post rehab relapsing brother that's staying with me.....

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  • hearingimpared
    hearingimpared Posts: 21,137
    edited January 2010
    Well it's a start.
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  • headrott
    headrott Posts: 5,496
    edited January 2010
    I think you are doing things in a good way Brett. It's good to see you are actively finding out if he's OK, yet letting your brother "do his own thing". That's the best you can do until he proves he wants to try something different.

    Greg
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    Taken from a recent Audioholics reply regarding "Club Polk" and Polk speakers:
    "I'm yet to hear a Polk speaker that merits more than a sentence and 60 seconds discussion." :\
    My response is: If you need 60 seconds to respond in one sentence, you probably should't be evaluating Polk speakers.....

    "Green leaves reveal the heart spoken Khatru"- Jon Anderson

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  • brettw22
    brettw22 Posts: 7,624
    edited January 2010
    To the point that others have made that there needs to be no one to sponge off of.....I don't know that will ever happen. His entire life has been making the rounds of friends/family (never me with the past month exception) and he always seems to find someone to stay with (now a sober person that's been through the rehab he went to).

    I know he wants better. While he was at my place he applied for school funding for art school (photography) and I think that's the first time he actually had a plan started to accomplish what he wanted. He'll never be a rigidly structured type of person (severe resentment for being locked down by 10 years probation for breaking into cars when he was kicked out of the house when he was 17 and forging checks, etc) and he doesn't want any job that would dictate to him how he can be (sometimes I hear him talk and I just want to punch him in the face).

    His choices have dictated he have a rough life, and it's difficult to have to kick him out knowing that really for the first time ever, he had actively done a few things to move towards his goal of being independent.

    I have a voicemail message that he left on Saturday night (after his initial drunk texting of the law recognizing him as a resident) that is the saddest thing I've ever heard in my life. I don't think I've ever cried to the point of getting a migraine because I was in tears every time just the thought of this situation popped into my head. I had to call my boss and ask them if they could find someone else to fill in for my trip next week. I'm embarrassed to let personal stuff enter work stuff, but I have to make sure that all is well at home before I stay gone for as much as I will be coming up soon. If i could upload a voicemail from Verizon I'd do that.....

    Anyways, I'm planning on meeting up with him on Saturday to see how he's doing. Should be interesting to see how he's done this week.
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  • hearingimpared
    hearingimpared Posts: 21,137
    edited January 2010
    Hang in there Brett.
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  • brettw22
    brettw22 Posts: 7,624
    edited January 2010
    I'm good now......just trying to get to bed while my phone was being bombed on Saturday night was difficult......

    I don't know how much better his situation could possibly get in a weeks time, but hopefully the guy he's staying with is hardnosed enough to make him recognize that his **** needs to stop....
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