Need some advice (women)

organ

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PolkThug

Best advice I can give on this one, which you don't want to hear, but I feel obligated.

Watch your f*cking back.

Regards,
PolkThug

F1nut

Lust is a powerful emotion, don't confuse it with love.

Having said that, you should have called in sick and gone out with her, I would have.....oh wait, I own my business...lol.

Go ahead, ask her out, you'll find out where things stand and maybe get a chance to see what she's like in a normal environment.

brettw22

OK........wow......

Organ, if you are having to pay to see someone (naked or clothed), let that be a red flag going up.

If you think that (as a general rule) a stripper is going to stop stripping because her current bf wants her to, you're being extremely naive....let that be another flag.

Strippers aren't there to find relationships......they're there to tell the men what they want to hear in order for them to get money(regardless of their reasons for the money..i.e. kids, school, whatever)......let that be another flag.

While you said that you liked her personality, that's not the reason you were in that place to start with either. Going to a strip club and (intentionally or not) trying to find a date is a VERY bad idea. Another flag.....

Aside from the fact that you like her, I don't at all think that it's a good idea for you to even entertain the thought of dating her. Most guys that go to the strip clubs would want to date one of the strippers........but that doesn't make it a good idea.......

A stripper dating one of the patrons IMO looks like a hooker dating her pimp.....the mentality is money first, self second, and patron last.......

organ

PT,
I'm not sure I follow you there.

F1,
I don't have it confused. When I think about her I'm not thnking about sex or other dirty things. I really like her personality and talking to her. Great spirit and a very good heart.

Even at the club she's very open and I feel that's how she is outside. No other girls there would talk about the stuff she talked about. She told me about problems she's been having, friends, family, etc. I seriously hope she's the same person outside of work.

Thanks for the help. I think I will ask her.

Maurice

organ

Brett,
Money is not going to be involved the next time I see her.

I didn't go there with the intention of dating one of the girls.

I don't want to post the other things she told me but she did tell me how she got started (she wasn't born here) and if I was a female in her situation, I would've done the same thing.

If I did get her, I wouldn't mind if she continues to work there.

You brought up some very good points. I'll keep them in mind, see how things go next week and decide.

Maurice

gidrah

slipping

organ

Holy crap! A little more alcohol and I should be a writer;). Surprised I only made a few spelling errors. Also had a feeling this thread could go sour so let's kill it.

Gidrah,
Yeah, I've had one that was being way too sweet, it's fake. This one isn't one of them.

Thank you for sharing your experience, I feel much better now. You know, it's one of those things where you kick yourself in the **** later on in life for not trying.



Thanks again to everyone else who responded. Let's let this thread slip through the board.

Maurice

gidrah

I'll dance on your lap for a complete album and stick my tongue in your ear for that jitter reducer.


Edit:
P.S. Taking dating advise from Brett could be painful.:)

brettw22

Originally posted by gidrah
Edit:
P.S. Taking dating advise from Brett could be painful.:)

Leave it to the straighties to tie dating advice and sex advice. :rolleyes:.......ha

From what I hear though, the pain is only a temp thing.......then you'll be good to go.... lol

madmax

Strippers are people too.
madmax

dorokusai

This sounds like a subject that is best covered in PM's or email

Feel free to email me if you wish, I am available if you need to vent. I think the respondents also wouldn't mind being contacted.

HBombToo

I dated a stripper a long time back and had a good time. What finally broke up the party was just that... Way to much party. She was into the drug scene deaper than I cared to be and I just could not go that far. A little grass and Barley Pops are one thing but thats as far as it goes for the Bomber.

Good luck little bro

HBomb

Strong Bad

I missed his original post, but get some feel of it from the responses.

Dude, I've worked in stripclubs for 3 years as a DJ. Let me tell you, 99% of strippers are nuts!!! Rarely, and I mean, RARELY, will you find one that is somewhat normal.

Their job is to hustle guys and make money. I get the extreme pleasure of being on the inside and hearing them all **** at how they hate men, yet they take off their clothes for men to make money.

I can see how you would be tempted to think that you have some kind of connection with this girl, but trust me, do you really want a girl that takes off her clothes for a living, most likely is into some kind of drugs (even though she says she is not) and sits there and spills her personal problems to you in the stripclub while she is working? Dude, you won't change her! Don't get the "Knight in shining armour" thought in your head.

If it's a nice piece of a$$ on the side and some good sex, then knock yourself out! I had myself some fun over the years, but fun is all it was. Use it for what it is. FUN!

One more thing, I love how many are working there to put themselves through college and will quit when they get their degree. UH HUH, tell me another one! Saw 1 (thats one) girl put herself through nursing school. She graduated last year and where is she working...at the stripclub. Besides myself, I know of 1 DJ, 1 manager and a couple of bouncers that put themselves through school and have gone on to careers outside the club. I've worked with hundreds of people over the years.

I still do 1 night a week and it's for the sole purpose of making extra money. When my day job pays enough, it's bye bye forever!


DJ Strong Bad

PolkWannabie

I would think this is one of the real problems for people who work in clubs like this ...

If it's the kind of club that attracts more affluent than normal clients and one is very good looking and well liked it would be difficult to make more money in another career ... especially the entry level step or two in that career.

Demiurge

I agree with Brett on this one.

Dennis Gardner

Is this Club Poke?

pjdami

Hey Organ,

Isn't the answer like right in front of your eyes like everyday?

Aren't there any nice women at the college you go to? I realize the EE crowd that you hang out with isn't going to be loaded with women (engineering never seems to attract many women for whatever reason maybe 10%; I've come across some really intelligent and good looking women in engineering way back when).

Are the women at the college you go to stuck up or something?

Good luck on you asking her out. Tell her you got some Klipsch and tubes dude;)

organ

Whoa!!! This thread is still up there.

Let me set some things straight.....

She asked me out. I have to work on her only day off. There's no way I could get the day off because we're short one person and another is on vacation.

On my original thread, I was asking about what I should say next time I see her (wed). I wasn't sure if I should go ahead and ask her or wait for her to ask me again.

I've been with the weird strippers who are all wild and stuff. I'd never want to see them outside the club. This club is the most high class in Toronto and they don't hire anyone who's f#cked up. Even the waitresses have to cover up their tatoos when working. I've been to other clubs and they're all too damn weird for me.

Hi Paul,
Yeah, there are a lot of nice girls in my college but when I'm at school, there's so much stress and everything, I don't even want to bother meeting new people and stuff. Same thing with my classmates. My program is way too hard and stressful. It's also 100% male.

LMAO:D. I mentioned this on the original post but it was deleted by the time you read this thread. While we were talking, she told me about a friend who's very annoying because all he talks about is electronics. In her words, "electronics and sh#t, I can't stand it".

Maurice

organ

OK, now let's let this thread die.

pjdami

I wasn't sure if I should go ahead and ask her or wait for her to ask me again.

I would see if she remembered that she asked you out and just tell her the truth that you had to work and missed the first opportunity.

Geaux Maurice Geaux!!

Oh, and one thing, don't get on the topic of Thevenin's Circuit with her;)

Just see where it goes man. Nothing to lose and have SAFE fun.

pjdami

OK, now let's let this thread die.

Very true! This place is like a Soap Opera at times...LOL..

dead it is...

PolkThug

So, how did the story end?

shack

Originally posted by PolkThug
So, how did the story end?

He _________ed her. (Fill in whatever verb you like)