The Greatest

DSkipDSkip Posts: 16,221
On October 10, my grandmother, one of the greatest women I've known, passed away.
Greatness is not a unique quality. It is not guaranteed to be relative or absolute. It can be determined by historic ideologies, current trends, or simply by comparison. It holds different meanings of varying degrees for different people. Sometimes though, greatness cannot be denied.

She was not great because she was my grandmother. That was great for me, but had no merit on who she was.

She was not great because I loved her. Loving someone does not add relevance to a person’s character.

She was great because that was all she could be.

When she spoke, she spoke from the heart. When she listened, she did not cast judgment, but expressed her own views on the matters.

When she met someone new, they instantly became family. A first name basis was not necessary as many didn’t even know her legal name. Her door was always open and food always ready to be served with a moment’s notice.

When she did something, she did it because she wanted to do it. However, all she wanted to do was share her love with any who would have it.

When she faced adversity, she stood strong as the true matriarch of our family. She never showed favoritism. She never gave up on others when they struggled. She always lent a hand to those who needed it, even if she needed it more.

When she faced death, she asked for forgiveness for what little ill she had done in life. With great humility, she admitted to God that she does not feel worthy to be in his presence.

My memories are not grand stories though there are plenty. They are not of great trips or special events. They are simple memories like sharing a couch and blanket with her as a 4 year old or being greeted with a warm hug before getting through the front door, or seeing the joy in here eyes as she played with my children. All of my memories revolve around her unquestionable and unconditional love.

Her love and humility resemble what is best in human nature. She was and always will be the essence of greatness.

I sat down to write this on December 9, 2015. For our family, it was our time to say goodbye to Nanny. She was in pain and ready to make that passage. It was a painful night, but nothing compared to the following day. The next morning, my first wife Stephanie passed away.

I remember calling my Dad to tell him the news. I remember taking care of what needed to be taken care of for my immediate family. Then, I remember my dad telling me that Nanny was no longer willing to make that passage.

For almost four more years, Nanny shared her life with us so we could share ours with her. She suffered longer so we wouldn’t have to suffer as much. In the face of death and an eternal life in Heaven, she CHOSE to spend this time with us to make OUR lives easier. If that doesn’t’ exemplify greatness, I’m not sure what does.

She was great. And we are all better off for having known her.


  • pglbookpglbook Posts: 1,763
    Skip, very sorry for your loss. Thanks for sharing your beautiful tribute to unquestionably a very special and beautiful human being. Her spirit and love shine through every one of your words and will remain in your (and your family's) heart forever.
  • jeremymarcinkojeremymarcinko Posts: 3,494
    Sorry for your loss.
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  • indyhawgindyhawg Posts: 1,341
    Skip- So sorry for your loss. That it an awesome tribute written for your grandmother. She definitely left a lasting legacy with you. I lost my grandmother 13 years ago and I still think of her every day. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family in this difficult time.
  • displaynamedisplayname Posts: 468
    edited October 16
    Thanks for sharing Skip, and deeply sorry for the loss. She was clearly a great woman. It's obvious by what you're written that she taught you lessons the will guide your daily life. I wish the best for you and the rest of the family!
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  • ClipdatClipdat Posts: 7,248
    Thank you for sharing your tribute, and may she rest in peace.
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  • tonybtonyb Posts: 31,642
    Sorry to hear this Skip, my condolences pal.
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  • MilitoMilito Posts: 631
    Very nice tribute to your Grandmother, Skip. Very sorry for your loss. R.I.P.
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  • polrbehrpolrbehr Posts: 2,419
    Bless her for staying with you during your time of sadness. I can't imagine a more
    selfless act from any one person than that. May she rest in peace now.

    So, are you willing to put forth a little effort or are you happy sitting in your skeptical poo pile?
  • westmassguywestmassguy Posts: 6,448
    So sorry Skip
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  • dkfreebirddkfreebird Posts: 1,106
    Sorry for your loss Skip. Prayers sent for you and your family.
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  • HermitismHermitism Posts: 2,584
    Well written Skip!

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  • nooshinjohnnooshinjohn Posts: 21,511
    DSkip wrote: »
    She IS great. And we are all better off for having known her.

    Fixed... she is with you now and always my friend. May God bless you and your family now and always.
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  • boston1450boston1450 Posts: 6,503
    Sorry for your loss Skip & family
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  • DSkipDSkip Posts: 16,221
    edited October 16
    Thanks gents.
    polrbehr wrote: »
    Bless her for staying with you during your time of sadness. I can't imagine a more
    selfless act from any one person than that. May she rest in peace now.


    I debated sharing because I don’t really need or desire condolences. This singular act is really what I wanted to share - the desire to live through your worst to relieve those around you. It’s such a remarkable and selfless act that it deserves mentioning.
  • verbverb Posts: 8,010
    Thanks for sharing Skip.

    Not knowing her, but after reading your lovely tribute, my heart goes out, a bit of anguish yes, but mostly pride and joy realizing she was a great person here on earth, and is most certainly welcome through the gates of heaven.

    Only meeting you briefly, she certainly did a wonderful job on her grandson. Take care brother, and be joyous!
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  • joecoulsonjoecoulson Posts: 3,613
    Something bigger than all of us at work.
    Thank You God for being in her heart.
    Thank You for sharing Skip. Sorry for the family’s loss
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  • Mike ReeterMike Reeter Posts: 3,534
    What a Remarkable person your Grandmother was, may she Rest In Peace..
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  • pitdogg2pitdogg2 Posts: 14,734
    What an amazing lady Skip.
    Please accept my condolences and thanks for sharing.
  • Joey_VJoey_V Posts: 7,078
    Sorry skip
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  • tophatjohnnytophatjohnny Posts: 2,681
    Sorry D. May she rest in peace. Sounded like an amazing woman.
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  • DabutcherDabutcher Posts: 2,132
    Thanks for sharing. Sorry for your loss. Peace. D
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  • DaveHoDaveHo Posts: 2,470
    Sorry for your loss. Sounds like a amazing woman.
  • steveinazsteveinaz Posts: 19,070
    Lovely thing that you wrote for Grandma. Sorry for your loss.
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  • rooftop59rooftop59 Posts: 5,982
    May your grandmother now find rest near to the heart of God.
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  • afterburntafterburnt Posts: 5,838
    Skip you are very fortunate to have had her in your life.
  • JayCeeJayCee Posts: 610
    Great tribute, greater lady. The world needs more grandmothers like her.
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  • gudnoyezgudnoyez Posts: 7,048
    Sorry to hear this Skip, great tribute indeed.
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  • PSOVLSKPSOVLSK Posts: 4,137
    Wow! What a well written and heartfelt tribute. I bet you’re able to find comfort in your own words. Thoughts and prayers sent to you and your family.
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  • machonemachone Posts: 1,134
    Sorry for yor loss. You have great memories.
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