Would you date a chick with a kid??
Bedpan
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I met a super cool girl last night (blind date sort of thing) we hit it off great, she is super hot too.
but she has a 6 year old kid......
dont know what to make of this scenario.....
but she has a 6 year old kid......
dont know what to make of this scenario.....
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How old are you bro! I married a woman who had a 4 year old when I first met her, pretty much raised the boy. That was almost 20 years ago. The boy was 7 when we were married. 5 years later we had a daughter, now 12.
This is a question of 'maturity' both yours and hers. I got married late so I was ready to deal with this. If I would've been in my 20s I never would've been able to handle it.
Good luck..
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No, it might upset my wife.
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I met a super cool girl last night (blind date sort of thing) we hit it off great, she is super hot too.
but she has a 6 year old kid......
dont know what to make of this scenario.....
Dont worry by now she will be as tight as she ever was.:p
Seriously,
6 year kids are adorable. She will love it if you get along and will find ways to demonstrate it. Plus she will (or should have) lost some of that (my stuff doesn't stink) attitude that single unencombered hot young chicks have so often. She is a Mom.
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How old are you bro! I married a woman who had a 4 year old when I first met her, pretty much raised the boy. That was almost 20 years ago. The boy was 7 when we were married. 5 years later we had a daughter, now 12.
This is a question of 'maturity' both yours and hers. I got married late so I was ready to deal with this. If I would've been in my 20s I never would've been able to handle it.
Good luck..
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A 6 year old is better than a 6 month old!
I agree that its about maturity. If you're ready to take on that responsibility of dating her and being a person in the son's life, go for it.Shawn
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Well I will share this:
At my age, most of the women I meet have kids. I recently dated one that did not at 36, and her wanting to have a family with me became the issue that broke us up. I already have three grown kids.-Kevin
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I'm 30 and she is 27.
Wow...those are dangerous ages. She is in her prime and is mature. (or should be) You are not. As demonstrated by your what about the kid question.
You will be putty to be molded any way she chooses. You will be manipulated and believe it was all your idea anyway. She should be able to hump you blind. (thats a positive!:D)
You are innocent low hanging fruit just waiting to be plucked.
Good luck to you. Enjoy the ride.
Whats the worst that could happen? You marry her? You have a ready made family? A good lucking wife and a good kid young enough to bond with?
If this doesnt work out for whatever reason, (she loves rap, she is against upgrading your audio, unforgivable things like that) It will be downhill from here. (probably):D -
Children are a BIG responsibility. Every time you want to do something, vacation, a date, get intimate, go listen to your rig, you will have to deal with what to do with the 6 year old. And if the father is still involved in the child's life, you can expect drama that only gets worse when the kid gets older. IMO, to be fair to the mother and the child, this is definitely not something to get involved with just because the 'chick is hot'. That will wear off eventually, the responsibilities to the kid, never will.
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Children are a BIG responsibility. Every time you want to do something, vacation, a date, get intimate, go listen to your rig, you will have to deal with what to do with the 6 year old. And if the father is still involved in the child's life, you can expect drama that only gets worse when the kid gets older. IMO, to be fair to the mother and the child, this is definitely not something to get involved with just because the 'chick is hot'. That will wear off eventually, the responsibilities to the kid, never will.
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You have 9 posts here and you are comfortable sharing this kind of stuff with the people here? Get real.
As for your question, you have yet to display any semblance of maturity that would lead anyone to believe that you are capable of caring for yourself let alone having a child in your care and you want people here to tell you if it's a good idea? Son, if you can't answer that question for yourself then you've already lost.
Since no one is willing to tell you what you need to hear, I will. No, it is not a good idea. For someone else, it might be but for you, it's a bad idea.Expert Moron Extraordinaire
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You're 30 and this is the 1st time you've run into this scenerio? Do ya live in a box?
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You have 9 posts here and you are comfortable sharing this kind of stuff with the people here? Get real.
As for your question, you have yet to display any semblance of maturity that would lead anyone to believe that you are capable of caring for yourself let alone having a child in your care and you want people here to tell you if it's a good idea? Son, if you can't answer that question for yourself then you've already lost.
Since no one is willing to tell you what you need to hear, I will. No, it is not a good idea. For someone else, it might be but for you, it's a bad idea.
You need to pull that wolverine out of your **** dude. You seem like you've got a personal vendetta against everything in the world. Chill out.
You have no basis for judging this guys character, nor do you have any right to.
I'm sure you'll come back at this with an overly witty 3000+word reply with the biggest words that you can think of...but I don't really care. So, I wouldn't even take the time if I were you.
I've dated chicks with kids...and would again if it was the right person. It can have it's drawbacks...but if she's a cool enough girl it may be worth looking past that.The nirvana inducer-
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concealer404 wrote: »Trolls trolling trolls trolling trolls...
Yeppers.................first 5 posts were about Emotiva, in threads that had nothing to do with Emotiva. Then this type of thread, which for someone who has been here awhile, made some face to face friends could ask, but joining today or yesterday and then asking such a silly question on an audio forum.
I just don't get it; I must be getting old.
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comfortablycurt wrote: »You need to pull that wolverine out of your **** dude. You seem like you've got a personal vendetta against everything in the world. Chill out.
Get bent.comfortablycurt wrote: »You have no basis for judging this guys character, nor do you have any right to.
Yes, I do.comfortablycurt wrote: »I'm sure you'll come back at this with an overly witty 3000+word reply with the biggest words that you can think of...but I don't really care. So, I wouldn't even take the time if I were you.
Get bent, again.comfortablycurt wrote: »I've dated chicks with kids...and would again if it was the right person. It can have it's drawbacks...but if she's a cool enough girl it may be worth looking past that.
Do you want a cookie?
The guy's a troll and you're going to go all bleeding heart on him? You get everything you deserve. Have fun with your new buddy.Expert Moron Extraordinaire
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Get bent.
Yes, I do.
Get bent, again.
Do you want a cookie?
The guy's a troll and you're going to go all bleeding heart on him? You get everything you deserve. Have fun with your new buddy.
Wow, that didn't take as many words as I thought it would.
I love you, and yes I'd like a cookie, thank you.
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comfortablycurt wrote: »Jstas has cookies, anyone else want one?
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comfortablycurt wrote: »Jstas has cookies, anyone else want one?
Nah, i'm good on cyanide cookies, thanks.I don't read the newsssspaperssss because dey aaaallllllllll...... have ugly print.
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I met a super cool girl last night (blind date sort of thing) we hit it off great, she is super hot too.
but she has a 6 year old kid......
dont know what to make of this scenario.....
Why does she need a blind date?
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Come on guys.............is it really worth it to argue publically about this alleged troll? He's getting exactly what he came here for. Don't get yourself wrapped around the axel in this thread. Take it to PM before warnings are issued, etc.
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nooshinjohn wrote: »Tread lightly, VERY VERY lightly. If she is eager for you to meet her boy, run!
Good point. Obviously that has not been discussed after only one date but if she is eager for me to meet her kid after just a few more dates I'll be skeptical. You can take the ho out of the ghetto but you can't take the ghetto out of the ho. -
Good point. Obviously that has not been discussed after only one date but if she is eager for me to meet her kid after just a few more dates I'll be skeptical. You can take the ho out of the ghetto but you can't take the ghetto out of the ho.
Oh yeah, he's totally mature enough to raise a kid.
And this is totally not spam.If you will it, dude, it is no dream.
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