebook.

    She wasn't impressed.
    MrNightly wrote: »
    "Dr Dunn admitted that his research could also be interpreted as evidence that women are shallower than men. He said: "Let's face it - there's evidence to support it."
    mystik610 wrote: »
    Best Buy is for people who don't know any better. Magnolia is for people who don't know any better and have more money to spend.
    My System:


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  • Slaine777
    Slaine777 Posts: 78
    edited June 2011
    For those of you who have used online dating, which sites have worked for you and which haven't?
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  • Jstas
    Jstas Posts: 14,809
    edited June 2011
    http://www.plentyoffish.com is free. Probably a good place to start since the success rates there are no different than the success rates on the pay sites that want you to believe things are actually better there.

    But, like most of the other places to meet people on the "dating scene", online is just as rife with losers, whack jobs and degenerates as any bar, social mixer, club, speed dating event or what have you. The nice thing about online, especially POF since it's free, is that you don't have to go hang out in a hot, loud club or bar and buy expensive drinks for trashy people who will likely be much less endearing and attractive than they already aren't after you and they both sober up.

    Online lets you sit on your couch at home and watch "Best of the 90's" on VH1 while you peruse pictures and send emails.

    As with any dating thing though, take everything with a grain of salt. You're going to find and meet alot of ducks before you find that swan.
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  • bobman1235
    bobman1235 Posts: 10,822
    edited June 2011
    Ugh, really? PlentyOfFish is the most wretched hive of scum and villainy I've come across on the Internet. If nothing else, looking at their interface puts me into an epileptic seizure. I'ts like it was designed by a 9-year old in 1997 and not touched since.


    For me :
    Free : OKCupid. Horrible name, but really a great site.

    Paid : Match.com I guess, but only because it's the only one I've used. The biggest drawback to match is that it doesn't tell you if the person you're emailing has a paid account, and MOST people on the site do NOT, so you're going to send a lot of emails to a mailbox that someone hasn't paid to access. Lamesauce.
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  • Jstas
    Jstas Posts: 14,809
    edited June 2011
    bobman1235 wrote: »
    Ugh, really? PlentyOfFish is the most wretched hive of scum and villainy I've come across on the Internet. If nothing else, looking at their interface puts me into an epileptic seizure. I'ts like it was designed by a 9-year old in 1997 and not touched since.


    For me :
    Free : OKCupid. Horrible name, but really a great site.

    Paid : Match.com I guess, but only because it's the only one I've used. The biggest drawback to match is that it doesn't tell you if the person you're emailing has a paid account, and MOST people on the site do NOT, so you're going to send a lot of emails to a mailbox that someone hasn't paid to access. Lamesauce.

    POF is not that bad. You don't have to do any more weeding through garbage than you do at any other site including eharmony or Chemistry.com. I really don't understand how you can hate the relatively simple interface of POF yet absolutely love the myspace-esque layout of okcupid.

    It doesn't matter what site you go to, the common denominator at all of them is people. People are the reason any site sucks, not the site itself. The thing about POF is that they have far more people signed up than any other site. It's a bit of a task to find the good stuff but it's a task on any other site as well. If it was easy to meet someone of any substance, sites like POF, okcupid and so on wouldn't be necessary.

    And okcupid wasn't always free. It was started by dudes at Harvard and was a social networking site with ad revenue supported content. If you wanted to use the social community to meet someone, you needed to sign up for an account. I think it was 2009 when they started the free aspect but retained the "A-list" account which offers many more features and options than the free side. The reason they started the free side is because of POF. POF was kicking butt and taking names in the online personals and social networking world and rivaled only by Facebook. OKCupid adapted to compete but are still only a fraction of the size of POF. But OKCupid got bought by Match.com earlier this year anyway. Even with match.com user base factored in, OKCupid boast 5.6 million users to POF's 23 million users. The only other site that can best that 23M mark is Zoosk but they integrated with Facebook and have 50M user because of the "potential users" signed up on Facebook. They don't actually have 50M, more like 9M but hey, gotta spin the numbers to generate the ad revenue, right?
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  • bobman1235
    bobman1235 Posts: 10,822
    edited June 2011
    Well the history lesson is much appreciated, but hugely unnecessary.

    I hadn't been on PoF for a long time, and their website seems hugely improved from before. Maybe a year or so ago I was on there and it was horrific. Just a grid of photos, all stretched so that they were a perfect square (so if you have a tall picture it was literally scrunched to fit in a 50x50 px spot)... just awful.

    EDIT : Here's a perfect example of the shoddy type of site PlentyOfFish is - when you sign up / sign in, they don't mask your password. I'ts just plain text, right there on the screen. It's not a big deal, because you'd be crazy to use the same password on a dating site as any other site, but it's just a good example of how half-**** that site is.
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  • Jstas
    Jstas Posts: 14,809
    edited June 2011
    bobman1235 wrote: »
    Well the history lesson is much appreciated, but hugely unnecessary.

    I hadn't been on PoF for a long time, and their website seems hugely improved from before. Maybe a year or so ago I was on there and it was horrific. Just a grid of photos, all stretched so that they were a perfect square (so if you have a tall picture it was literally scrunched to fit in a 50x50 px spot)... just awful.

    EDIT : Here's a perfect example of the shoddy type of site PlentyOfFish is - when you sign up / sign in, they don't mask your password. I'ts just plain text, right there on the screen. It's not a big deal, because you'd be crazy to use the same password on a dating site as any other site, but it's just a good example of how half-**** that site is.

    Hmmm, last I knew, the password wasn't masked when you signed up but when you sign in it is. You can also change it from your account control panel. Unless it changed.
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  • Amherst
    Amherst Posts: 695
    edited June 2011
    Another vote here for pof.com.

    I think half the world has a profile on that site. Can't miss proposition for anyone breathing air.
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  • bobman1235
    bobman1235 Posts: 10,822
    edited June 2011
    I realize the end result is just to meet people, but at least for most guys you end up spending a lot of time sorting through crap and sending emails, it's nice to at least have a usable interface, that's all. And PoF STILL does that ridiculous thing where they take every picture and just stretch / squish it into a square shape! Plus you have zero information about anyone at a glance (age, location in particular), you have to click through... it's just not user friendly.

    I feel like I"m taking crazy pills that I'm the only one to notice / care about this.
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  • Polkersince85
    Polkersince85 Posts: 2,883
    edited June 2011
    ryanjoachim wrote: »
    Well, I told her about them last night and she took it pretty well. She wasn't excited about it, but she didn't run

    Reminds me of the HeeHaw skit:

    You took off your hair
    Your teeth and your glasses
    Pulled off your leg
    And laid it aside...
    All I wanted was to hung and to kiss you
    But you were scattered ... all over the room

    Where, where are you tonight
    Why did you leave me here all alone
    At first I thought that I had found true love
    But You met another and poof you were gone.
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    >This message has been scanned by the NSA and found to be free of harmful intent.<
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  • byfthalone
    byfthalone Posts: 345
    edited June 2011
    reading all of this...wow! I can't ever remember being single....was married the middle of my senior of high school and remained so until this month. 41 years later I find myself single...took a year for the divorce to finalize. frankly, it is peaceful...I find I like myself quite well and I haven't been this happy since the hogs ate my baby brother..LOL
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