Well damn...

Poee7R

Looks like a 10 year marriage is coming to an end.

Packed the car, driving cross country to see some family this weekend. Just finished up moving the last boxes into storage, house is empty minus a few things Ive listed on craigslist that are waiting on folks to pickem up. About to take a sip of the first Crown and Coke Ive had in 5 years (no problems, just not much a drinker).

Not trying to air my business, just venting a bit. To those that have gone through this stuff, my hats off to you, dont think Ive been through a tougher situation.


Dave

pdxfj

I feel for ya! Been there..

With mine, there was one incident that made me say to myself "I'm done". Her family really hated me so I knew I had to wait for her to say "divorce". That wait was just over one year. If I had said it first her family would have hired an attorney and left me standing in the street naked.

It's quite an adjustment being on your own again.. Just takes time.. It will get better.

Drenis

Marriage terrifies me. I don;t know if I'll ever tie the knot. However, I'm classified up here as legally common-law now, even that scares me because now half my **** is gone if something happens.

Hope all goes well for you.

Polkersince85

I dated for four years and was then married for eighteen years. Once you realize that it's over, you can begin to move on. It's not an easy route to take so hang in there and enjoy life again.

chumlie

You have to think positive. from now on everything is half price. Till ya fall in love again. Enloy.

Oldfatdogs

Hang in there Dave,Its rough for a wile then you do as you please.Make yourself happy.

mdaudioguy

Coming up on the the tenth anniversary of my second 10 year marriage... Divorce was wonderful and devastating at the same time, for different reasons, if that makes sense. It may take a while, but things will get better. Don't be afraid to go to counseling. Stuff happens for a reason. Keep your head up, Dave.

Ed

audiocr381ve

Poee7R wrote: »

Looks like a 10 year marriage is coming to an end.

Packed the car, driving cross country to see some family this weekend. Just finished up moving the last boxes into storage, house is empty minus a few things Ive listed on craigslist that are waiting on folks to pickem up. About to take a sip of the first Crown and Coke Ive had in 5 years (no problems, just not much a drinker).

Not trying to air my business, just venting a bit. To those that have gone through this stuff, my hats off to you, dont think Ive been through a tougher situation.


Dave

I don't know your situation, but if it's nothing more than being sick and tired of each other I say fight for your marriage. The grass isn't greener on the other side.

mdaudioguy

audiocr381ve wrote: »

I don't know your situation, but if it's nothing more than being sick and tired of each other I say fight for your marriage. The grass isn't greener on the other side.

Gee, I thought it was safe to assume the situation was beyond the point of no return... I would say his post seems to imply that... and then to state that the grass isn't greener on the other side... That's ridiculous, and certainly isn't going to make anyone feel any better. And, he never even said he thought it would be greener.

It's more realistic to say that sometimes it is greener.

heiney9

Good luck brother, been there and the dust will settle and you will come out on the other side. Lean on family and friends to help ease the pain. No way around the changes and the "suckage" that goes along with a divorce, etc.

H9

inspiredsports

chumlie wrote: »

You have to think positive. from now on everything is half price. Till ya fall in love again. Enloy.

It's still equivalent, since you only have half the cash left to dish out, but hang in there Dave.

Poee7R

Thanks for the words guys, I recognize the time ahead for what it is and its not going to be easy, I believe we will both be better for it though... in the long run.

And no it really isnt a "we're tired of eachother" type of deal, kinda wish it was. It was the first time being married for both of us, so its equally tough, no winners in this game.

I cant say it wasnt a good ride though, I would do it all over again. I think she would say the same.


Dave

mrbigbluelight

Poee7R wrote: »

I cant say it wasnt a good ride though, I would do it all over again. I think she would say the same. Dave

Most excellent attitude to have, IMO, Mr. Dave.
Things are what they are; sounds like you both tried to make a go of it, and sometimes things don't work out. You can spend your time looking in the rearview mirror, and all you know is what is/was behind you. Hard to make it to whatever destination lies ahead, though, if you do that.

Plug n' Chug, it'll get better. You may hurt now, but that just proves 2 things:
1. Your human
2. You're not an idiot.

Fireman32

Dave so sorry to hear bro. Are you coming back east? Let me know if you need anything.

Tankman

Poee7R, Best of luck to you. Like some of the guys in here i have been through that too.No words can help you get over something like that.Only time will help.But please Sir,don't drink to much.Again i wish you the best of luck.

disneyjoe7

Well I think you have hit your personal low.... But I can say it gets better hang in there. You may find another woman down the road, so you can laugh at this whole situation later.

Poee7R

Fireman32 wrote: »

Dave so sorry to hear bro. Are you coming back east? Let me know if you need anything.

Yessir, Ill be in western NC for a bit, then Ill be heading to the triangle. Would be good to find Russ while im back also, we can sit there and pick on him a bit.

You're gonna kick me when you find out what Ive gotten rid of to lighten the load, and the price's Ive accepted. Matter of fact, I think Ill kick myself.

Tankman wrote: »

Poee7R, Best of luck to you. Like some of the guys in here i have been through that too.No words can help you get over something like that.Only time will help.But please Sir,don't drink to much.Again i wish you the best of luck.

No worries Tank, I didnt even finish my glass. Just a way to breath a bit deeper at that point, and take a moment. Cant really stand the stuff anymore, and like most folks, I know too many people that have lost too much in the bottom of a bottle.

Again guys thanks for the kind thoughts, I wrestled a bit with making a post, but as usual this place just feels comfortable enough to let things out once in a while.


Dave

megasat16

Sorry to hear, Dave! I know it's one of the hardest things in life to go through a Divorce but keep the chin up and things are going to get better from now.

In a time like this, family and friends are your best things in life.

Best Wishes,
James

sda2mike

did you save your audio stuff????? enjoy the music and life's next chapters.

mike

cnh

Poee7R wrote: »

Yessir, Ill be in western NC for a bit, then Ill be heading to the triangle. Would be good to find Russ while im back also, we can sit there and pick on him a bit.

You're gonna kick me when you find out what Ive gotten rid of to lighten the load, and the price's Ive accepted. Matter of fact, I think Ill kick myself.



No worries Tank, I didnt even finish my glass. Just a way to breath a bit deeper at that point, and take a moment. Cant really stand the stuff anymore, and like most folks, I know too many people that have lost too much in the bottom of a bottle.

Again guys thanks for the kind thoughts, I wrestled a bit with making a post, but as usual this place just feels comfortable enough to let things out once in a while.


Dave

Sorry to hear about this, Dave. But welcome back to the East Coast...where it's always "happening". Hope everything works out for the best!


cnh