An incredibly tough week for me.

avelanchefan
avelanchefan Posts: 2,401
edited February 2024 in Clubhouse Archives
A week ago Sunday my wife found out her grandmother died. Her grandfather died about 3 months ago, and we think she died of a broken heart. It was very unexpected.

On Monday as I was starting to search for plane tickets for my wifes family I noticed on my starting web page that a co-worker of mine, and good friend, lost her son in Iraq while serving for the Army. http://www.dailystar.com/dailystar/dailystar/41105.php

Karen and I talked in lengths about her son going to Iraq. She got to spend 10 days with him before he deployed over there. And she told me once that, right after he left, that she had a terrible feeling in her heart that she would never see Robbie again. At the time it shocked me that she would say that, but I listened and encouraged her the best I could. But maybe it was mother's intuition or something.

So today (Sunday) my father and I went golfing early in the morning. Had a 7:30 tee time, and really enjoyed the day with my best friend. My dad dropped me off and as soon as I walked in the door I knew something was wrong. My wife asked me to sit down as she told me the unthinkable. She told me that a lot of people have been trying to get a hold of me, and that late last night Karen had pased away from a massive heart attack. Needless to say I was speechless, and heart broken. This woman had a heart of gold and did so much for her family, co-workers and community. It is such a tragic loss that I cannot comprehend.

She leaves a daughter Amy, husband Dennis, and lovely 3 year old granddaughter Ivy. A few beers will be toasted in her memory as well as her son's tonight.
Sean
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  • Frank Z
    Frank Z Posts: 5,860
    edited October 2004
    Sean,
    Our heart felt condolences to you, your family and your friend. We will certainly keep all of you in our prayers.

    God Bless
    Frank, Debbie, Daniel, & Rebecca
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  • Airplay355
    Airplay355 Posts: 4,298
    edited October 2004
    :(
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  • RuSsMaN
    RuSsMaN Posts: 17,986
    edited October 2004
    Thoughts and prayers Sean.

    I'll raise the next glass to a brave soldier's service, and unselfishness, and the mother that obviously instilled good values in him.

    Cheers,
    Russ
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  • shack
    shack Posts: 11,154
    edited October 2004
    My condolences to both you and your family and Karen's. I know how hard it is when you lose a good friend and loved one suddenly. What I cannot comprehend (and hope I will never have to) is the sense of loss Karen's family must feel. In the span of a week to tragically lose a son/wife, brother/mother, uncle/grandmother must be very hard. To barely begin grieving the loss of one before another is lost is sure to put a huge strain on that family. They need our prayers. I'm sure this goes without saying...but your helping that family in any way will not only honor your friend but will help you get through this tough time. My prayers will be with you, your wife and the family of your friend.
    "Just because you’re offended doesn’t mean you’re right." - Ricky Gervais

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  • dave shepard
    dave shepard Posts: 1,334
    edited October 2004
    Sorry for yours and their losses, my thoughts and prayers are with you and yours and theirs.

    Dave
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  • gatemplin
    gatemplin Posts: 1,595
    edited October 2004
    I cannot comprehend (and hope I will never have to) is the sense of loss Karen's family must feel.

    Well said Shack. I am sorry to hear about the loss of the family and friends of Frank and Sean. It sounds like you and Karen were really close, my condolences.
    Graham
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  • Tour2ma
    Tour2ma Posts: 10,177
    edited October 2004
    Wow... utterly speechless here.
    More later,
    Tour...
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  • phoneisbusy
    phoneisbusy Posts: 867
    edited October 2004
    avelanchefan,

    My condolences to you and Karen's family. I wish I had more to say...

    regards

    Dave
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  • dorokusai
    dorokusai Posts: 25,577
    edited October 2004
    Sean - Stay strong, we will think of you in your time of loss.

    Mark
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  • avelanchefan
    avelanchefan Posts: 2,401
    edited October 2004
    Thank you guys for the heart felt condolences. (Thanks for the PM I-Sig)

    My wife has handled her grief for her grandmother like any other loving granddaughter would. She has been a real trooper in helping me deal with mine. What a fine woman she is.

    Yesterday was Karen's and Robbie's wake. What a tear soaked affair. Then on top of it I had to go straight to work. It is a very tough night (I am at work right now.)

    One quick story...When I last talked to Karen (last thursday) on the phone I had asked if I could do any thing for her, she had said no, then as we were saying our goodbye's she remembered how I was talking about a great putter (for golf) I had found on Ebay. Since her husband loved the game also she asked if I would try to find one for him on ebay too for his birthday. I of coarse said I would. She said with all the preperation's of robbie's funeral she was afraid of forgetting Dennis' b-day.

    Yesterday the putter came in the mail. What a shock it was for me. I had forgotten that I had found one so fast, and was able to get it for a reasonable price. So I am happy that she will be able to give Dennis a birthday present (A Taylor Made by the way), I just wish she was able to be here.:(

    Thanks again guys.... here is the story about her.

    http://www.cnn.com/2004/US/10/05/soldiers.mother.ap/index.html
    Sean
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  • Tour2ma
    Tour2ma Posts: 10,177
    edited October 2004
    ave,
    That's the kind of bittersweet story that is in a what seems like dozen or so e-mails my wife forwards me daily... Now I know at least one of them is true...

    Take care...
    More later,
    Tour...
    Vox Copuli
    Better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to open your mouth and remove all doubt. - Old English Proverb

    "Death doesn't come with a Uhaul." - Dennis Gardner
    "It's easy to get lost in price vs performance vs ego vs illusion." - doro
    "There is a certain entertainment value in ripping the occaisonal (sic) buttmunch..." - TroyD
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  • shack
    shack Posts: 11,154
    edited October 2004
    Karen's story was on the NBC Today show this morning.
    "Just because you’re offended doesn’t mean you’re right." - Ricky Gervais

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  • steveinaz
    steveinaz Posts: 19,538
    edited October 2004
    Sorry for your recent troubles brother. My wife & I lost our best friend last halloween in a car wreck, right after having dinner with her and her husband.

    Hang tough, times will get better...
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